We lost contact for a while and started calling me. My fiance doesnt approve of it. Although he talks to his exs and has kids with and he has his daughters on the weekends. My ex called yesterday so I can talk to my son. My fiance and I got into this arguement that he doesnt want my ex to call everyday or he will cut the phone off. In my eyes its like as if hes asking me to choose between him and my son. My fiance and I also have a son together. But, am I wrong if I leave him for being so selfish? Its alright for him to communicate with his daughters and exs. And for them to come over here, Thats that I pay the rent and put food on the table. Its always about what pleases him. I am going to dump him. But, I want to know if I am wrong?
2006-10-18 05:22:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My son from my ex is only two years old and does not talk much. Which is why my ex has to call.
2006-10-18 05:33:14 · update #1
If anyone for any reason comes between you and your child then they are wrong! Many times I have dealt with issues like that and I always say the same thing. Either you are on my side so I can see my child and raise him the best way I can or stay the Hell out of my way. Never let anyone control the relationship you have with another human being, especially your son. Good for you. Kick him to the curb and have fun doing it.
2006-10-18 05:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by RIDLEY 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
NO you are not wrong. Not when it comes to your son. If it was just an ex then I would agree with him but this is the person your son lives with. How old is your son? Is it possible he could call you on his own everyday. This way you only have to talk to you ex if their is a problem. Your fiance will have to realize that parents of a child need to talk sometimes just like he does with his ex. Tell him you would never ask him to quit talking to his children and their mothers and you don't appreciate him demanding that you do. Tell him if he is making you choose your sorry but you will have to choose your son and that this is not something that will ever change.
2006-10-18 12:29:27 · answer #2 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you are not wrong...It is your right to talk and see you son. Don't let anyone or anything come between that. If he cant understand that you need to talk to you son and you need to see your son then you don't need him. As far as your ex..You will be bound to him for life simply because you have a son together. That doesn't mean you want him back it just means that you two have a tie. Just like the man you are with now. You will always have a tie with him because you have a child with him but that doesn't mean that you stay with him and put your other child on the back burner for him.
2006-10-18 12:28:28 · answer #3 · answered by Payton71 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you really feel about your fiance? Is this the only roadblock in your road to happiness. If so, the two of you need to discuss this, possibly with a counselor as a referee. If there are other issues as well, then you need to evaluate and weigh them in your decision as well. If he is in the relationship for himself, it will not work and is in fact abusive. Each partner, himself included, needs to be willing to give 60% and receive 40% in return. If he is not willing to give more to the union than he expects and it cannot be worked out, dump him. Do try to work it out first.
2006-10-18 12:53:45 · answer #4 · answered by sloop_sailor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has no say so, how do you think your child feels, whose feelings do you not want to hurt more? a child needs his mother. he's a hypocrite, i understand if he's worried about you talking to the ex but tell him to stop talking to his. tell him you just got in contact with them that's why it's everyday talking. you are not wrong, don't let him manipulate you. try to talk to him and get it straighten out, if not your son is more important.
2006-10-18 12:32:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so right, dump the selfish bum. Contact with your child is more important than any fiance can ever be.
2006-10-18 12:27:40 · answer #6 · answered by golden oldy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have to leave him, but he does have to understand that you have a son with this other person and you have to talk to him weither he likes it or not. if the aguements continue or escalate than you have to leave.
2006-10-18 12:25:12 · answer #7 · answered by cashis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋