I'm looking for true answers from the heart. Not answers that push a political agenda or ideology. In the secret thoughts of your mind, what type of man do you picture when you think of a respectable "father" and/or "husband" ?
2006-10-18 05:11:18 · 14 answers · asked by girls_role_model 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Loving
Honest
Kind
Protective of his family
Put's his family first
Takes his wedding vows seriously
Chivalrous
Mannerly
Courteous
Affectionate
Trusting and trustworthy
Wants to do and be the best man possible for his family.
:-) Taller than me (not absolutely necessary, but it would be nice. I am 5ft 11)
2006-10-18 05:18:55 · answer #1 · answered by TheLastPrincess 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Mutual respect: between the mother/father, wife/husband. It has to go both ways. If one does not have the respect one does, then it doesn't work.
Trust: between the mother/father, wife/husband. If one doesn't have the trust required to love another enough, then love doesn't really exist. I mean it's okay to be jealous a little bit, but don't let it consume who you are. I mean, if you're so engrossed in what your partner is doing, when are you going to have time for you. Everyone needs "their own time" as well. Stop trying to live the other person's life, you have your own to live. If you think the adult who you're living with requires a babysitter, then you're simply not deserving of a real relationship yet. Many relationships end because one or the other doesn't trust their partners.
Honesty: Being honest with the self comes first, then you're honest with those around you. Honesty, again, is required between both partners, and the family.
Support: Not only financially, but also emotionally between the mother/father/children. Everyone needs a boost once in a while. If the wife/husband/children make an accomplishment that's big for them, they must have the support from each other. Not that it's required for a high-esteem family, but it does help. :-)
Fairness/equaility: Don't make a running count about what each other are doing. Do things from your heart, do things that one likes to do one day, and then do things you like to do. Don't keep score. Spend time with his friends sometimes, and invite him to do things with your friends some times.
Separate identities: When you started going out together, you had your own lives. Your own friends, family, hobbies, interests. getting involved doesn't me you should let that all go. Be who you are, and permit your partner to maintain their own identity as well.
Good communication: Keep your communication lines open. Be open, be communicative, listen to each other. Don't try so hard to be heard that you don't understand why you're not being understood. After all, to let yourself be heard, LISTEN to what's being said.
Kindness to each other is also a good quality to have. A good relationship isn't dependent on just him being a good father or husband... A good relationship takes two. Are you good enough for him?
If he brings out the best in you, then he's your man. Likewise, i fyou bring out the best in him... (good relationship)
However, if he brings out the worse in you, then walk away, far away... (you're no good for him, and vice versa)
2006-10-18 06:20:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
my boyfriend works nicely! I picture someone who is thoughtful smart, kind, not a push over for a father and a husband... Mainly oh and honest!
a father must disipline and know the limits of it as well!
and enjoy spending time with family!
2006-10-18 05:22:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
when i think of a father figure i think of someone a family can count on as far as finacially as well as mentally
i think father figures are so important in this day in time because alot of families are single parents homes i believe a father should be a man that is responsibke and reliable
2006-10-18 07:16:21 · answer #4 · answered by giggles 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My idea of a respectable father or husband is one who makes it his main priority to see that his family is taken care of both financially and emotionally. He goes to work and then comes home to spend time with his family. He puts their needs before his own. He honors his wife/family by never doing anything to hurt or embarrass them.
2006-10-18 05:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by Tallulah 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
someone who takes you as you are
respects you as much you respects you
loves you unconditionally
does not over protect you
is not a hipocrite or a cynic
and in the end, when you go wrong, shows you the right way back, in a kind, generous manner
2006-10-18 07:22:29 · answer #6 · answered by abhishek 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Someone who will protect,teach,guide,and lead. There is a subtle difference between guide and lead. These are all important to me from any man.
2006-10-18 05:25:14 · answer #7 · answered by NuMi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
someone who cares about you and the family, takes ownership and responsibility in everything that happens at home and above all...loves you.
2006-10-18 05:20:12 · answer #8 · answered by Shalom R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Caring, thoughtful, and supportive.
Being a loving person through all of life's tribulations.
2006-10-18 05:14:02 · answer #9 · answered by artisticallyderanged 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Works
Cares about his kids and family
Does not gamble, drink, smoke around his kids, fool around
2006-10-18 05:13:36 · answer #10 · answered by god knows and sees else Yahoo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋