should i let my daughter's father be apart of her life?

Question

Her dad and i was together for 3 1/2 years, and one day he decided we should have a baby so i got pregnant with his baby and 4 1/2 months later he left me for our neighbor/friend he said he wasn't in love no more, he loved her,
They caused me problems during my pregnancy, like trying to run me over in her car and hitting me in the stomache every chance she got to . and then when she was born he denied her even being his
so if you could help me make this decision i would be very grateful thanks

He is also a registered sex-offender

Answer 1

I'd have to say NO! There's a serious safety issue here. Neither he nor his trailer trash should be near her without some sort of supervision. Perhaps he could arrange visits supervised by your parents? (I assume you want to avoid them both.) That's the only way I'd let it happen.

Answer 2

This is always a tough issue. If he is acting so irresponsible while you were pregnant and even having his girlfriend put harm to the unborn baby, then I wouldn't even let him see her. His actions speak louder than words. Clearly he has shown that he has no intention of being a good father. So why let him have a chance when she is young and can't tell you what happens when you are not around. If she wants to have anything to do with him, she will let you know when she is ready. He seems to be a real *** and shouldn't have anything to do with her, except pay his child support.

Answer 3

Unless you have reason to believe the father will hurt or neglect his own daughter then you really have no reason to keep him from seeing his daughter. The problems that you have been through are between you and him they have nothing to do with your daughter so you shouldn't make her suffer for that. Children do need both mother and father unfortunately they don't always have both. Yes, they can be raised by just the mother or just the father but they still need both. I'm 27 and I have two daughters that I am raising on my own their father has been gone for 4 years. Yeah I get child support but as far as him seeing them or spending time with them out of the 4 years I think he's seen them 3 times he has his own family and is to busy. That is how I know that children need both parents. Because of the lack of attention my daughters get from their father they tend to attach to male figures that are around them wanting to just have their attention and following them not leaving their side, their little girls and they need that fatherly attention and I know and see it everyday. If he is a bad father let your daughter decide that don't do it for her believe me children are smarter than you think she will figure it out. Mine did.

Answer 4

That's a tough one. my sister is in a similar situation. so my advice is, if he is willing to make a genuine effort to be a part of the child's life then, yes you should give him the opportunity. However, Neither you or him should use the baby as a way to get back at each other for whatever went wrong in your past relationship. If you are trying to do whats right for the baby cool but if its anything else don't do it.

Answer 5

if he acted like that then H*LL NO!!! but it's something that she might want to do later on in life and you can warn her that he might not act the way she will want him to but that's a road you'll have to cross with her then. For her safety and mental health I wouldn't let her around him while she was young... but like I said, when she gets older she may want to know him. It takes more to be a dad than it does to father a child. Yes he may be her "father" but hopefully there will be someone that comes along in your lives who will be a dad to her. Good Luck and don't ever be afraid to tell her the truth if she asks.

Answer 6

If all this is true, I wouldn't even consider it!!!

Answer 7

no he is a jerk and he would be no good for your daughter