He cheated a year ago and has changed his ways alot, but now we want a baby and I am not sure what to do. Is it to soon?
2006-10-18 05:13:36 · 29 answers · asked by Kendra M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No one is ever really prepared to have a child, just don't do it because you think it'll help save the marriage. Be careful honey, I'm a firm, firm believer in the saying "Once a cheater, always a cheater....".
2006-10-18 05:15:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say about 4 years too soon. Bank some cash as a backup plan and if you're still together in 4 years then go for it. You can use the cash savings as a college fund or it will always be there if he ever cheats again, to help you start a new life and make it easier. Name the account so that it is designated for a specific purpose. (ie. Baby's College) and both of you can contribute to it. If he has an investment in the future, maybe he will take it more seriously.
2016-05-21 23:39:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you're questioning it I think you should wait. You are a married woman and should know your husband well. So if you've said he's change give it more time - you need to be comfortable within yourself and it doesn't sound like you are. The last thing you want to do is get preggo he does something stupid and there goes your world in flames. Why not wait - nothing to loose but time right? Just be sure before you do anything!
Good Luck
2006-10-18 05:16:53 · answer #3 · answered by A Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would wait and make absolutely sure the marriage is going to stand the test of time before bringing a child into the family- children add stress- alot- if there is already a problem in the marriage, having a child will make it worse.
2006-10-18 05:15:55 · answer #4 · answered by punchy504 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's too soon. 95% of couples in your situation think that bringing a child into the relationship will help patch things. It will only get worse. Just because it APPEARS that his ways have changed...Once a cheater, always a cheater. He just hasn't had the opportunity or he's learned from his mistake...learned how to hide it better.
2006-10-18 05:20:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well yeah it could be to soon but hey im letting you know a guy who sheats can always change his ways..but once he sheats he has a rush..he thinks he can always get away with it and not get caught with it..but once a guy cheats grl he will keep on doing it no matter when it is so if i where you i would wait about the babay cause what if he leaves you..you wouldnt want to raise the baby alone would you and what about child support?
2006-10-18 05:19:17 · answer #6 · answered by Mj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is something that only you can answer. In my opinion tho is If you really feel like he has changed than If you are ready for a baby then yes go for it. However you might consider some counseling before simply, because you are Questioning it yourself.
2006-10-18 05:17:17 · answer #7 · answered by Payton71 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you can know that. my ex cheated on me, and i forgave him and for almost 3 years i resented him for cheating. i told him i forgave him, but i never let myself. in the long run it was better cause he never changed, but if you really want to have a future with this guy, you have to honestly believe that people make mistakes, but that they can change if you let them. some people dont change tho, and they never will, and you have to know which type of person your husband is. good luck in whatever you choose tho.
2006-10-18 05:16:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would really think long and hard about this. Even though he has changed his ways he can cheat again. Once you get pregnant he may not think the same of you. He may not be sexally attractive and go find someone new.
do you want to bring a child into this cituation?
2006-10-18 05:18:00 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one that can answer that honestly! Do you still love him enough to have a family with him? Evidently you love him or you wouldn't have FORGIVEN him and still with him ...right? If you both want a baby and will be good loving parents to the baby then why not? Good Luck!
2006-10-18 05:16:48 · answer #10 · answered by JACKIE M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋