Why if your husband says he loves you he flirts constantly with other women?

Question

Why if your husband says he loves you he flirts constantly with other women?
I feel bad because This happens almost always. My husband says he loves me but anyhow he has a chance he looks and flirts with other women.
I talk to him about it and he says that he doesn´t do anything bad........That maybe it is everything in my mind. I have talked about this topic with him almost always when this happens........
I feel and that I don´t feel all the expectation he could need and that´s why he is doing it periodicadly! I asked him and he answered as always "That he loves me and he is happy with me in the way I am"
I feel very sad, and very stupid.

Answer 1

he doesn't respect you. Do the same and see how he feels. If he doesn't care dump him

Answer 2

I got married at 17 and have been married for ten years to the same man. My husband is a big flirt, but this is how I loOK at it- that is his personality and I knew that before we married. I feel like just because you are married, doesn't mean that you are dead or blind. As long as your husband is not crossing the line, a little flirting is healthy. My advice is not to nag him too much about it because if you start accusing him of cheating, then if all he is doing really is flirting, then he may want to take it further. You should really sit down and have a heart to heart with him let him know what kind of flirting is OK with you and take it from there? By the way flirting should never involve touching another when you are married and a husband should never discuss him married relationship with a female friend. He should only discuss that part of his life with his wife. Speaking with a friend of the opposite sex about you personal life with your spouse could possibly result in a mental affair, which I feel is as bad as a physical affair.
Just ask yourself- Do you trust him? Do you think that all he is doing is flirting? If you answer yes, then it should be ok. Trust your gut about stuff like this. If you honestly feel something is wrong, then it may be, but hopefully not. Good luck!

Answer 3

Honey he isn't happy with you. If he was he wouldn't want to look or flirt with other women . He is telling you what you wanted to hear. I been in your spot before and i confronted my husband and he said same thing that he loves the way i am. and he would never cheat on me. When he looks at these woman what do you think is running threw his mind. If he is lusting after these woman. then he has already cheated on you. In the bible you can't lust after someone. My husband straighten up when i had my third child. I was in so much pain. That he thought i was dieing and it flash before his eyes that he couldn't leave without me and he told me everything and that he was sorry. Now he can't get enough of me. But it took over 8 years to realize that I'm the one he wants and don't want anybody else. Tell him if he don't straighten up and quit what he is doing tell him you are going to leave him and what he is doing to you is hurting you very much and that you cry every night. and you are tired of living this way. You might have to leave for a few days about a week and see if he becomes a change.man. If he don't that's mean he doesn't really care about what you are feeling. It worth a shot.

Answer 4

My husband is a very nice man. For the longest time I would get very upset over his treatment of other women, thinking he was flirting all the time. Then, really, I began to realize he actually is just nice. Others may take it as flirting, and it may *be* flirting, but he does not mean anything by it. He honestly doesn't. If you think your husband is the type to flirt because he wants that person, rather than liking the attention/being nice and is "flirting" to get romantically close to them, then maybe you should take a step back. That said, men and women have *very* different ideas of what constitutes flirting. Most likely, it isn't anything to worry about.

Answer 5

There are two interpretations for men flirting, the female one and the male one.

Women think we are out to pull anyone who will give us the time of day. True when we're single, but when we've committed ourselves nothing could be further from the truth. For the male interpretation is:

If I flirt with all these gorgeous girlies, my partner will appreciate all the more that I chose them!

It's another classic example of poor communication between the sexes: Women want to talk about the reasoning behind men's actions, men don't!

Answer 6

You are being too tolerant. That behavior is unacceptable. The flirtation will eventual escalate to more. It is inevitable. There wouldn't be anything wrong with his behavior if he were single! Why should he be trying so hard to make another woman smile while his own wife is so sad.
He is showing you disrespect and that is not love.
Tell him to knock it off or kick him out.
Don't be afraid to stand your ground in this instance. You are JUSTIFIED.
Of course he is going to put it on you --he doesn't want to behave.
He is playing a head game by trying to make you think you are paranoid and over-reacting. You aren't. I bet the more you persist in compliaining ---the louder he gets in an effort to subdue you and aleviate his own guilt. Don't fall for it. This is a typical tactic from a 10 year old and he is behaving as one.
Bone up! If you don't stop this ; IT WILL GET WORSE!

Answer 7

Basically men are not strong like us and need to have their fragile egos stroked constantly. Even though he is happy with you he needs to feel that he is still attractive to other women, that he hasn't 'lost it'. Many men do this and do not betray their wives, they are happy in the knowledge that they could if they wanted to. However, i don't know in your husbands particular case. I think it is unacceptable that he does this while you are there though. It is not respectful behaviour and you may feel stupid but other people will think HE looks pretty damn stupid, particularly the women he is flirting with. Talk to him, let him know how it makes you feel and how it makes him look. Personally i am happy for my boyfriend to flirt when he is out as long as i am not there and he doesn't act on it. i don't know if he does or not but it doesn't bother me if i can't see it.

Answer 8

Flirting is human nature, it's what we do! The problem is your confidence/self-esteem. If you are comfortable in your skin, then flirting wouldn't matter. The thing is, he's with you. He chose to be with you. That's a lot, but not enough. If you want the same attention, do something to wow him. Get a new hair style/cut. Buy a new dress. Do something fun or exciting, that will lift your spirits. Basically, you need to find you.

Answer 9

You know, some people are just natural flirts. Some people flirt and not even know it (this very well could be your hubby for instance). Some people have low self-esteem and think everything their hubby / wife does is cheating, flirting, etc. If you feel this bad, then continue talking to him about it, but try to get over it if it really is just innocence on his part or you may push him into flirting for real which can turn into full-fledged cheating.

Answer 10

Well for one he could really love you but, not be pleased with yalls relationship and need something more than just "a wife".
Make your love life more intresting , spend more time with him and less time on other things that set you and him aprt. Maybe go out and get your hair done differently , something that'll make him look forward too coming home too you and leave something too the imagination. Don't lose your marriage too something mere as flirting, but don't kill yourself trying too be like the women he flirts with, because your not her.

Answer 11

My husband does not do this and for that I am very grateful. I think your husband lacks respect for you - especially to flirt with you standing right there. I'm not sure how you can change this because he has to want to change his behavior, and more then likely he's really enjoying himself. Don't feel bad or stupid - it's not your problem; it's his. It might not have anything to do with you, but you don't deserve it.