He's one of my best friends and I know that he is working alot on his life to become a better man, mature, learn about who he is. I think maybe down the road we would be perfect. I don't know what to do to get rid of these feelings, so that I can still be around him. I get really mad at myself sometimes, because I know it's not healthy and my friends tell me all the time that I should let it go because I deserve better than him. FYI- I haven't told him how I feel...
2006-10-18 03:11:15 · 9 answers · asked by manyfacestosee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
What exactly is it that tells you it won't work? Perhaps you could help him work on his life to become a better man, be there as he and you mature, learn about each other and who you are..... If you are waiting for the perfect man, you will wait until you die because he doesn't exist...... Take into consideration what your friends say and why they say it, but ultimately, it's your life honey. I say unless he's a druggie, alcoholic or felon, go for it.
2006-10-18 03:15:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
can't believe all this "friends think I deserve better than him", "down the road he would be perfect"! ;-)
are you perfect? what are your friends judging the guy on? whether he wears fashionable clothes as opposed to the kind of person he is?
i've heard so much such "...expletive..." during my life, and then time and time again I've found that those who at one point "judged", "deserved better", and the like, ended up as the losers, the ones who felt sorry they missed the opportunity. (Incidentally, such people probably behave that way when younger, because somewhere deep inside they know that later on they'll be losers, so they try to have some influence while they can fool people).
Bottom-line: You "know" you have fallen in love? If you have fallen in love, and know it, then you should tell the guy and ignore what others say. If you have to think about it, and are influenced by others saying that you "deserve better", then clearly you're not in love, what's called love.
Good luck
2006-10-18 10:19:02 · answer #2 · answered by AntoineBachmann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were truly in love with him you would know what would be the best thing for you to do. Because if you don't want a relationship with him then how would you still be able to be just friends and nothing else, when you are in love with him? I think that, that would be a pretty hard thing to do. So you should keep him as your lover or just move on and go your separate ways.
Good Luck!
2006-10-18 10:44:50 · answer #3 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to how you feel because i had the same situation before with a good girl friend of mine. the thing is is he reliable enough that one day he'll still stay commited to you since you said "it won't work out now".
If he is on the right track improving himself I dont see why your friends would say you deserve someone much better than him, it's counter-intuitive, unless he had someone else in mind.
If not, then i think you should work it out with him being the one by his side as he grows and matures. the key here is is he "reliable".
boy...really hope that works out. wish you good luck.
2006-10-18 10:50:56 · answer #4 · answered by Tosh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your the one whose holding your life.You are the one who knows what and who will make you happy.Just be true to yourself,and whatever maybe the outcome good or bad you must accept it and go on with your life with him or without him atleast later on you will not have regrets of not letting him know. Good luck.
2006-10-18 10:32:38 · answer #5 · answered by kimy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOve on before you get more upset.
2006-10-18 10:20:17 · answer #6 · answered by Snuffy Smith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got a crush. good luck
2006-10-18 10:17:33 · answer #7 · answered by j t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it for the sex
2006-10-18 10:15:03 · answer #8 · answered by blueyedimpledguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then get over it
2006-10-18 10:14:45 · answer #9 · answered by desiree b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋