ok so me and this girl have been best friends for 3 years...then one day i told her i was gonna sit with my other best friend erika at lunch for one day and she freaked out! she wrote me a letter saying alot of bad stuff "shed been bottling up" ..i was pissed! and then today she sent me a letter saying ho w much she loves me and how much shes sorry, i was like "awwww" lol but "someone" told me not to beleive it and w/e. do i 4give her or what?!
2006-10-18 07:36:50 · 24 answers · asked by Woman. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well as a best friend you should speak to her because there is obviously more than that problem. She is your best friend, you owe it to her.
2006-10-18 07:38:49 · answer #1 · answered by jessigirl00781 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a bad day. Do you want to be the kind of friend to hold a grudge when your friend freaks out, or do you want to be the kind of friend who is willing to get to the bottom of some seemingly irrational behavior and possibly help out a friend with some issues (like insecurity, as someone else pointed out).
She's not just your friend, you are her friend too -- it's a two way street.
Or she could just be manipulative and evil, but if you were friends for three years and you hadn't figured that out until now...?
But three years of friendship deserves at least a second chance. What have you got to lose?
2006-10-18 14:48:32 · answer #2 · answered by dsr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you have invited her to join you and Erika? "Hey best friend of 3 years, let's go eat with Erika today." If the two of you always eat lunch together she was probably hurt..you sort of kicked her to the curb. Of course she handled it poorly but then so did you. If the stuff she wrote had any truth to it.... then learn from it and be friends again. If she just cut you to the quick and said mean things for the sake of being mean.. you can still apologize for not inviting her to join you, but if she doesn't apologize for what she wrote to you, then I'd put some distance between us if I were you.
2006-10-18 14:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by D F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things between girls can get really messed up really, really quickly, especially if you're young. I'd say she's probably just a little jealous, probably a little worried about the friendship anyway. Maybe this someone who told you not to believe it has been spreading gossip about you to her as well. Talk to her directly, don't believe what other people say. If you truly are good friends, you'll put all this behind you and laugh about it some day.
2006-10-18 14:40:09 · answer #4 · answered by Manicbrit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe u should encourage her to be friends with the other friend too. Then you can be three to face the world instead of two.
She sounds like she has self esteem issues and thought after being with this friend you weren't want to be friends with her anymore. Yeah forgive her. That person said not to forgive doesn't know whats really going on.
2006-10-18 14:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you forgive her! She is your friend, maybe she had pms or something, or as said by someone else, very insecure. Some times people have a hard time having more than one best friend. Maybe next time invite your friend to sit with you and your other friend too.
2006-10-18 14:40:41 · answer #6 · answered by hopetohelpyou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was jealous of your friendship with this other girl. She said she was sorry and if she was your best friend for that long you should forgive her and move on. If she does it again, you can assume that she wants you to be HER friend and no one else and she is not willing to share you with anyone. She has low self esteem issues.
2006-10-18 14:40:14 · answer #7 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, even though you are are friends, the true friends are not the ones that are back stabbers like the one that it seems that your friend has portrayed...I would 4give and let go...hold your enemies close...
2006-10-18 14:47:36 · answer #8 · answered by Proud AP! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems your friend is jealous of your other friends. She doesn;t want you to be friends with others only be around her. You need your life and you have other friends as well as she does. if she does not like the fact that you have other friends then she is not called a friend to you. Best friends care for one another and are there for one another. They do not get mad cause you have other friends at all.
2006-10-18 14:41:21 · answer #9 · answered by LadySonia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forgive her. it was a freak occurance (im not calling her a freak, just in case it came off that way). it was nothing, an overreaction. if you wigged out and did that, wouldn't you want to be forgiven? you have to give your friend the same courtesy. email me if you need more advice. good luck.
2006-10-18 14:39:14 · answer #10 · answered by Luv Docta Jay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your friend is insecure about your relationship. She reacted without thinking and later realized her mistake. If you feel like she's a friend worth keeping, you should accept her apology but make it clear to her that you won't allow yourself to be abused in the future.
2006-10-18 14:38:07 · answer #11 · answered by gadalian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋