If not, tell me what you do about it.thanks.
2006-10-18 05:32:50 · 12 answers · asked by sshhmmee2000 6 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
You've all given great answers and helped a lot, thanks!!
2006-10-18 08:16:58 · update #1
That used to be a very big deal for me, but not anymore. Now I accept that others have their own feelings and motives, but the only one who knows me best is myself, so the best judge of me is my own rational mind. The toughest part is when I want to believe the judgments of others, so I ask myself, "What good can I gain by believing the thing which upsets me?" The answer is, of course, no good at all. The only good comes from believing a positive, inspiring thing. So if I feel that there may be any truth to a mean judgment, I identify the inspiring thought, and let go of the rest.
For instance, if someone tells me that I am arrogant (which is not uncommon), then I identify the point of inspiration, "I am becoming more humble and amiable." I repeat the inspiration in the place of the insult, thus shutting out negative thoughts, and opening an endlessly beautiful world of progression and learning. I also remind myself that meanness reveals weakness, and that people tend to see their own faults in others.
If you weren't there, then they would simply make fun of someone else. Despite how it seems, their insults are not personal attacks against you but reflections of their own inner troubles. So I also tell myself, "Don't take it personal. It isn't personal." Understanding the motivations of insults and evil lends a degree of rationality and understanding to an otherwise unpredictable world.
2006-10-18 06:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by Andy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not anymore!
because i relized that most of the poeple who pick on me i really don't like! so why should i care what they think!
plus my feelings and actions are the only thing on earth that i can control! it's not worth my time pondering on the negitive!
it's not helping my goal! it's not even entrying my feelings!
mainly if it's not my top 10 people in my life i don't care what they say! and if one of the top 10 peeps in my life say something then i know that they care for me and it's in my best intrest to listen!
Don't let other people have such an effect on you!
go to coping.org for extra help on self issues! :)
Good luck!!!
antoher way to think of is as peeople comment or make fun of you think of it as someone offering you help or an idea! do you always take others help? meaning if friend 1 and friend 2 gave you advice on how to do something and you can only choice 1 friends lets ay friend 1's advice! and once it's in play and the problem is over with do you even rememver your friends 2 advice? is it hanging over your everythough?
mainly in 20 years not one thing anyone says to you that is mean will matter! some people say you'll not remember but that's i lie i remember all the picking on that happend to me!
but you know what i found a way to bet it
be the better person...
Good luck
2006-10-18 05:50:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would feel hurt, and depressed. What other people don't understand is that when they make fun of people it does hurt their mental state. That is what is wrong with kids and teenagers these days. Another thing to remember before anyone goes to make fun of someone else is that they will remember what you said, and they will remember that YOU said it. That's what causes the built up anger that some people have all of their lives.
2006-10-18 07:01:40 · answer #3 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes ,it hurts my feelings. I had it happened many times, because I speak with an accent, people think they can make mean jokes. The worst thing is, if they deliberately set out to hurt you and you know that they are not your friends, now or ever.
2006-10-18 06:54:58 · answer #4 · answered by mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a basic thing of weather or not its a personal attack. People make fun of people all the time but its usually taken seriously if der is some resentment behind it.
2006-10-18 06:54:21 · answer #5 · answered by himself202 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to cry most nights when I was young, from the taunts I got due to the scars on my face. As I got older, I realised that comments from people who don`t know, care or love you are worth nothing. Don`t let stupid, immature people get you down.
Even if it does hurt, don`t show it, SMILE and either walk away or give a smart comment back.
2006-10-18 06:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i just turned 21. It used to bother me but to tell you the truth, i vary rarely get made fun of that much anymore. But like someone said above, it does depend on who is making fun of me. If someone i like is making fun of me, it hurts worse than when somebody i don't like is making fun of me
2006-10-18 07:43:28 · answer #7 · answered by Aaron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the person who is making fun of me, first you have to consider the source. Most people that make fun of someone are insecure about themselves. dont let it bother you.
2006-10-18 05:41:18 · answer #8 · answered by jeanjean 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. I just brush it off and put it in the what an idiot file and go on. Its not worth my time to worry about stuff like that. Don't sweat the small stuff.
2006-10-18 06:24:14 · answer #9 · answered by Blue Eyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it would have bothered me back in highschool. i'm too old for that nonsense now (i'm 21). Remember you can't control what others think or say, but you can control how you respond
2006-10-18 05:35:49 · answer #10 · answered by opaque_eggshell 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋