Any suggestions?
2006-10-18 03:16:43 · 10 answers · asked by wizzygirl10 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry to hear about this. I know you must be in a quandry wondering what the heck is going on. First of all, if all you have gained is 10 pounds in 23 years of marriage, he should consider himself one lucky guy. Why this society thinks a middle-aged woman (or man) should weigh the same as they did at 20 is beyond my comprehension. My guess is there is more going on here. Have you tried talking about it with him? He may be going through a middle-age crisis, or may be having erectile difficulties. Not to depress you I hope, but my husband recently divorced me. We are both 50, both still thin and reasonably attractive. Our sex life was fine, but he suddenly "just wanted to be single". His business had taken off, he was suddenly making a lot of money, and I think just wanted to screw around. My point is, it is not necessarily your problem. You need communication and possibly counseling to get to the bottom of this. Best of luck to you.
2006-10-18 03:33:06 · answer #1 · answered by 13th Floor 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after 23 years of marriage, I do not think 10-30 lbs. would make a difference in sexual appeal. His sex drive could be diminishing if you think there is an issue with sex, not necessarily that his sexual attractveness for you dying. Believe it or not there does come a time when sex isn't as important or necessary is it once was. There is so much more to enjoy than coitus. Sex is so overrated. Talk to him it may not even be about sex.
2006-10-18 10:28:14 · answer #2 · answered by 817_TX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt it's the 10 pounds,, us girls add and drop 5 to 10 lbs all the time,, with monthly periods and bloating, and stress and everything else we put up with,, as someone who has been married for 6 yrs to someone who's not interested in sex,, and who has lost over 100 lbs,, it's not what you look like,, he didn't like me when I was fat and he doesn't like me now that I'm not,, everyone will tell you ,, it could be stress, or another woman/man,, it could be anything but the truth is until he decides to tell you why,, your just SOL,, you can try opening up to like adult movies,, or going to a strip club with him,, buying sexy clothes or nightgowns,, but in my experience it doesn't help.
Good luck I feel for you.
2006-10-18 10:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by B V 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 pounds isn't going to gain or lose his interest. Ask him if there is something you can do to get him interested again.... take him to the doctor if his interest is low..... force the issue now before it becomes an obsession with you both and someone or you both get hurt..... Good luck!!
2006-10-18 10:20:35 · answer #4 · answered by daj11551 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 pounds is not a big deal. He probably has something on the side. Sorry, but it is typical of alot of people to get bored with their long-term love and seek another new experience.
2006-10-18 10:56:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not much difference between weighing 230 and 240...that's not the problem....I think he's started to push back. Check his closet for chaps.
2006-10-18 10:19:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the gym......maybe is not your problem he can be stressed or the andropause talk wih him and ask him how his feeling about your marriage and about sex/
2006-10-18 10:19:16 · answer #7 · answered by haki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol ... it's obvious NO sexercise means !!!! I am not teasing you, it happens to me sometimes. ;)
2006-10-18 10:21:38 · answer #8 · answered by j t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask and say , :do you love me
2006-10-18 10:23:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please send me message , we can be true friends , reduce your weight please ,
2006-10-18 10:23:41 · answer #10 · answered by antony raja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋