I am either a former employer or someone "very concerned" and that he needs to be drug tested. The email address is anonymous and has no similiarity to my name.
2006-10-18 06:42:04 · 17 answers · asked by KelBean 4 in Computers & Internet ➔ Security
or I could send it at the public library.
2006-10-18 06:48:08 · update #1
If its your fiance then YOU need to talk to him about it.
DO NOT get his employer involved! Why would you want to get him fired? Would you really want to marry someone with a drug problem and who is unemployed?
I dont see a bright future there.
Bottom line:
Even if it is anonymous, DO NOT tell his employer.
2006-10-18 06:53:13 · answer #1 · answered by wildnights 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound terribly desperate to cause this fiance troubles. Haters do stuff like that, sneaky, behind the back things that ruin other people. Is it really a drug test that you feel he is so in need of, or is it a confession from him that he uses that you really need? What is it you expect to accomplish from this little anonymous note? Maybe your fiance will be drug tested, lose his job and realize he needs help? Where does you telling him what a lousy GF you were come in? The fact that you could even think this would be OK should tell you that you need to get out of this relationship. You're not ready to be a wife, a confidant, someone who is there through thick and thin. Your thoughts are nothing less than destructive. Be careful what you wish for and think things through in the future.
BTW, NO, it's not illegal, just unethical and squidly. 2 days ago, your question was "My fiance has dilated pupils, do you think it's drugs?" Get out if this relationship girl, you have no trust in the man, so move on.
2006-10-18 07:02:58 · answer #2 · answered by Cinderella 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be honest, say that you are concerned. You can put your name or not, it is all about what you feel is morally right. If you are concerned, you need to talk to your sweety. If you are afraid, then you need to take a break from him until he is ready to grow up and stop this abuse. This is something you do not want to take into a marriage. You need to be able to tell him after he cleans up that you called/e-mailed his boss. ANY secret you keep will ruin your marriage in the future. Intervention is needed. If you can not do it, then you need to get out, no matter how much you love him. It is love to leave him so he can get the help he needs.
2006-10-18 06:52:49 · answer #3 · answered by krys_tal_light 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is legal, however, it is also poor practice on her part. Particularly the religious thing could potentially lead to a discrimination lawsuit on the basis of religion. Unfortunately, in most places we are not protected from discrimination or harassment based on sexual orientation. If we were, there could potentially be a harassment claim involved. Maybe in the future. Like others have said, if it makes you uncomfortable, I would leave the company. When I left, I would make sure the owner knew exactly why I was leaving. Perhaps, if enough people complained, there would be change in your company.
2016-05-21 23:51:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is anonymous on the internet. If you don't believe me open up the headers of one of your own emails sent to you from a yahoo email address.
Surprise.... it has your ip address, where its being sent from and a whole lot more.
Just because its hidden doesn't make it untracable.
Secondly, if you do ever do anything like what your sugesting, I suggest you make sure your 100% right.
Slander is illegal in most countries.
2006-10-18 07:04:35 · answer #5 · answered by unknown friend 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is the problem? Do you not like his job and want him to lose it or something? If he is your fiance and you do this, you better make sure he never finds out about it because this could ruin your relationship with him. Think about it before you go through with this.
2006-10-18 06:55:26 · answer #6 · answered by jarjrmama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For anyone who replied by insulting your loyalty to your fiance..... until you are in love with someone with a (possible) drug problem.... don't judge. I married one, so I know. Your love for your (addict) partner, put's you in a very difficult place. Anything you have to do to get your loved one help, do it!! I have been honest & upfront, but all you get is denial and lies. I just purchased a drug test and asked him to take it, of course, he refused. I don't know about anonymous email.... but I do know that unless he get's help, and maintains a 12 step or other type of "drug free" lifestyle for at least 6 mos.....DON'T MARRY HIM! Mine was clean and sober for 3 years when we got married, 2 yrs. & 1 baby later, he is back in it. Please don't feel bad or guilty if you do what you need to to keep your fiance (AND YOURSELF) safe!! My prayers and compassion are with you.
2006-10-18 07:39:05 · answer #7 · answered by Lived Life 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First of all that would be a dirty thing to do. I think you should mind your own business.
Is it legal, the individual can sue you for all types of damages as a result of your email including defamation of character.
2006-10-18 06:52:48 · answer #8 · answered by Jazz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just shows how much u trust your fiance
2006-10-18 06:49:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From some of the junk I get I'd say you can e-mail just about anything you want to!
2006-10-18 06:46:20 · answer #10 · answered by tumbleweed1954 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋