I've been married for almost three years and I'm not happy. Everyone can see how things aren't working out and how miserable I am, except for the wife who thinks everything is fine and dandy.
How do I break the news to her that I don't want to do this anymore? My family owns the house we live in, so I can't just get up and leave.
2006-10-18 04:02:33 · 18 answers · asked by curious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know that marriage takes work and sacrifice. So far, I've been the only one working and sacrificing, trying to make it work. She lived with her parents until we got married (even though she's in her 30's). I just don't think she understands the responsibility that marriage involves.
2006-10-18 06:19:02 · update #1
Telling someone you want a divorce and they think your "living happily ever after", is devastating. Have you tired everything, exhaustated all options? If so, and you think breaking vows are necessary, then step up to the pl;ate and do it like a man! Take the time for her to mentally catch up with you. You owe her that much. I know from life experiences, things don't get better the second go around, if you didn't mend the fences the first go around.
2006-10-18 04:10:37 · answer #1 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest. Honesty is the best policy, but whose to say that your wife is just not painting a pretty picture for the public around you. Sure you could let your wife and if there are children involved stay in the house. That would be the most reasonable and logic thing to do. Keep in mind women are more proned to put on a happy face so that people think that things are okay. Have you asked her how she feels about this relationship? You just might be suprised as to what her response might be. By all means you should not just leave with out asking her opinion. I am only able to say this because I am also going through a divorce, just remember to think things logically through and to be careful of the things you say because once you say something you can't take it back.
2006-10-18 11:24:07 · answer #2 · answered by Mona:) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce might not be your only option. If you are miserable and your wife thinks everything is great, you obviously have a HUGE communication problem. Talk to her and find out what is going on with your marriage before you up and quit. It would probably be very beneficial for a couple in your situation to seek marriage counseling.
You made a commitment to one another and right now, I'm not sure if either of you are upholding it. Marriage takes work and sacrifice. Don't take the easy way out, at least attempt to save your relationship.
2006-10-18 11:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by Sativa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what you do & you won't have to say a word... Hire a couple of prostitutes, a midget that will be willing to run around the room in a leather bondage outfit that will occasionally spank you or the 1 of the ladies with a piece of licorice while in the "process" as she walks into the room..
I guarantee she will get the point & will leave on her own... NOW if she joins in, then you should really rethink about getting the divorce...cause she'd be a keeper IMO!
2006-10-18 11:16:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to find out what is making you unhappy. Don't give up so easily there has to be a reason you married her in the first place. I suggest that you go to counseling before making that decision. What if you ask for this divorce and you look back after and wish you had never done it? You need to really think about this before you burn that bridge and cant go back.
2006-10-18 12:09:29 · answer #5 · answered by Payton71 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you un happy because you dont love usually after two years of being with somebody you find out if you really love that person why? well experts say its when all the flirting and romantic and sex gets cold its up to you to turn the heat back on! the best thing you could do is sit down and talk to her let her know how you are feeling maybe you would end up working things out or you never know if she feels the same way !
2006-10-18 11:14:20 · answer #6 · answered by lilly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's really happy, and has no idea that there are problems, it seems there's been a complete lack of communication. Sit her down and talk to her. Be compassionate and sympathetic. Tell her your reasons, and give her time to cry, be sad, be angry... and let her voice her opinions and points of view. Make sure you give her time to adjust to the news, and give her time to find alternate living arrangement.... especially if you have children.
2006-10-18 11:09:08 · answer #7 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell her the truth. Don't let her live another minute thinking and believing everything is good, the sooner the better. Then you both can move on with your lives.
2006-10-18 11:13:02 · answer #8 · answered by sapphire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce with her 1st Husband or 2nd ?
Perhaps she has married your HOUSE 1st then you later !
c.mon, pls patch it up, I believe she is very happy to be with U live with U, Love U from heart & soul,
sorry to hurt you, coz, it hurts me too,
BE A MAN, SAY NO TO DIVORCE
is your House very Old with Evil spirits ? someone seeing You?
2006-10-18 12:26:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its never easy to do this. But you can be brave, and say honey, we need to talk. It doesn't mean that you don't love her neccessarily, but it does mean that you need space from this woman. The sooner you do it the better, cos the longer you wait the worse it'll be.
2006-10-18 11:07:25 · answer #10 · answered by littleponypony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋