Women - Please answer this - Can I be forgiven?

Question

I have been very patient with my gf of 4 months. Never said ONE bad word to her or about her. Just pure unconditional love.

Last week, she was sick and could not answer her phone fore other reasons for 4 days. I got so confused and upset, I called her a ***** and said I regret I ever met you....just out of love for her to triger her to call me back...I am also shorttempered like my dad and she knows it.

Can I be forgiven because like I said, I have not said ONE BAD thing and moreover done and said MILLIONS OF GOOD THINGS to her...so I can be forgiven?

Also, I see couples fight and its ok once in a while if someone says something they really meant to say out of love.

I just want to know if this happens generally in relationships once in a while and I can be forgiven, given alll my past good deeds?

Answer 1

If you're calling her a ***** within 4 months, hows it going to be in 4 years? What do you mean you've been 'patient' with her. Is she difficult or rebelious against your ideas of who she should be? And life doesn't work on a points system, where if you are nice on enough occasions, you can be an *** with no consequences. Also, 4 months = unconditional love? You've gotta be what 16 or something with that attitude. And love doesn't make you call someone a *****. It means you cut them slack and give up a little understanding and compassion. That you realize the world doesn't revolve around you and your inadequacies. You sound pretty controlling, get a grip on that before you're verbally, mentally or (God forbid - and he does) physically abusive to the ones you claim to love. Good Luck.

Answer 2

well you might do love her but you should never call her a b i t c h and you did not do it out of love it was out of angry and being that you have a short temper you should get help and it is not OK to do theses kind once in while in relationships also because you have done so many good things don't cover up the fact that you said all those bad things that one name call could be a wrap for some people remember she was sick not you ,you could have call or answered the phone in 4 days so i think you should call her talk to her see if she can forgive you and really get some kind of help on your temper i just want to let you know being called a b i t ch by the man we love and care for is a hurtful thing and disrespectful it hurts don't do it again maybe she will give you other Chance and if she do be good to her and do right by her

Answer 3

Look we all tend to say things that is out of context when we are either mad, frustraded or something else but if she love you and you are really sincere about forgiveness on this matter then she will forgive you!

You probably had a bad day and took it out on her even though she was sick and you know some of us do that from time to time but later on we ask to be forgiven and with explaination and sooner or later during that time period we are forgiven.

Listen she'll forgive you, right now you have a good track record with her and I do believe that she will forgive and oh when you see her again bring some beautiful red roses or something with a cute little stuff animal to make her smile .....That will help you out a lot.
Good luck!

Answer 4

Of course anyone can be forgiven. This is deeper than forgiveness. You sound like you need counseling. Get it! If you see you have a bad temper like your father do not use that as an excuse, use it as a tool and seek help so you do not repeat the cycle. Couples argue that is true, I have been married for 26 years. Things are said wrong that is true. Love is strong and a bond. But if we see a short coming in ourselves and do nothing about it, that cannot be forgiven.

Answer 5

There should never really be any reason to fight in a relationship if everyone has even a small amount of understanding, maturity, and both partners do their part. The fact that you premeditated what you were going to say so as to guage a specific reaction is controling, and manipulative. She deserves someone who will be understanding and first ask why (not yell some asshole comment) "why haven't you been answering he phone?" You sir to me are nothing more then the average piece of **** that mistreats women in this world and views then as nothing more then objects... It's also disturbing that you are looking for comfort on an online group. Are you to big a dick to all of your friends and family to be able to ask them for help?

Answer 6

Sometime one time is all it takes. You should have remained calm enough to say what was really on your mind. If you were not able to say what you really meant respectfully then you should have said nothing at all until you could get ahold of yourself. Never base your relationship on anyone else's. Now you have just made yourself look like Jeckle and Hyde or a multiple personality person and that is worse. If she loves you she will forgive you. It sounds shaky if she hasn't answered you phone calls in four days. You know something is up with that don't set yourself up for failure.

Answer 7

She may forgive but I wouldn't. You a called a female dog am i right... hold on for what reason again. Oh yeah she didn't answer the phone.Maybe she was busy or sick or there may be any good reason. You said you didn't say one mean thing to her for 4 months and showed nothing but love awwwwwww...not. So what your supposed to show love and respect and that doesn't excuse you behavior.

Get some Anger Management.They do have classes for that.

Answer 8

I think you can be forgiven. You hadn't spoken to her in days, and you were worried. People act irrationally when worried, their emotions come out differently because they are in a panic (at least that is my idea). If you tell her that you were worried, didn't mean it, and want to make it up to her, I am sure you will be fine. But I wouldn't bring up the 4 months of being nice, because as a boyfriend, that is what you're supposed to do. Be nice, and supportive even when our hormones ***** at you. Ha ha. But , I believe if you tell her that you didn't mean it, and it just popped out as frusterated-worried-anger, and your sorry, she should forgive you.

Answer 9

Why did you not go and see her I would have been very pissed of if my bf did not come and see if I was alright.
think before you open your mouth.
I have been married for 13 years now. been with him for 21 years we have only had one big fight.
you need to get your temper under control before you lose this girl not many woman will put up with it these days.
sorry if I sound like a ***** but I have seen my best friend go though a marriage of 7 years a fear with a guy who had a quick temper. he also hit her. but pleased to say she is no longer with him thank god and is no happy with a new man in her life

Answer 10

Too many red flags here. NO, you need help with your thinking and attitude.
1. You're perpetuating your father's attitude of anger
2. One doesnt say ugly things to win someone's heart
3. You deserve her reaction. She should have NOTHING to do with you.
4. You dont do good things TO her, but rather FOR her.
5. That's NOT how one treats someone who is sick and unable to respond. That merely indicates your concern was not for her, but for your own arrogant selfish self.
6. Lastly, you should really consider changing your id.
"IHATEWOMEN" is the largest red flag of all!