O.k. I have this gut feeling that my husban is cheating on me?

Question

He has been out of town all week to go a training for his work and well....I just get this weird feeling that he somehow is cheating on me? He doesn't call...when he does it is touch and go...we don't really talk? That is not like him....yesterday when I went shopping he called and I told him that I was looking at furniture and I told him the price and he said buy it! WHAT? He does not do that? He cringes when I spend money...So to spend a $1000 (on which we have...not a problem) he says go head and buy it!

I don't know what to do...last year when i was out of town for a week he told me that he went to a lot of porn sites and that he felt bad for it....I never thought that he would cheat on me...but, he just doesn't want to talk to me...even just to tell me hi...

Someone please tell me what is going on...because I sure have no clue what that is...

Answer 1

While I can't say for sure he is cheating ; I do think that you should pay attention to your gut instincts. They say a woman who feels her husband is cheating is usually right. Make sure that you have evidence before making any moves. If he has a porn addiction he may be spending time at the strip club while he is out on business.
I know alot of married men that go for out of town training and often use it as an opportunity to become "frat boys" for that time.
Then they go home and act like they went to bed early every night like they were going to go to church.

I hope that you didn't buy the furniture but put the money in a secret account. Just in case.

Answer 2

I work in an industry that keeps me away from home 2 weeks out of the month. This schedule has def caused problems with me and my GF of almost 3 years now. When I come to work.. i am here to work. We work 7 days a week 12 hours a day. I'm not real big on long phone calls, and usually prefer to watch a TV show and then get some sleep.I work with a couple attractive and successful women in the office and, since we have so much time on the job together, we are very good friends.

THis is my job.. it's what I do for a living. It is how I pay for the house, the entertainment, her car, the phone... everything. It is not easy, but it is what I have to do. Our biggest fights happen when I come home and I am accused of cheating on her with my co-workers. In fact, I have not even been able to have them over on our off time without my GF making a big scene about it.

What finally did it was when I explained to her that I never question what she does while I am away. I love her and loving her means that I also trust her. I then asked her to not tell me that she loves me unless she also trusts me. I suggest you think about that same thing in this situation, and if you find that you are only trying to kid yourself about loving this guy, then be honest about it and find someone you really do love. You can't say you love someone if you don't trust them.

Let the guy go on a trip, blow off some steam and enjoy being out without anyone nagging him. Jumping all over him about cheating is no way to strengthen your relationship. If he's cheating on you, it's going t surface at some point.

That being said. I have never cheated on my GF. Normally, with my friends at work, I share stories about her and I together and talk about the things we plan on doing together when I get back home. Not ALL guys are cheaters.

Answer 3

I'm sorry to tell you ma'am but he's cheating,and you know what they say whatever your first mind tells you that's a gut feeling and if you have a gut feeling that he's cheating then you are so right.I had a gut feeling about my ex-fiancee my daughter's dad and it was bad he was cheating and got the other girl pregnant,and was expecting me to stay he cried like a girl when I left him.When you move on always move forward the best is yet to come.And I guarantee you will find happiness I'm married to a wonderful person who takes very good care of my daughter and I and I don't ask for nothing and he was brought up to take care of his family.And he's a well-known Muslim man who's respectful and doesn't have a problem with taking care of his family,and he takes me out everywhere and the fun never stops.

Answer 4

First of all you really should ask yourself this question and answer yourself as honestly as you possibly can.

"do I REALLY want to know if he's cheating on me?"

While I don't feel that cheating is in any way acceptable, you're going to hear all these "dump him, he's not worth it" stuff. Which you know as well as I do, it's easier said than done. You have your family to consider, your children if you have any. Are you willing to throw it all away for a lack of good judgment? Now if he has another relationship on the side that's a whole different area, but I'm not going to go into that one here.

Second thing you should ask yourself is if you do choose to keep him if you find he's unfaithful will you ever be able to trust him again? Will you be able to let him go to the grocery store by himself or work late without putting yourself through worry "what if he's out with HER" or putting him through hell making him feel like he's doing something wrong when all he's doing is going out for a gallon of milk. Accusing him of cheating just because he wants to go for a jog to clear his head. (My aunt does this, and they are BOTH miserable, better divorced I say)

Once you can answer question number one, and find out the answer, ask question number two then proceed to find a private investigator and start the divorce proceedings.

Answer 5

You already know that somethings going on; you just have to decide how your going to prove it and most of all what would you do if you confirmed that he was cheating. Are you a work-it-out type of person or no tolerance type. It doesn't sound like things are that great now and I"m sure you don't want it to continue. That's no fun and lifes too short to be unhappy. By the way. I'm a no tolerance person and my husband knows it. I'm not too attached to him or any house to put up with that crap for anybody. It works

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Save that $1000.00 for something the two of you can enjoy together, such as a weekend away. Or go to an adult store and spend the entire $1000.00 there. Use what you buy to spice things up so he won't want to cheat on you. You'd be surprised what you'll find in a place like that!!

Answer 8

It doesn't mean he's cheating. But he could be. I suggest you find out where he's staying, take a few days off, and fly out there to spend a few days with him. If he's cheating you should be able to find out that way. It sounds like he's getting paid more than he used to. Maybe he said buy it because now he is making more money, and he thinks you can afford it.

Answer 9

I think he is up to no good, but since he is letting you spend the money hire a private investigater to get proof. You can find one in your area in the yellow pages. Don't leave no clues laying around that you are doing this, like leaving the phone book open on the page or paying with a joint credit card.

Answer 10

Your question doesnt exactly sound like he is cheating, although his strange behaviour is definitely a sign that something is in the air. One thing that I have found that works wonders is phone sex. When my honey or I have to go out of town, we set aside time for each other, we are honest and we spend at least one hour of each day on the phone. Sometimes it is phone sex, sometimes it is just what happened that day. Good Luck!