My ex and I broke up a week ago. He broke up with me! We own a condo together and have been together for 5 yrs. We didn’t break up of the common issues such as cheating and stuff, but rather his parents. They hate me. No one is good enough for their son. I am an independent controlling ***** in their mind because I like to be included in decisions that are made regarding us. It was 50/50. He’s been having my cousin (a guy) who is also his friend calling me all the time questioning where I am at and if I am with a person that he knows he would just show up!
On Saturday I wrote a poem and I left it on MY desk NOT his…Well he found it and read it…put a post it note saying ‘truly nice’ And on top of that wrote me a poem back…Pretty much saying ‘you don’t love me any more, you’re getting over me so easily and quickly because you never loved me.
2006-10-18 04:42:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My days are longer and longer and sadness in me would just never go away, how he will always be my friend whenever I need him anytime even in my dreams…(in another language) and so on…
Then I look at his desk and he put up our most recent picture on top of his desk which used to be put away in the drawer…
After that I write him a poem back letting him know that I did love him, but he decided to leave me and I accepted it that’s all. Its hard but I am getting over it. He’s got what he wanted and I let him leave with the happiness he thought he would have without me.
Does he want me back? What is it? Confused!
2006-10-18 04:42:42 · update #1
I would talk to him, but I do not want to be the one to call him since he broke up with me. I know I did tell him to never call me again, but I am hoping he would...I am thinking of writing him a note telling him that I don't want to play anymore of mind games. We are adults and when he is ready to talk we can talk...
2006-10-18 05:48:53 · update #2
he's had enough of picking sides...you lost...and it's not because no one is good enough for their son...i'm sure there is, but it's not you.
2006-10-18 04:50:21 · answer #1 · answered by eddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he does want you back, however he's in a position where he is trying to please everyone. That's a hard place to be, especially when it's your parents. However, the question here is do you want him back? Do you want to go through this again with him and his parents? You have to decide if you are going to be strong enough to deal with the drama. Also, times too short to be doing guess work. If you want to know something, just ask. Yet, be sure you are prepared for the answer he gives. If it's yes and you want him then great, but if it's not and you are sadden, it's okay to be sad, but not for too long.
Let him know exactly how you feel, tell him what you want and take it from there. Good Luck!
2006-10-18 12:11:19 · answer #2 · answered by Gigi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he isn't over you. If this is a decision he made, he is going to have to live with it. You shouldn't allow him to enter in and out of your life as he wishes. If it is over, then you need to end all contact with him. You can not let him have his cake and eat it too. You will never truly get over him if he is constantly in your life. If you want this relationship to work out you need to tell him how you feel and stand your ground. If he really loves you, what his parents think will not matter. Maybe he needs to see how much he does love you. Give him the space he wants. If it is meant to be it will happen. Good Luck.
2006-10-18 11:52:46 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is so immature that he has to listen to mommy and daddy plus i think he likes to play games with you when he does not even know what being in love is all about...if his controlling parents hate you then you will have a life of misery,,because their son is still tied to mommys apron strings its a no win situation and you will be the target for every argument...the thing with the poem tells me he is so insecure and this comes from being tied to his parents,,,they need to butt out but he needs to tell them not you and i dont think he is man enough sureilll
2006-10-18 11:53:19 · answer #4 · answered by COOKIE 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The problem was that relationship was 50-50. In order for it work, it has to be 100-100. You and him needed to give it your all. Unless you and him can agree to that, this relationship will never work out.
2006-10-18 11:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs to get a spine and stand up to his parents. He still loves you and it seems like he wants to be with you but he cant bring himself to tell his parents that he is a grown man and he needs to make his own decisions.
If his choice is to leave you and listen to his parents, he has no business trying to keep you from moving on. That isnt fair. Maybe if he does think youve let him go, he will get the balls to tell his parents its you that makes him happy.
2006-10-18 11:47:16 · answer #6 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is play mind games with you.... I don`t know why you really care because anyone who can`t up for the person they love does not deserve the time spent worrying about them! Tell him when he stand up for himself with his parents you will consider talking to him again...(mommies boy)
2006-10-18 11:48:18 · answer #7 · answered by Bruce d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet heart Why don't you talk to him in a romantic place... Then if everything is a misunderstanding you guys can make up and make up sex is the best... Good Luck, GOD Bless... EFIL
2006-10-18 12:22:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he doesnt want you back, he just cant figure out how to get out of the condo
2006-10-18 11:45:15 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants you back but he also wants to please his parents, who in my idea need to mind thier own ******* buisness! But thats besides the point. If his parents are causing you problems in your realationship its hard not to freak out, but if you do it will come across as an attack. so try to make him see your point of view without freakiing out. How? i dunno thats up to you. And as for your cousin.... tell him to get a life.
2006-10-18 11:47:42 · answer #10 · answered by Candace T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋