I've been with my man for 5 years now! And just recently he started talkin to other females that he's been meetin! Which really isn't the problem! The problem is that he's doin behind my back! He keeps tellin me that there just friends but yet I've never met them! I'm not sure if he's cheatin on me or not! I've tried to talk to him about it and all he ever says is "Whatever"! What do you think I should do? Should I stay or Leave?
2006-10-18 04:14:09 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sorry to say, But if he don't get his act right... Sweetie it's time for you to go.. You deserve so much more than that... Yes, it sounds as if he's playing the field.. If he don't want the relationship it would be better to say that, than to go on playing with a persons feelings.... I don't know why it so hard for some guys to just say, the the relationship is not what they want anymore. Instead it's usually left to be fount out the hard way.. And someone ends up with there feelings hurt.... Be smart about the situation.. Your own self- worth is more than being caught up in an emotional roller coaster... Give him a little time to come out and open about it.. If he don't then do him a favor and leave him for the people that he thinks is more important than an open honest relationship with you.......
Good Luck......
And remember: Fool me once shame on you.... Fool me twice shame on me..........
2006-10-18 04:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by The'Truth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the look of your user name I'd assume there's more than just one person in that relationship that isn't being honest.
Your question and comments are extremely vague. About as vague as him avoiding 'talking about it.'
Are you married, are there children, do you live together, own a home??? People with those credentials don't describe things as "meetin" "doin" "tellin" "cheatin"
plybybunny69__69?? lmao
2006-10-18 11:33:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is doing all of this behind your back, it shows a great deal of a lack of respect. If you've tried talking to him about it and he has nothing to say but "whatever", I think it might be time to find a real man. I think if you stay, you would just be disrespecting yourself, and it would cause you even more frustration. You know honey that there are other MEN out there that would love to treat you the right way. 5 years is a long time, but would you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who cannot communicate with you? I admire your patience:)
2006-10-18 11:20:36 · answer #3 · answered by redrobot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all if you have tried to talk to him and all he says is whatever then you have a reason to think that way, on the other hand you may began to push him to the other side. if you both are not engaged then you really shouldnt have a problem if he has friends and if you have any trust for him then you will trust what he says until you yourself find concrete evidence. the main way you can find out any informaation you need to know is PRAYER. pray to GOD and let him step in the middle of you both and he will wok it out. if you have no trust in him then you really don't have a realtionship anyway because that is what relationship is based on. GOOD LUCK and remember if dont anyone else loves you GOD loves you best.
2006-10-18 11:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by O.E.S. Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you have been going out with him for 5 years you should know him pretty well. Is he known for being an honest person in your relationship? If he is then all you need to do is tell him that you want the truth about everything. If he has been known to lie before then most likely he is lieing now. If hes not an honest person then you don't need him in the first place.
2006-10-18 11:17:23 · answer #5 · answered by kmichelle89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Whatever" is not an answer! You have feelings and emotions. Your gut is trying to tell you something. If he never did that before, why now? There is a reason. How would he like it, if you started doing the same thing? If he can't address this issue...how do you expect him to address any issue of concern?
2006-10-18 11:17:54 · answer #6 · answered by Summerbead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you have to find out what your man is really up to. i do not know why he has to meet these females behind your back unless he is up to something. Find a solid proof of whatever he is doing and if you find out that he is playing around, then pack your things and leave. He does not deserve a woman like you. Its his loss not yours.
2006-10-18 11:21:42 · answer #7 · answered by j6shawie26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 5th year in a relationship is the hardest to deal with. Spice things up. Do something new. I would be pissed to. I know because I was in a relationship just like this except his friend were supposed to be guys but was a girl and he ened up leaving me for her so.... You make your desicion.
2006-10-18 11:17:05 · answer #8 · answered by Christa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off you gotta trust him and know he isn't gone do anything behind your back. but i don't understand why you can't meet his friends if there just friends you need to keep on asking him and don't just take whatever for a answer you need to put your foot down.
2006-10-18 11:18:23 · answer #9 · answered by Mz.Tweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My theory is "if you wouldn't do it with your spouse standing right there, it's cheating." So, IMHO, he IS cheating.
The fact that he hides it means he thinks it's wrong too. If he isn't banging someone already, he soon will be. If you don't have any children, move on and find someone who will love and respect you. If you do have children, you have an obligation to try it fix it one time. If he does it again, move on.
2006-10-18 11:16:40 · answer #10 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋