2006-10-18 03:27:42 · 17 answers · asked by sapphire 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not in a hurry to meet someone, but I guess knowing that someone thought I was interesting would be nice.
2006-10-18 03:40:58 · update #1
I was married for 16 years before I divorced my first husband for having an affair and because he also became an alcoholic during the last several years of our marriage. We had 2 kids together. After being with a person for so long, I was very afraid of being on my own after 16 years. The first few months were hard, but as time passed by, I realized it was a great thing. No one to give accounts to, no one to run home and cook too. It was liberating for me. I enjoyed having time for myself and for my boys. After several years of being on my own, I met a wonderful man and married him earlier this year. I'm glad I had that time off to just focus on me for a change. I learned a lot of things while living on my own with my kids and I'll never forget those lessons. In due time, you too will find a man who's going to love you and honor you, but till then, enjoy your singlehood...embrace it. You'll soon see that it's a great feeling. Good luck!
2006-10-18 07:08:08 · answer #1 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you are going through a divorce. I have been there years past and had the emptyness feeling and sure did not want to be alone the rest of my life. My advise to you is to take time, do not go out looking because of the need feeling. Let love happen and it will with the right person at the right time. If you go on a rebound you liable to only end up in the same situation or worse. And alone is not a bad thing. It is a great time for us to reflect and find what truthfully makes us happy. Good Luck. Let your heart guide you not words of family or friends.
2006-10-18 03:34:44 · answer #2 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. Don't let your fear of being alone prompt you into another relationship. Being divorced ONCE is bad enough.
Get out of the house, make new friends, get to know yourself again. Being single again isn't nearly as bad as being in another relationship like the one you left.
Hang in there. Time will bring you a new perspective.
Now about your divorce. You owe your husband nothing. The goal is to come out in a way that you can afford to get back on your feet. Get a lawyer if you haven't already. And find some people you can confide in, a support group (friends, family, that sort of thing)
Remember that you are not your marriage, just because its ending doesn't mean your life is (oh, if only i'd believed that when i was going through this)
2006-10-18 03:34:16 · answer #3 · answered by shinobisoulxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't be I promise. I have been divorced for 3 years now. I'm 40 something and I have two kids who keep me busy. Just get use to yourself again. There is a difference between being alone and be lonely.
You can be in a room full of people and still be lonely.
Make a list of things you didn't or couldn't do while you were married and start at the top and start doing them.
My list was 75 items and still growing I have done at least 40 of the things on my list.
Remember It's going to be OK
2006-10-18 03:45:53 · answer #4 · answered by Only I know 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get through the divorce and then get on with your life. There are lots of guys out there who are going to be interested in you. Take it slow get to know a few and if you find one you like then go from there. I have been divorced 3 years now and have dated for most of that time I can guarantee that the only reason one stays alone is if they choose to.
2006-10-18 03:33:17 · answer #5 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to be alone the rest of your life.....my advice would be to take some time off of relationships, keep yourself busy by working on your career or go to school....the best thing anyone can do for themselves is to get thier life where they want it to be. You may find as you become more and more independant a steady guy wont be as important to you, then you have a better chance of meeting the right guy, it seems like you always find the perfect one when you arent looking one.
2006-10-18 03:33:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear your going through this. I promise you, your heart will heal and you will not be alone the rest of your life. Try making a list of the positive and negatives, remember why you are getting the divorce. You will get used to being on your own, and you may even find you enjoy your new found freedom. Good Luck to you!
2006-10-18 03:37:05 · answer #7 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question that all of us can relate to, in one way or another...
I believe it's better being on your own than being part of a really unhappy relationship. Here's an interesting side note: the more involved you become in your OWN world (work, family, friends), the more likely someone will come into your life. Desperate people scare others. If you're independent, a special person will just be the icing on your cake, not just your cake.
2006-10-18 03:57:51 · answer #8 · answered by gentle understanding 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Become active in church, club or other functions. I have found working with Habitat for Humanity has given me needed skills for home improvement projects and also keep my mind off the divorce. In addition I have met many nice people and once the house is completed I can see that a needy family is living in something I helped make. Giving back to the community is way cool.
2006-10-18 03:34:11 · answer #9 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 34 and going through one right now, just don't worry about it. You haven't even rid yourself of the last headache don't be in a hurry for a new one. Get a friend with benefits and just enjoy life. Friends and family are there for you so don't feel like you are ALONE. You aren't
2006-10-18 03:31:46 · answer #10 · answered by Mitzi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋