can someone tell me how it "completes" your life, and does it get boring?
2006-10-18 07:17:49 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Not as nice as being happily divorced and living with someone else.
2006-10-18 07:29:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It feels like my life is complete now, not because he is in it, but because he complements it. We are into the same games, same shows, we laugh over the same stupid jokes, and when we each peeve the other off we both feel like we can talk about it rather than fight like little toddlers. This is more a mature relationship and we are on a level that I had heard about, but never lived......until now. And no, it is not boring in or out of the bedroom and yes we still have lots and lots to talk about. He is my bestfriend as I am his. We keep reassuring eachother even though neither of us need it. We never leave eachother angry or go to bed angry. And the words I love you are said continually all day, not when we think the other needs to hear it, it's when we want to say it. And nothing is better than knowing when he walks by, he rubs my shoulder or head or back and that's one of the most reassuring things about my relationship. And in bed, we do not face opposite walls, we always snuggle, or at least get close to the other. When he knows he'll be late, he calls to tell me. In the end, I know in my heart that I found my soulmate and that's another reason why I feel completed.
2006-10-18 07:37:04 · answer #2 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I for one and the rest of my whole family always felt I was never cut out for marraige. I led too fast a life - but then things happened and I met and married a lovely girl and that is twenty years ago. We have two fantastic sons in their teens and she loves me much more then I can ever reciprocate. I have cheated on her a number of times but have always been forgiven; she stood like a rock when I was battling with cancer and made me realise how lucky I was. Any other woman would have left me a long time ago and I would not have blamed her. I would say, instead of my moulding her to my way, she has moulded me into "our" way of thinking and doing things together has made it a complete life. As far a boring - we both understand each other so well that we talk on subjects that we both really enjoy and with our two sons, life is never boring.
2006-10-18 08:18:02 · answer #3 · answered by livingonthinice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like it because as a team of two productive, responsible adults, we can really accomplish a lot. We both make decent money because we've worked hard our whole lives and we built careers for ourselves long before we ever met. So now, we work together toward common goals and rely on each other's strengths while working to help each other's weaknesses.
Together, as a team, we can accomplish so much more than I could as an individual.
If you are fortunate enough to find someone who is confident, capable, responsible, and who shares the same dreams and goals as you do, that's a really good start.
Working together toward the same goals is much easier if you share those goals....lol!
The closeness we share and the acheivements we celebrate together bring us closer and keep encouraging us to work as a team. It's working so well for us, there's no reason to question it and every reason to keep working harder to make it even better.
There's still time for each of us to be individuals, but we really shine as 'us' too!
2006-10-18 07:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by wrdsmth495 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever been up all night talking to your best friend?
Imagine having your best friend with you every night. Imagine being able to talk to your best friend about anything, even things that you might not talk to your best friend about now.
Imagine being able to hold hands, kiss and share your love with someone who returns that love in kind.
Imagine having someone there to share life with.
No it does not get boring. My wife and I have been married for four years a few days ago and it is just as great as ever.
All of those imaginings are what makes my marriage so wonderful. That is what being happily married is all about.
Take care,
Troy
2006-10-18 07:25:30 · answer #5 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been living with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years, and i have to say it doesnt get boring at all....every day is a new day, and every day i love him more....he is like my best friend and my soul mate, we hope to get married next summer nad our first child is due any day now....when we first moved in it wa strange, and i guess we had to get used to some things about each other, but everything is fine, i love him very much and he loves me very much....his parents have been together 33 years, and are still very happy together as well :) and the best thing about living with my partner, is sex, whenever and where-ever we like ;) if you got someone and you feel its the right time go for it...i'm not bored, i love it, and i'm only 23 ;)
2006-10-18 07:23:31 · answer #6 · answered by deni 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband didn't complete my life. It was whole to begin with. If he completed my life I would have had no room for kids.
Anyway, being happily married is like having your best friend(with benefits) living with you. Wouldn't trade it for the world.
2006-10-18 07:22:57 · answer #7 · answered by momofmodi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it like it's like touching something that your hands could never feel.
It's knowing that no matter what, there is a person who understands you and accepts you for every failure and success, and in return by accepting the gesture you give the same.
It's about recongition of how much compromise has to take place in order to not make one happy but two, and knowing that if one is not happy, then neither are.
It's about responsibility, and the respect of yourself so that you may grow with your mate without becoming stagnant.
But most of all I will sum it up
When I once asked my husband why he loved me, he said I refuse to generalize my love for you with reasons, when I know it really has nothing to do with you, but more so with me.
He said I love you because just by loving you, I love myself. I do not have to pretend to be something other than I am with you. You accept me completely, in which helps me accept myself completely.
So really your mate is the mirror that pushes you to see your own reflection of who you are, so that you can love yourself, even as you pick his nasty socks off the floor, hide the checkbook, erase his porn sites off the computer, and contemplate ways of burying his body underneath the porch.
You wanted to know, As we all know ttheir is a negative, and a positive to everything, it is how we grow.
I wish you well
I
2006-10-18 07:37:37 · answer #8 · answered by fryedaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
happily married has a different meaning for each and every person. what is perfect for one, may not be perfect for another.
i am happily married. yes my husband never puts the seat down, throws his clothes on the floor, leaves socks all over the house, never washes the dishes, watches porn, has pictures of naked women all over his walls and drinks his beer everyday. but i love him. he was like this before i married him, before we were boyfriend and girlfriend. I am not here to change him, nor is he here to change me. as for boring, never. there are times when i wish it was boring. but then again...maybe not.
2006-10-18 07:34:06 · answer #9 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's lame when people say someone 'completes' their life cause it means they can't have a 'whole' one on their own. however you can be very happy living/married to someone. i live with my boyfriend and it's great cause i get to cuddle up with him every night :)
2006-10-18 07:20:45 · answer #10 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋