Embarasssing question..?

Question

I'm in a rocky relationship. We've recently broken up but we're still in contact because we have a daughter. Everytime I think he's met someone else or he's been with someone else or we have a huge fight.. I have to go to the toilet! It turns my stomach so much it makes me get the runs! EVERYTIME without fail, I'll have to go to the toilet. What's causing this and is there anyway I can stop it? I'm too embarassed to ask my doctor.

I don't want relationship advice, I have a physical problem. I'm well aware that I can't control him and it is none of my business what he does, but I can't help the way my body responds. I still do have alot of feelings for him and always will, we were together for 5 years. Although I care about him, I know our relationship can't work out, we can't get along. I don't hold him back, I just want to be able to get over this physical problem because I can control my emotions.. not my bowels.

Answer 1

It a nut shell its anxiety

The physical symptoms of anxiety are caused by the brain sending messages to parts of the body to prepare for the "fight or flight" response. The heart, lungs and other parts of the body work faster. The brain also releases stress hormones, including adrenaline. The following symptoms can occur as a result:

abdominal discomfort
diarrhoea
dry mouth
rapid heartbeat or palpitations
tightness or pain in chest
shortness of breath
dizziness
frequent urination
difficulty swallowing

I know people who have suffered from similar. If you have like a tummy pain and then diarrhoea a hot bath or a hot drink should help.

Time heals all wounds and eventually the pains will stop.


Hope this helps


Have a great day



Kim

xxxx

Answer 2

It sounds to me as if you have Irritable Bowel Syndrome. The main cause is to do with stress. It causes the same symptoms. Often also with constipation (when its not the other way round) I suffer too, but its not really that embarrasing to see a doc. They're quite sympatethic and it is very common. Especially among women. They may be able to give you something to settle your stomach and prevent this.

Answer 3

Its stress and anxiety i have suffered like this in the past over an ex of mine who was cheating on me and got the girl pregnant and every day i used to vomit in the morning when i got up and had the runs all day i lost over a stone and half in weight in 1 week it was a very bad time for me as he was playing with my emotions and i was really upset all the time my advise is move on from him i know its hard but you will get over him in time and if it helps ask a family member when he arrives to pick your daughter up and drops her of so you dont see him and have an argument as it jealousy with you and the feeling of not being able to control yourself as all this arguing is not good for her to. You will come out of this a stronger woman good luck

As you say you can control your emotions but you cant because you would not be arguing with him every time you see him think about it!!!!

Answer 4

Sounds like you are suffering from nervous diarrhea, a component of irritable bowel syndrome (IBS), which is very common, and often shows up briefly when we face stress . If you feel too embarrassed to talk to your Doctor,you could try an over-the-counter remedy,one of which I know of is Equalactin.It contains Calcium Polycarbophil,which is a bulk forming fibre,which helps absorb water in the intestinal tract.

Answer 5

Oh dear, stress, anguish, upset. I used to get it both ends until I cut off all contact with ther perpetrator. Problem though in your case. You will have to try not to let things get to you so much. Make sure you're near a toilet in those circumstances - I'm not joking. When it happens you just got to go. Perhaps you could try taking some Bach Rescue Remedy before your meetings. Try deep breathing exercises or yoga to try and calm your inner state.

Good luck.

Answer 6

First of all let me say that you shouldn't be embarrassed to talk to your doctor about anything. They hear stuff like this all the time and they know how to cure it. Secondly, it sounds to me like you are just putting your body under too much stress. You should try relaxing more and making more time for you. The expression worrying yourself sick didn't come to be for no reason. It is very possible to do. You can't control what he does or what anyone does for that matter and until you accept that you are going to continue to have this problem. You need to spend more time worrying about you and less time worrying about him.

Answer 7

You know when something so bad happens that you want to throw up? I think you have the same but it... well, it comes out the other end to be blunt. My personal opinion is that maybe you care about this man more than you are willing to admit to yourself, and subconsciously this is how you react. You could try some homeopathic remedy to help you get past this.

Answer 8

it is just a nervous bowels. the same thing happens to me. i have been married for 5 yrs and when we get into a fight the same thing.i do not really know what to tell you but you need to get a grip on yourself when you can tell you are getting upset.i know it hurts been there,done that. however you need to remember that you know what you do. you can not do anything about what someone else does no matter how bad it drives you crazy.stand stroong and remember no man is worth getting the sh*ts over.

Answer 9

It's your body's way of getting rid of the negative energy brought on by the problems you are having in your relationship. It's actually a good thing. Just imagine all that anger and heartache clogged up in there.

Answer 10

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