Im 16 and not a virgin, Im in a relationship with a 17 y o guy hes a virgin. he comes from a very religious family as i dont. we ve been together for quite some time and we make out a lot. sometimes it gets so intense i want to tear his clothes off lol. he says he feels the same. and i can tell he does lol. so one day he asked me to take his virginity which was very awkward of him. and now for some weird reason im scared and hes like so up for it. i dont know what to do hes getting quite annoying lately..
2006-10-18 04:33:44 · 14 answers · asked by Twizted 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
your feelings have given you the answer.
Never feel pressured into something, and the same goes for your boyfriend. It may turn out to be something that you both regret... and speaking religiously... your boyfriend should rethink what he wants to do... If you can tell him this... that God has created the hymen in a woman for a reason... he knows what it means when two people share thier bodies, when a woman looses her virginity to her husband, the hymen is broken, and bleeding is a result... if your boyfriend knows anything about blood sacrafice spoken about in the bible, he will understand that loosing one's virginity is a sacred act and should not be taken lightly, the blood loss from the broken hymen is a blood covenent or sacrafice and holds great importance. Our bodies are not given freely to anyone, I know you and your boyfriend love eachother very much, but life gets in the way, and already you are having certian reservations about it... it would be best for you both to wait. His faith has to come first, before his own needs, or your own, and if he does loose his virginity to you, he may hold more meaning in it, and his love for you may grow deeper when yours perhaps since your are not religious , may grow apart from his... I say this because you both are young, you have school and life that changes and developes with time and age... how you feel now about eachother can change six months, a year or two... and if you are questioning, then perhaps having sex isn't the best answer, it may put a wedge in between you that can't be fixed... and bruised hearts are easier to handle at this point than broken ones.
God Bless, Shannon
2006-10-18 04:44:58 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my best advice would be to wait a little becuase you can always loose your virginity but you can never get it back, until you know for sure that you want to be there for this guy and that you love him and dont want to hurt him then youll know when the time is right. Its a big step for both of you no need in rushing it in the end you will be happy that you spent some time thinking about it. no regrets
2006-10-18 04:38:23 · answer #2 · answered by JayNell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you liked the fact that he was untouchable so to speak/// Now as the tables have turned, you are not feeling that this is such a challenge.
If you two really care for each other you need to talk this out.
If you are losing interest do not partake in anything physical and move on.....
2006-10-18 04:37:48 · answer #3 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 09:45:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he wants u to take it then take it!!! but when u guys are making out just dont think about it just let it happen and use condoms!!! but if u dont want to have sex with him just tell him that u dont want to rush into anything. let him know how u feel, maybe he wont be so annoying
2006-10-18 04:36:57 · answer #5 · answered by mustangsweetthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your just scared because you'd be his first. Its completely up to you whether you should do this, just make sure your not scared when the time comes or it won't go very well for you.
2006-10-18 04:39:13 · answer #6 · answered by Cait 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say give me a call- I'll help ya out and since he's annoying anyways you won't feel too bad about it...lol
2006-10-18 04:36:31 · answer #7 · answered by geom1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
basically u should sit down and talk wiv him of what you r feeling at what u want to do and i know ur scared but just chat to him see what he says and if ur ready to lose his viginity then go for it but only if u and him want to all u need to do is chat to him.
2006-10-18 04:38:16 · answer #8 · answered by Katie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a load backed up, and if you don't take it,,someone else will. Get on top of things right now....
2006-10-18 04:37:12 · answer #9 · answered by Michael S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn how to use a condom; learn together. Then you won't
get STD's or have a little baby when you're too young.
2006-10-18 04:36:42 · answer #10 · answered by judy f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋