me and my b/f broke up for 2 weeks,, we got back together about 3 days ago and while we were broke up he started talking to this pregnant girl,, i found a card in his car from her from while we were on break saying how much she likes him and is happy they're "together",, even though he's with me and not her im still jeaoulous,, we've been together for 1 year and 3 weeks,, we are very much in love,, he asked me to marry him and have kids and everything,, i just wish i could move past this jealous thing,, i want to be happy with him with no interference.
2006-10-18 06:27:06 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Since you just broke up and only got back together a few days ago, you should not be discussing wedding plans. You need time to determine if that is the last time you will break up. You need to make sure that the break up was over something that you both can get over or will it stay between you in the future.
Also, was he serious about this other girl or was that just her? It sounds like she is a fast mover and perhaps that is why she is pregnant as well. It sounds like you need to discuss that relationship with your boyfriend as well.
All signs point towards your needing more time. You need to make sure that your relationship is solid before considering marriage.
You also need to understand why you feel jealous. Is it because she was so easily able to get to him? Is it something about her? Is it because you do not feel that your relationship is solid?
Take care,
Troy
2006-10-18 06:35:43 · answer #1 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you mean suspicious or insecure, not jealous. you only can get jealous over something someone else has that you dont. unless you are jealous shes pregnant and your not. and feel threatened by this and even insecure that its your b/f's child, then in this case you will have all three.-but seriously now, - with relationships i feel each partner should be able to speak freely how they feel about things. and its a partners role to not cause grief to the other- but that means both people. remember same rules for everyone to make it a fair universe. also relationships always have hard times every one in a while, no-ones perfect, so their is bound to be some conflicts, so you will have to take that into consideration when making a judgement of the situation.the rest is up to you. i cant really decide for you, its what you are willing to sacrifice here. but prehaps honesty with your partner helps and vice--versa. so if you are being your true self and they dont like you, then better off out before you get married, pregnant ect.- besides he was free game while you split up. so hes done nothing wrong really. -besides maybe he wrote the card himself as payback. im saying too much here iam probably making you worse.
2006-10-18 07:03:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PROCEED WITH CAUTION! a major factor is the reason for you two to break up in the first place, whatever that may be. make sure that you two got back together for the right reasons, and not just missing each other. it sounds kinda strange that of all people to see during your seperation, he sees a pregnant girl. (you might wanna make sure he's not that baby's daddy, while you're at it). above all else, listen to your instincts. if you think there's a good possibility that he will stray, then he probably will.
2006-10-18 06:36:16 · answer #3 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and think its going to work, get over it and move on. Otherwise, you two have some serious problems you need to work out. Ya'll were on a break (remind any one of friends?)! You're the one he chose, not the other girl.
2006-10-18 06:31:06 · answer #4 · answered by star23grace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it and if you have suspicions move on. You can find someone else who you wont have to be jealous over because he will make sure he never hurts you.
2006-10-18 06:29:47 · answer #5 · answered by *Bella Reveuse* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If hes questionable, youre answer should be no. Theres a sea full of fish out there.
2006-10-18 06:29:24 · answer #6 · answered by Taylor S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've your reasons--------he's his............. Nonetheless, you guys are together, so give him the benefit of the doubt and come to a level of understanding eachother which is mutual.
2006-10-18 07:34:06 · answer #7 · answered by Strangerinstrangeland 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl dont even worry about trust me man dont need someone Else's responsibilities
2006-10-18 06:30:03 · answer #8 · answered by issa r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you have any trust issues with him, don't marry him.
trust your gut, he might be cheating if you. if you have any doubts...they are there for a reason !!!
2006-10-18 06:36:06 · answer #9 · answered by chastityelizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh in just two weeks he forgot you?!be careful
2006-10-18 06:31:19 · answer #10 · answered by LILI 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋