Boyfriends x-wife continues to intimidate me and make me feel very uncomfortable at his sister house. She feels she has the upper hand because of her connection with the sister. I have let her know how I feel but it doesnt seem to bother her. She continues to kill me with kindness in her own twisted way. How do I get back at her????
2006-10-18 07:24:16 · 12 answers · asked by jammiep67 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Stay the fu*k away form the sisters house. Why go through that **** - You with the man not his sister - If you want to be friends with the sister let her visit you at your home. That will eat her up when she can't see you to bug you. It'll be better for you to out of sight out of mind.
2006-10-18 07:27:45 · answer #1 · answered by Jazz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not just find a man without a toxic ex-wife? This seems like a total waste of time to me. Do you really want to spend your life thinking up ways to one-up some other woman? No one can "make" you feel anything- you choose your own emotions.
2006-10-18 07:27:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a spot -- for sure. She does have the "upper hand". You say she's "killing you with kindness". I wish you'd explained that a bit more indepth, but I'll try to imagine what she's doing as best I can.
Getting "even" is NOT going to help you, and it will ONLY put you in a VERY BAD LIGHT if you are discovered! So, don't do anything mean or vengful !
The only thing you can do is be a GOOD PERSON. I know that's not the answer you want, but it will work in the long run!
You have to show yourself as a good, kind person who loves her husband & his kids if he has any. (Never ever try to BE THEIR MOTHER or interfere with her place in their lives!!!)
It will take time, but others will and are noticing that she is baiting you with "kindness" and they are watching both of you to see who is the GOOD PERSON and who is the MEAN person. But everytime this happens you must ask yourself, "Do I want to lower MYSELF to HER LEVEL or do I want to be the person my parents raised ???" And, MOST OF ALL, remember -- HE DIVORCED HER !!!!! And he is with you and HE LOVES YOU !!! If you want him, DON'T TURN INTO HER !!!! bEST wISHES! Barbie
If this helps most, please vote mine best Answer. Again, Best Wishes !!!
2006-10-18 07:41:20 · answer #3 · answered by BARBIE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should never let her know that shes getting to you. Smile. And show her that you know how to keep a man. Just be yourself, evidently shes the one with an inferior complex if shes hanging out with her ex-family. If that dont work just throw garbage out in her yard every time you pass her house. That always helps me feel better.
2006-10-18 07:35:19 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. Why do you feel you have to? If you do, then you're playing her game! You've got the man, what else is there to say?
2006-10-18 07:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by Jenintn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her get the best of you.If she feels you are secure with your relationship she will leave you alone.
2006-10-18 07:31:24 · answer #6 · answered by DEBO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue to be the bigger person and she will see why she got dumped in the first place.
2006-10-18 07:27:49 · answer #7 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do what you feel like play around with in front of her
2006-10-18 07:30:22 · answer #8 · answered by DC all day moniemonie1234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wel l just remember that what ever you do to others will eventually come back to you.now what should you do ? not a damn thing.leave her alone.
2006-10-18 07:29:40 · answer #9 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just continue to be you...don't stoop to her level...he is your s now.that s what kills her..so she reacts to you like that...its sad that people have to be so vendictive...
2006-10-18 07:32:03 · answer #10 · answered by debbie l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋