morning? I find as soon as I am out of the house and on my way to my bus to New York City my blood pressure drops significantly.
When I am home I feel like "what is she going to complain about next?" As soon as I am out the door the feeling leaves me and I am actually much lessed stress out about work. Is this the sign of a marriage in trouble? Do a lot of other guys experience the same thing?
2006-10-18 04:29:30 · 17 answers · asked by jeremy k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Men and women both experience it. She's probably breathing just as big a sigh of relief to see you go.... and when you come home... she' probably saying.... "oh ****... he's back."
2006-10-18 04:33:03 · answer #1 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think that it is a sign of problems. If the nagging and complaining is so bad that it is a relief to get away from her. Does she know that you feel this way? I wouldn't come right out and tell her that this is how I felt but I would have to tell her that I love her and that things at home with her have gotten to the point that I enjoy leaving for work in the morning more that I enjoy coming home. Ask her if there is anything that you can do to help her relieve some stress so that it is not all coming out on you at the end of the day. Tell her that you love her, and that you want her to be happy so that you can be happy. Cause the truth if she is not happy nobody's happy.
Good luck, I hope that it is something that can be worked out.
2006-10-18 04:38:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a sure sign that something is wrong in the marriage. You say she is complaining a lot. I found myself doing the same thing a few years back complaining about things in general and my husband finally confronted me about it. I hadn'e even realized I was doing it. I just got into a habit of complaining. I felt a little taken back at frist and defensive, but then I came to realize and changed it. It happens sometimes. We need to be called on something. You both need to make some time to sit down and have a talk about this. You don't want to get to where you are resenting her for this. Talk and have good make up sex-hehe. All joking aside just be open with her. Talk in a gentle manner. You may find out she doesn't even realize she is doing this. On thae otherhand she may be gettng to be a nag. Does she other women to talk with? If not she needs to let off steam herself to other women. Do you have children? Is she feeling stressed? Is she having to do most of the housework with no help? What is it that she complains about? make alist and see if any of it has any validation or is she just complaining because something else is wrong. Look at all these things and talk and see if you can resolve it. Nip it in the bud before it bites you in the butt. Believe me if things are left to fester thay can explode. Good luck.
2006-10-18 04:37:48 · answer #3 · answered by hehmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probably a sign of a marriage that could use some work. Please speak to her about it., Let her know that you love her very much but want to have a more loving relationship with her, where home is much more enjoyable to be at then work.....mabye there is a reason she is complaining, mabye if you put an effort to making her happy she will be less of a complainer...speak to her, assess y our situation with some thought. It sounds as though you love her very much and it doesnt seem like its in deep trouble yet.
2006-10-18 04:45:32 · answer #4 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. It comes and goes. It's normal. Life isn't always a five-lane-just-paved highway. There are times the wife goes off shopping or work and I may be off. The moment she's out the door I'm thinking "Keeee-rist thank you she's left. Now I can have some peace, quiet and solitude". Then there are days that we miss one another. I have no doubt I wear on her at times too. hey pal....in the 22 years we've been together I've wanted to throttle her and vice-versa. It passes. If it doesn't...then we talk. Its worked so far.
2006-10-18 04:33:20 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there is something wrong when you feel this way. If she stresses you out because she nags and complains too much, you need to tell her so. Tell her that you dont like having a feeling of 'relief' when you leave home. I know that would certainly wake me up to my actions.
Good luck.
2006-10-18 04:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So how do you think she feels being left behind with all those things to complain about ? At least you get to leave. Why not figure out how to make the complaining go away. Why does she have so many things to complain about ?
2006-10-18 04:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds awful! You should want to come home as opposed to going to work. I used to work with a woman just like that - she would come in early and stay late and said it was the best part of her day - that she hated going home to her man.
Complaining a lot is an easy habit to get into and is draining on everybody around you - your wife needs to nip that in the bud!
2006-10-18 04:33:20 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you feel is normal. I have felt it for 37 years and discussed it with others. Men and women are different so you have to adjust your thought process to "laid back" and don't worry too much as there is nothing you can do to change mother nature or women; just go with the flow.
2006-10-18 04:57:06 · answer #9 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL My husband says he does. I feel the same way when he leaves, but I think we are going through motions of something that is no longer working
2006-10-18 04:33:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋