What would you do?

Question

I don't know what to do. I am a police officer in Maryland and I began having a relationship with another officer last year. We fell deeply in love, but we could not tell anyone about our relationship. Not only does our department frown on co-workers having relationships, but the other officer was married and his waife was expecting a baby. Well, his wife had her child and then she found out about us. Now, she wants to move out of state with his child, and I am afraid he is going to follow them there. What should I do?

Answer 1

You should do now what you should have done then, run the other way. You blew it, now you have to take responsibility for your actions, and so does he. Yes, he will probably move with his wife and child, as he should. They have enough problems now without you being in the picture still. Did you really think he would leave his wife and move in with you? You didn't know he just wanted sex???? Come on, grow up.

Answer 2

Why did you even start the relationship in the first pace if you already knew that he is married?

And apparently your Mr. Officer had no intention whatsoever of ending the relationship with his wife. Clearly, he is using you, having some fun on the side while his wife is expecting a child. How can you not see this? I say you get out now, before you make anymore mistakes, they are a family, and you shouldn't break a family. Come on honey, I am sorry to say this, but you deserve better than a married man who has a secret affair.

Answer 3

Seriously, DONT get involved with a married man. WOW that comes back and bites you right in the you know what. FOr me it is elementary. I am not judging you, contrary I have been in the same position, and it bit me. The bottom line, that is stealing. It is like seeing a car that you like better than your own, or the one you don't have. Bottom line he belonged to her, was hers, and you ruined that. Maybe or obviously there were problems prior, but that is none of your business, and if you really cared about the guy, you say " work it out, clean it up, and then we will talk". Believe, me the biggest problem here is what this will cost you, and I am not talking about the job, whether or not you are about to lose something that never belonged to you in the first place. I am talking about "carma," if you believe in God you call it" reap what you sow", or "what goes around comes around". THat is your real problem here. You will know exactly how his wife feels. I guarantee it, because that is how life is. This is how we learn, exactly what pain we have caused others. My advice, let him go. Tell him to take care of his current relationship, other wise he will never be yours, after all he promised someone else "forever". Do you really think it could be different with you, that he won't do the same later? Perhaps he will be into cheating on you with another officer? A quick note, she is moving as far away from the problem, "you", and the pain that she can. It is her way of coping with all the hurt and betrayal. She will forgive him, if she doesn't she loses him, with you, there is nothing but" get her as far away from me as possible."

Answer 4

LET HIM GO!!!! Your are a police officer! You are supposed to know the difference between right & wrong! Knowingly getting involved w/ a MARRIED MAN is wrong on so many levels! He has a child! If his ex wants to leave the state, who can blame her! You and the idiot she married humiliated her! What did oyu expect? The truth always comes out! Don't get me wrong; I think it's great you fell in love; but you & he should have loved eachother & respected the sanctity of marriage enough to wait! He should have ended it w/her & told her about you 2 before she got pregnant & before everyone found out! Neither one of you thought of her feelings or of how what you were doing was going to affect the child!!! Let him go! It won't work out for you 2 anyway! Stop your selfish ways before you cause more damage to everyone involved including yourself! Woman up miss police officer and do the right thing! Ya know adultery IS ILLEGAL! Uphold the LAW!!!!!!!

Answer 5

If you really love the guy, I think you should let him go. In the first place, he is a married guy with a wife who is expecting a baby. To love a person is also sacrificing oneself so that others do not get hurt. Do it for the baby. It will hurt a lot but the heart has a way of healing itself so i think in time you should be fine.

Answer 6

You tell him it's either her or you. If he chooses his wife, cut your losses and let him go. The odds don't look like they're in your favor. Grieve for a little while and then move on. You don't see it now, but in the long run, you're better off without him. And when he tries to contact you in the future, remember that you're not the one he chose. Let him go.

Answer 7

you must accept the fact that he is a committed man,don't just see the wife but the baby,he deserve to have a dad,your a police officer and i must say your brave enough to face enemy and just see this one like it.Don't mess with some body's family for you will never be happy.

Answer 8

So he's married? Uh oh. He has a child with this woman so he has an obligation to her. Not to mention they took a VOW.

Answer 9

Let him move ahead!!
Dont ruin his and his wife's life.If u really love him...let him go wid his wife and the child...cuz the childsi he biggets sign of their love.

Answer 10

Let him go. He needs to reconcile with his wife and you need to get on with yours. He was never really yours to begin with. Ask Jesus for forgiveness.