Just having a lousy year. I really don't think that I have completly failed at things, but on the other hand, I haven't succeeded either. My Father says "Sometimes you have to fail in order to succeed". Others say I try to hard. Is there even such a thing as trying to hard? I don't understand! I wondered about all this when I was 17, now 35 and I still can't figure it out!
2006-10-18 04:25:25 · 16 answers · asked by flowermama1971 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Failure is a part and parcel of success, u don't need to worry. Believe me, there is not a single successful person who hasn't experienced failure. There is no such thing as trying to hard, as far as i know. If you are experencing failure continously ,then i suggest u try a different approach or strategy. If something doesn't work , don't quit, instead identify the mistake and do it better. Trust me, you will be successful oneday.
2006-10-18 04:32:23 · answer #1 · answered by The Inquisitive 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Without an agenda, can one fail? Without an expectation, can one fail? Can one fail is even a better question? There is no such thing as "failure" only the word itself, and those who believe in the word.
To try is to fail, in some degree or measure. So, the only way to avoid failure is to stop trying.... anything. And, this is really a set up for failure, is it not?
How about attempting to live in reality for a while, just to test it as to whether or not it could fit?
The purpose of life is to experience, and in doing so, to learn. It matters little what one learns, that one learns is the purpose. If you believe in the concept of Karma [and it is useful to do so], then it is silly to hold any expectation other than doing ones best... since the outcome is already determined. Even doing less than what one is capable is built into ones Fate Karma... and the appropriate remorse will be experienced, in one way or another,
So, do your best and leave the rest in the hands of Karma [God would also work since saying the one means the other].
Peace
2006-10-18 05:12:49 · answer #2 · answered by docjp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After reading your question, I thought that you were definitely an admirable person. Just having the courage to attempt something with the possibility of failing is absolutely inspiring.
Take a minute and realize what a great trait that is. Just because your idea of success has alluded you does not mean that you have been unsuccessful. In retrospect, I'm sure that you can attribute your wealth of knowledge to your repeated attempts at your goals. Perhaps, you need to do a soul search to figure out what it is that you want to attain. Sometimes, our dreams of being 'something/someone' we admire is out of touch with what it is that would be a good fit for us. If you can single out an idea that causes passion to bubble in your body and mind than you have hit it on the head! If the notion of what makes you passionate is difficult to sort out, perhaps, you have not had that lightbulb moment but it will come.
Of course, this advice only pertains to goals having to due with career or life opportunities. If your idea of success is to land that hunk that lives across the street than you have to rethink that goal. When you feel 'comfortable' in your skin and what you (values, morals, beliefs) are all about than you worry less about having a friend, boyfriend or neighbour think a certain way about you. When you are confident in who you are than you will attract like minded people.
At 35, you should work on your need to be validated by others. People's motivations and their resulting commentary is not necessarily in your favour. People ussually say or want things that somehow benefit themselves. Human beings are selfish by nature. If you can reconcile in yourself what it is you are doing than others opinions do not have as much weight. Loved ones and trusted friends can appear helpful but be wary of their interest in you.
Their is no time limit on reaching your dreams so don't impose one. There is more than one way to get there. Be realistic in your endevours and you shall succeed.
2006-10-18 05:24:54 · answer #3 · answered by louraleigh m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He succeeded. each and every thing He planned got here about. He knew that mankind develop into depraved and can want to finally end up killing Him. basically unhappy how we are so quick to disclaim someone who gave a lot. contained in the authentic we can all stand till now God and be held in charge for our moves and concepts. we can't understand even as that aspect will be, so be waiting. Are you? have you ever informed a lie? have you ever stolen some thing? have you ever used the Lords call in ineffective? through the seems of it, many aren't to any extent further. No thief or liar will inherit the dominion of God. Repent (turn far out of your sins) and have self belief contained in the savior, and also you would have eternal existence. basically My concepts!
2016-10-16 05:27:42 · answer #4 · answered by chicklis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Failure is success turned inside out but is success in its own right. It is a source of learning and maturity, a spur to fight on and a starting point to a new direction or a new attitude. Failure is not the end of anything but the start of a new way of acting as regards a problem.
2006-10-18 04:46:27 · answer #5 · answered by MAC C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how you define "failure". Frustration is not failure. Impatience is not failure. Whining is not failure. Failure is when the parachute don't open and you forgot to pack the reserve. Now that's failure. Anything short of that is success. Success is being alive. Walking around. Disease-free. Gettin' jiggy with yer sweetie. A walk on the beach. T-shirt and jeans and an old pickup truck. A dog that loves you. Janis Joplin singin' her heart out. If you were around me you wouldn't feel like a failure, that's fer sure....!
2006-10-18 04:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Success isn't a Destination it is a Journey. Only at the end of your life will it be determined if you were a success or not. Just like evrything else there are hills and valleys. If when I die people say he was a great dad, look at his children or he was a good person and put others ahead of himself, I would consider that a SUCCESS.
2006-10-18 04:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If a "failure" helps one to view a situation differently or approach it from a new angle the next time, then it was not a waste, and in it's own way it was a small success because now you can move forward having eliminated one option. Hopefully next time successfully.
2006-10-18 04:29:43 · answer #8 · answered by punchy504 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up and you will not have failed. You only fail when you have discontinued your mission to succeed. Remember "If at first you don't succeed, try, try again"? Notice how there is nothing about "failure" in that?
2006-10-18 04:34:42 · answer #9 · answered by jeshzisd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard work is the key to success but before you work hard on something you must realize that you have limitations. Know what you're best at and accept the things that you're not good at then you can try as hard you can and succed!
2006-10-18 04:37:22 · answer #10 · answered by lanisoderberg69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋