It can be anywhere mall, store, internet, work.......etc
If yes, why and does it cross the line sometimes?? If not, why???
Me personally, I dont get that far in a conversation with guys. Im always talking to my husband.
***Another "Chillin @ Work" question from SJ***
2006-10-18 04:40:21 · 30 answers · asked by **What??** 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do I? Yes I do.
Why? we get drawn to eachother in some ways, similar lines of thinking is a big reason.
Personally, I don't mind it however the risk is how far? can you know when you are crossing the line? these friendships do sometimes occupy a sizeable portion of time both physically and mentally ie. A guy could start thinking about this person he chats with ie. what does she really look like, what's she really like, what is she doing, where does she work, who are her friends, where do they live??? and there is this temptation each day to go further in knowing more about the other person...I think doing that compromises the fairly innocent relationship to some extent.
Is it wrong?
depends on the couple rather than the issue....some couples have zero tolerance policies and others are more understanding.
2006-10-18 08:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being married doesn't mean you have to stop talking to people. How would you make new friends? new business contacts? new friends for your single friends?
Even being a flirt is ok. It's always ok to play. It helps with self-security and helps satisfy that feeling of being wanted and accepted by others. The problem is that sometimes, as you said, the line is crossed. The reason for that is because most people are not happy in their current situation and when you chat with someone new, you have that "newness" that you no longer have.
If a line is crossed, something is missing from your current relationship.
Besides...If everyone had your idea of only talking to their 'other half', I wouldn't be answering your question. ;)
2006-10-18 04:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I talk with other men while I am out and about (neighbors that are married men), but it is nothing more than Hi how are you doing? Great well have a nice day and I leave it at that. I choose not to ever let it get pass that. Why? Because I love my husband and I am in a commited relationship with him and don't want to do anything to cause hurt. I think the people that do allow it to corss the line must be unhappy in some part of their marriage or they wouldn't let it happen in the first place.
2006-10-18 04:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by hehmommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all! My husband doesn't hang out with anyone other then me and our families and I'm the same way. Even before we got married, he never went out with any guy friends. I found that to be very relieving! I have a girlfriend that I've since stopped seeing on a regular basis and we now just email a couple times a week - it works for me. She's not happy about it but I'm a homebody now - I love going home after work and just relaxing and not having an agenda. And I've never been big on chatting with strangers - if I don't know you, I don't really care to.
2006-10-18 06:28:49 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong w/ chatting with the opposite sex. I have both male and female friends and I talk with people I meet in the store, but it really depends on your intentions as to whether it is out of line w/ u being married. Personally I think everybody flirts a little.
2006-10-18 05:09:23 · answer #5 · answered by carpet man 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well SJ, I am not married but even if I was I would chat with whomever I wanted to, as would he. Chatting does not mean flirting and flirting does not mean "assume the position".
I chat with a lot of people in this forum, but truthfully after they see your avatar on my page that may change. You are a very striking woman.
And I am teasing a bit.
Peace.
2006-10-18 04:50:31 · answer #6 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess if you are married it doesn't mean that you cannot talk to someone else, but you have to know the limits. Now, you can ask where the limits are but I think you and only you can answer this question. When you cross the limits, you'll know, that's for sure, and if it is innocent, it doesn't hurt anyone, but the real question in here is, why do you need to chat to someone else? Maybe there is something going wrong and you don't accept it but you feel it....
2006-10-18 04:45:56 · answer #7 · answered by candywhiteandrew 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes I do chat with women. Try to stick with married women, sometimes the talk crosses the line. Married women are looking for the same thing just like married men, someone to talk with and tell there deepest secrets and fantasy's. You are all out there.
2006-10-18 04:44:04 · answer #8 · answered by Shocker3:16 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
not often - funny because i just recently stop talking to a male friend because things were getting to edgy between us if you know what i mean. i am married so when i sat back and question why and how did it even almost get to that point i realized it was because I wasn't getting that level of conversation from my hubby and was looking for attention elsewhere. However, my hubby and discussed it and are working things out.
GOOD QUESTION BY THE WAY!!
2006-10-18 04:45:31 · answer #9 · answered by A Lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've never been much into "chatting" with strangers, regardless of my marital status. This is partially why I was having a hard time meeting potentiall dates... I've always kept mostly to myself. I am married now, but still keep in touch with a few male acquaintances; however, my husband and I spend most of our time with each other, and it is not terribly often that we do social things with friends.
2006-10-18 04:49:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋