2006-10-18 05:22:10 · 28 answers · asked by unlimited_shooter915 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ok... sounds like your trying to hold on to something thats gone already....i know it hurts, im with my boyfriend now for 4 years and 3 months...we are in love and its all good while it lasts. but i know the devestation i would be in if we weren't together anymore...i am not going to say that this should be a piece of cake, but listen sweetie when you are home stressin over her is she stressin over you still???...no, so go out with your friends....and enjoy your self , try to do anything that will take your mind off of the situation for a while...it will take time to let go, but you have to start somewhere, you cant dwell on the past so much, you need to move on and move up...maybe next time dont let your heart get so deep , take i t slow because break ups hurt, and being emotionally f'ed up can cause physical ware and tear on you...so just keep you head up! there are to many others out there...p.s. when you start to think of her, i know you tend to think of all the good times, try to remeber when she was a real b*tch, or the worst time of the relationship, maybe then youcan start to realize that you r better off without her....friends play a major part in the healing process,worst thing to do is sit home alone , listening to slow jams and thinking about how incomplete you feel...b/c all you need is yourself....YOU WILL SURVIVE!!!
2006-10-18 05:35:40 · answer #1 · answered by Life....it blows! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really Love her then let her go, and the memory as well, as you have stated here that she left you and is not in love with you.
If your love for her is pure and true, then you would want her to be happy. since you have both been there and done that, and it did not work for her, then you both must pursue your own separate paths.
Possibly you can remain great friends if you tell her that you will not pursue her out of your love and respect for her happiness, even though it is painful for you, at very least of all you can be proud that you are doing what is right.
Love should never be selfish.
P.S. don't believe anyone who tells you to marry a woman who chases you and not one that you chase after , because she will definitely cheat on you, as I know for a fact that this is not true.
My second wife chased after me, nearly to the point of stalking, even hiding behind trees and watching me while I was working because she said she loved me so much.
Guess what? I married her, and later she cheated on me with other guy's.
No pity party for me, loving my freedom.
2006-10-18 12:33:07 · answer #2 · answered by Thoughtfull 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was dumped by my first love after 2 years together. Though I loved her soo much, I realized it's just a waste of everything to keep on loving someone who doesn't want you anymore! Move on. It takes time though but hey, you are not the only one.
2006-10-18 12:31:51 · answer #3 · answered by Aldro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people change and you can't force someone to be with you if they don't feel the same anymore. You need to get out there and meet someone else and you will see that you can fall in love again with someone else. Everything always works out the way it is meant to and you will end up with the right person, you might not see it now, but someone better is waiting.
2006-10-18 12:25:36 · answer #4 · answered by strtat2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you need to know is that she is not in love with you anymore...not matter how long you were together the fact of the matter is that she left ...she left for a reason..which is that she doesnt feel the same way you do...if you think about it she left because she is also considering your feelings...why should she continue to be with you...leading you on...and not love you...she's doing you a favor....let her go...get your explanation of course but let it go...its too pain ful for you if you try and try to get back together...
2006-10-18 12:31:06 · answer #5 · answered by mousygirl15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry! You need to move on! That is really hard! But you can't make someone love you. Plus you don't want to be in a relationship like that! You need someone to love and take care of you!
2006-10-18 12:25:30 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheesy as it may sound, if she really does love you too, then time will bring you together again. move on with your life and try to deal with her not being a part of it anymore, and you'll see that you can move on. it's okay to still love somebody. sometimes things just dont work out. it's that simple. SOMETIMES THINGS JUST DONT WORK OUT. it sucks i know. but that's what makes us stronger. she doesnt love you, so why are you wasting your time/energy/heart on somebody who doesnt share the same feelings as you do?
2006-10-18 12:25:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find some new interests to fill your time and meet new people. She does not love you. You know that and you must accept it. Pining over a lost love will do you no good.
2006-10-18 12:31:44 · answer #8 · answered by sloop_sailor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck! Deal with it, your feelings. Cry, admit it hurts you. However, wait. It will take you at most one year to heal your pain. You should not continue with her. Be thankful that she let you know that she no longer loves you and do not want to continue the relation. She is not taking advantage of your feelings.
2006-10-18 12:27:28 · answer #9 · answered by Suzy Gee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not in love with you then you need to move on...there is nothing you are going to be able to do to win back her love and if you try you are likely to be considered a stalker.
2006-10-18 12:23:51 · answer #10 · answered by Moosha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋