My husband and I don't want children. Not that we are against having them ever but we're not planning on it and both doubt that we'll ever change our mind. (I'm 34 and he's 28.)
My mom and a lot of relatives on that side of the family give me a hard time about it almost every time we get together. I'm stubborn so it only makes me feel more resolved not to have kids but I was wondering if other people have given in to this type of pressure.
(And don't worry about sounding like a bad parent for saying 'yes, but I wish I hadn't...')
2006-10-18 06:18:58 · 20 answers · asked by stimply 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Just in case... I'm not asking what people think I should do. I know that we should have kids only for ourselves.
I'm curious about what OTHERS feel about this type of situation. If other people have had kids because they felt pressure from relatives or even friends.
2006-10-18 06:24:01 · update #1
NO. All of our parents (3 sets) would love more grandchildren, and Michael and I are the youngest, last to get married, last fertile fields in this generation. I've felt the pressure here and there and I've told them that the only children we will probably only ever have are our dogs. We do not want children of our own, we have 5 nephews ranging from 10 - 18 that need our help. 1 that has been in and out of juvi. so we want to focus our attention on them. There are a lot of other broken kids in this world that need help. I know what you mean about not wanting children, so many things that affect that decision, I doubt we will change our mind. I know some people feel it's selfish, but it's not. It's selfish to have them if you truely don't want to.
2006-10-18 06:24:57 · answer #1 · answered by lanai911 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's never a good idea to have children when you don't want them. They'll feel it because there will be times when you won't be able to hide the fact that you never wanted them. My mom has told me and my sisters several times that if she had it to do all over again, none of us would be here. I never want my kids to feel that way. I wish I'd waited a little longer sometimes and finished the things I wanted to do but my kids are my life and I love them more than anything. I had them because I wanted them, not because someone else thought it was what I should have done. Your parents aren't going to take care of them for you, so they should really lay off and let you guys enjoy your lives. I must confess, things are a lot simpler and quieter with no kids around. Not every one was meant to be someone's mama and daddy. Take care.
2006-10-18 14:10:16 · answer #2 · answered by lovelee1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your lucky your parents are nagging you to have kids and you don't want to basically all my family are totally against me having a child i know i'm still quiete pretty young but hey i'm financially stable i've been working since 17 not to metion my bf is mpore financially stable than i am we both want a child but since i know my side of family are really stuck up i just decide to go on pills for while but i'm certain next year i'm having a child.
If you know you have a good heart and your at least certain your not ready for a child or want one then your cool but always remember when you grow older your gonna need someone in you life to look after you or call your grandchild.
2006-10-18 13:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by Randisha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth I didnt want kids either and I alwasy told my parents that i was goign to go to a Semen Bank and get them put in. I only said that and felt even stronger about it because they wanted me to get married first ang go to school. I met my husband and we had my daughter.
My advice, dont have kids cause other people want you to, this is really your life an dyou are the one that is going to raise them. This child is a desicion that only your husband and yourself should make. Now if your spose wanted one and you didnt then i would be worried otherwise, nope! then maybe later you guys will change your mind, like i did :) but for now.. your life, your time, YOUR desicion.
2006-10-18 13:27:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having children takes alot of time and money, but the most important thing in having children is to LOVE them.
If you don't want children now or ever, that is your chose. Don't let
anyone talk you into it. So many children are born into families that don't even take care of them let alone give them LOVE.
2006-10-18 13:29:25 · answer #5 · answered by wHaT eVeR 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, we are not under pressure from others, but we do want children and hope we will in the near future. More power to you if you don't want children. Never give in.
2006-10-18 13:27:14 · answer #6 · answered by kepjr100 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dragon doesn't want kids either. She wouldn't do it to please anyone. Dragon would adopt before having natural children, but she had an ex who said "Sure we can adopt, but we'll have some natural ones too, right?" Yeah, Dragon wasn't too excited about that because it meant to her that he wouldn't treat the adopted children like they were really his. It also meant that she'd have to have sex with him, and that thought was completely unappealing, so she broke up with him.
2006-10-18 13:23:48 · answer #7 · answered by VLIGER DRAGÖN 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
my daughter isn't going to have any children i don't say much but she acts like a aunt to one of her friends kids so I guess I can chose some kids to be my surrogate grandchildren got to leave it to some one ain't no reruns
2006-10-18 22:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by HEY boo boo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To have a child is a good thing..But it's difficult to look after him/her..And no I wouldn't have child for my parents..It's up to you.It's your choice.Your parents can't make pressure on you..
2006-10-18 13:23:25 · answer #9 · answered by Irmak 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have children, drop them off with mom and never come back.
2006-10-18 13:22:02 · answer #10 · answered by dixiedarling 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋