My wife filed for divorce less than 2 months after we separated- She told me over the phone she had... She moved out in June and filed in August 2006. She is now dating a person she works w/ . Sounds like a dumb question BUT she thinks it is OK do this, I don’t- any OPINIONS??
2006-10-18 05:19:58 · 33 answers · asked by carpet man 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's her business man, not yours. But I'd say that if this is happening so soon it's probably that she was with him before you seperated, then you seperated and she decided two months would be a sufficient time to wait to make it public.
2006-10-18 05:52:07 · answer #1 · answered by harry_potter_kid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's dating someone from work so soon she was more than likely flirting or hooking up with him before you separated. It's not really a question of O.K.. If she filed for divorce she can date. Some states do consider this adultery until the divorce is final but they rarely care about it.
2006-10-18 05:25:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends by what you mean by illegal. If you mean is it a crime then I would have to say there might be a few states with archaic laws prohibiting it but I do not see them being enforced. However if you mean will it impact your divorce then it might. Depending on what has been agreed in writing between your wife and you in regard to dating while the divorce is finalize. Should sex occur and there is no agreement about seeing other people as the divorce is finalized it could be seen as adultery. The question becomes where in the divorce proceedings you are. Should you be at the stage where everyone has agreed and the parities involved are waiting for the judge to sign-off then my advice is to wait on dating so that nothing changes. However if you still negotiating in order to finalize a few issues then it is best to ask your lawyer due to the fact you do not want discovery of this event causing your deal to be renegotiated. Best advice is to ask your lawyer as they are in the best position to advise you.
2016-05-21 23:40:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are separated, and have filed for divorce then the relationship is officially off. If that is the case, I dont see any reason not to date.
As hard as it is, it is time for you to move on.
I am against cheating in any way if people are in a relationship, but if it is over then it is over.
It is crappy seeing all these people cheating on eachother in relationships. First end it, then see someone.
Sounds like yours has ended as far as she is concerned (having been filed for divorce 2 months ago). Sorry to go against your opinion :)
*I am assuming she wasn't dating anyone during the marriage.
2006-10-18 05:24:23 · answer #4 · answered by artisticallyderanged 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well before i answer Ur question, i 'V this question for u.Are u a xtain? well if u re, u are not suppose to be divorce in the first place. u guys would ve work out ur marriage and not just watch it go down the drain. well i think ur wife was cheating on u before the divorce case. I ll like u to flash back to ur early years in marriage , was those years great and what made it great ? Also find the main reason why u are divorce today.
2006-10-18 05:50:29 · answer #5 · answered by talktome 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically, it is OK for her to date the day you were separated. The fact that she has filed for divorce definitely gives her the right to date. It sounds like this divorce may be harder on you than on her. In my opinion, it is time for you to date other people yourself. Even if you are just casually dating, the process will help you get over your EX quickly.
2006-10-18 05:28:07 · answer #6 · answered by Bill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in a divorce..so long as she has already filed it is no longer your consern. Why don't you go date too...it will be healhty for you.
Start a list of things you would like to change, do or improve and start marking them off. You will have a better sense of self confidences and accomplishment and you will hold your head high.
People take too much pride in what everyone else thinks. Its what you think...when you can look in the mirror and love yourself..your life will get better. This is your second change...Live Life to the fullest. Continue on with your life
2006-10-18 05:23:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though their may have been "something goin' on" while you were married that you might not have been aware of.
No, I don't think she should be doing anything until all is final. But, that goes both ways.....you too.
Moreover, I don't think it's healthy for a divorced person...or any person in a long term relationship to date again until they have had the chance to regroup....and clear the "baggage" one can accumulate from the previous relationship. A few months is insufficient time.
Wishing you peace.
2006-10-18 05:26:48 · answer #8 · answered by Robert 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she's wasting no time getting on with her life. The divorce is in the works and she's not even waiting for it to be finalized. To each his own. I don't agree with it but everybody handles things differently. This new relationship she's in is clearly rebound - but for you it's just a big sign that any commitment she once had is now gone. Stay away from her, end the contact, and move on too!
2006-10-18 06:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is already dating, technically, you're already divorced. Especially if she's moved out. The only thing you're waiting for is the state sanction that your divorce is recognized by the government. It's just the opposite when you get your marriage license- technically you're married when the license is purchased. The ceremony is just a symbolic day when it becomes 'official' to you.
2006-10-18 05:24:42 · answer #10 · answered by Coo coo achoo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why WOULDN'T this be ok? Once the two people are not in a committed relationship anymore, it is of course ok to go on with one's life. Once she walked out this door, she ended her committment to you; both of you are now free to do whatever you want with your personal lives. Actual "divorce" is just a legal formality, it can take months nowadays, sometimes years.
2006-10-18 05:51:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋