I try not to let other people's negative thoughts get the better of me but every once in a while it creeps in. Two years ago, I lived in a crappy apartment, my job just about drove me crazy. There was a time when I put what I wanted ahead of the needs of my kids. Now I have a job that I love, a nice little house in a better neighborhood, and my children are happy and very well taken care of. But I let my stupid ex and his new gf convince me that what I've accomplished isn't good enough. I know they're just being mean but at the same time I find myself wondering if they're right about me. Do you think it's fair to punish people for past mistakes even when they've turned their lives around? When is enough really enough? What do you think?
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2006-10-18 03:17:18 · 15 answers · asked by lovelee1 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Read what you wrote: You had a job you hated, apartment etc. And now you have a good job and you have also achieved to make your children happy. I presume you're a single mom too and what you've achieved is just wonderful. I can already tell you've got a lot of strength in you and you strive to get where you want to be. And i have so much respect and admiration for you for that.
So don't ever let anyone, especially your dumb exbf (good thing he's an ex) and his even dumber gf tell you where you stand. Coz you KNOW where you stand. Way up where those 2 will never reach. They're just jealous of your success coz they know that. You ARE 10 times the person those 2 losers would ever be.
Get new friends and a social circle. People who know and like success, good friends with a good heart, etc. Ignore and stay away from people who want you to come down to their low @ss standards.
2006-10-18 03:28:33 · answer #1 · answered by Liz^24 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems loike you've really lived up to the fact that you have made mistakes. Everyone has and you are doing well for yourself and your kids now. Maybe your ex is jealous that you have done well for yourself. As long as you keep in mind forever that your kids come first on every aspect then you will do fine in your life dont let an ex determine anything thats why they are an ex and not a current. Please take care and good luck to you in the future.
2006-10-18 10:21:35 · answer #2 · answered by littlemama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes a lot of courage to change negative things in your life and I commend you for making positive choices for you and your kids. I used to care what people thought and I was never really my own person. Then one day I woke up and it was totally different. If people don't like you or the choices you've made, who cares? It's your life. One quote I live by now is, "I'd rather be hated for who I am then loved for who I am not." Try not to let people have a negative influence on you. Do your own thing and keep making positive choices.
2006-10-18 10:22:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone should be punished for past mistakes if they have turned their lives around. As long as your kids are happy and healthy and you are doing the best you can that is really all you can do.
2006-10-18 10:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by Jade 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like you have changed your life around for the better.( i wouldnt listen to an ex and his gf what extactly are they accomplishing by putting you down) but some times it is hard not to punish people for past mistakes BECAUSE usually people do it again. a leopard NEVER changes its spots. (it can pretend it has but never does).
2006-10-18 10:23:30 · answer #5 · answered by crazycase2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You yourself have to be happy.....your kids are happy and taking care off......what more do they want from you?
I understand you have to have contact with your EX because of the kids....assuming they are his.....but why take that contact any further than that?
He should not be that involved in your live and his new gf should definitely not even try to bud in your business.
So...no...I don't think it's fair....you deserve a break.Best of luck to you.....keep your head up!!!!
2006-10-18 10:27:20 · answer #6 · answered by hellsbells 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After 10 years in a hell of a marraige,yep-it most definately changed almost everything about me. I would love to be the person I was,but don't know how. Oh well!!!
2006-10-18 10:57:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awesome question (best one I've seen all day). I think that everyone is entitled to live their life how THEY want to live it. Don't listen to anyone, just follow your dreams. You are the architect of your own life.
2006-10-18 10:20:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes i have let someone else change the way i view myself but later i realized that the way i felt about me was all that really mattered how other people see me isn't important it is how i feel.
2006-10-18 10:21:06 · answer #9 · answered by vixen63_babygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not change, but certainly offer a different perspective
2006-10-18 10:19:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋