i get really pissed b/c i do not like this woman that my boyfriend talks to, he really liked her and they broke up over a year ago but yet here she is again and they are talking and i get pissed..just hoping im not alone here...
2006-10-18 07:12:54 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i have dreams about this woman of whom i do not like, i am constantly thinking about it, it drives me f***ing nuts. and guess what, she lives about 15 blocks from my b/f and my apartment, seeing as how now they go to the same school. how fun is that. any suggestions on how i can get this b**** out of my head and out of our lives?
2006-10-18 07:16:51 · update #1
they have no children, i say why does he need to talk to her, i feel very threatened by this woman and i literally hate her but he sees it as no big deal, they are just friends, i have talked to him and he knows i hate the tramp yet he thinks it will be ok to talk when i am not there so i dont get mad, i would rather have him talk to the skank when i am there then behind my back. i hate this woman and he doesnt seem to understand i have talked to him and told him i dont like it but they still talk occasionally. we have been together for a year and a 1/2..there is no getting out of the relationship, i love him & i know he loves me -we plan to be married but i cant seem to let go of this ****...
2006-10-18 07:27:41 · update #2
i give him everything he needs, but "they are just friends" bull, i dont talk to any of my ex's why does he feel the need to talk to his? OVER -look it up -finished done ended i think that says it all i just get frustrated as hell..
2006-10-18 07:35:27 · update #3
I would be mad too. If the relationship is over, why does he need to talk to her? Let him know how you feel, if he really loves you, he'll understand your feelings.
2006-10-18 07:18:45 · answer #1 · answered by KayGeeTX 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been in the same situation as you, and yes, I was pissed! He was with me, he didn't need to be talking to an ex if I was the one he loved, you know what I mean? I would understand if it was another girl that he never had feeling for, but that fact that he really liked her (or in my case dated her for a year) then it's totally different! Mine still had feeling for his ex. We ended up breaking up (I dumped him) and just recently I found out he went back with his ex. So, be careful! Talk to him about it...tell him how you feel, and that you don't like him talking to her. If he stops, then he really loves you...if not, I'd say bye bye!
Good luck and I wish you the best!
2006-10-18 07:19:47 · answer #2 · answered by Huliganjetta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is disrespectful if it is something that bothers you.
On occasion all parties in a relationship are mature enough to handle it... the boyfriend who is really just friends with exes, the ex with no ulterior motives, and the current who is friends with the exes and/or trusts enough, and is correct in trusting to not be bothered by it. But this is extremely rare, and because it doesn't seem to be human nature, the most important thing is to keep you current happy, because that's who you love and that's who you want to be there for you when the time comes.
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2006-10-18 07:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by leavemealonestalker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm, my BF doesn't talk to his unless something's happened. She called when he was jumped once and she called after her Mom saw him after a car accident but other than that, they don't "chat" or whatever. I personally feel that as long as they're not really talking a lot, not hanging out with each other and just generally making sure the other is ok, there's nothing wrong with that. However, if you are uncomfortable, speak up! Tell him he probably wouldn't like it if you were talking to your ex and you'd appreciate if he doesn't talk to his!
2006-10-18 07:16:14 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't like it either, but since they also have a kid together I have no choice. Don't mind chit chats about their kid, but when it comes to them talking about their relationships (him with me, and her with her b/f) I find it really no one elses businesses and that's when I get pissed. Told him if I catch him talking about me one more time, and I leave. That was over a year ago, and so far he has not been so stupid as to repeat this mistake. Now if I can just get her to stop calling us and blatting about her b/f and their problems, then all would be a-ok with life.
2006-10-18 07:18:20 · answer #5 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am married man and i dont keep any relation with any of my exs. So my wife has nothing to feel bad even if she has given me permissio that i can meet and talk with any of my ex girl friends . But i know my wife has made me so satisfied that i never feel like having that.She cares me a lot . I think you are are lacking there and thats why he is still having his time passed with her ex girl friend making you sit alone
2006-10-18 07:22:35 · answer #6 · answered by soofi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my man does not, however I am still best friends with my ex~ his mother is the baby sitter of my new man's and my baby. Sometimes it isn't worth getting upset. If you know where your man's heart is, then you shouldn't be worried, unless of course, it isn't with you. My ex will join us for dinner quite often. About three times a week. My husband and him have a couple of beers while I make dinner. Who cares ~ my husband knows I love him and there is no reason to be jealous. Do you want him picking out your friends?
2006-10-18 07:17:28 · answer #7 · answered by JUNONNKI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband doesn't and didn't while we were just dating, but he's a very stubborn person. Once you're gone / they broke up, he NEVER looks back. He's bitter like that... so in cases like this, I guess that's a good thing. As opposed to staying friends!
Sorry you're dealing with this. Just be honest with him and see how he reacts. My feelings would be hurt, for sure!
2006-10-18 07:18:40 · answer #8 · answered by Jamie D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very hurt and angry if my boyfriend kept in contact with his ex, the only exception is if they have a child/children togather.
I would explain to him how this makes you feel and maybe you guys can work this out,if not this relationship may be doomed.
I wish you luck.
Morgaine
2006-10-18 07:19:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate it, but I know my boyfriend very well, and I know he won't do anything that would hurt me. It is really my own insecurity and jealousy that I need to overcome, or work through. :)
I understand your situation though. He is playing with fire because she still likes him. Just let him know how you feel (I'm sure you have). He must like the attention from her, or from other women. That's men for ya...
2006-10-18 07:29:06 · answer #10 · answered by Rosseau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋