I have feelins for people of the same sex but of course i dont want ma parents knowin. I fink the last time i was with sum1 was like 7-8 years ago and i suppose SOME of ma actions are sorta lady-like, whats the best way to keep them from knowin ( although they're probably asking themselves already)
2006-10-18 03:10:37 · 23 answers · asked by Daveeed 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If your parents know you as well as they seem to do you can't stop them from knowing. However, what you do in the privacy of your relationship is your business and you can choose which parts of it to share with them. I think the major issue is not your parents, the question you need to ask is are you being hones with yourself???? It was rough for me to come out of the closet but i just don't feel i'm being myself if i have to pretend to be straight!!
2006-10-18 10:13:00 · answer #1 · answered by Atlanta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can cry in the closet all you want
but until you face what you are you will never be truly happy
judging by the fact you said 7-8 years ago you where last with some one i take it you are an adult
adults can do what they want if you do not want your parent finding out then don't tell them simple as that
they might already know
but if you do not want them to know
or care enough for them then don't tell them
be your self what ever that is
and be true to your self
if you need your parent to know then tell them find your moment
i think you are scared of them
and fear there rejection
i think we all do
ask them what they think about homosexuals
if they give you a nice answer tell them
but not on the night unless they ask you directly
if they say some homophobic answer
then make up your mind on it your self weather to tell them
be true to your self and every thing will fall into place
remember love has no boundaries race gender age or disability
2006-10-18 11:16:42 · answer #2 · answered by Zara3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, by lady-like I assume you mean feminine traits? Does this mean that you are assuming that they are assuming you are queer because you have some feminine traits? If you don't want your parents to know, then simply don't tell them. It is up to you.
You know coming out is a long process and involves really open communication.
I would visit a PFLAG, site or centre and get some information that you could discuss with your parents, or at least give your parents the information.
2006-10-18 10:19:41 · answer #3 · answered by Orditz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u need to check whether u are gay or bi curious... unless u derive physical and emotional gratification being with a guy... u cant say u are gay... but ur experiment can make sum other guy shatter emotionaly.You also need to be responsible enuff to bear da consequences of ur parents not accepting u as gay...and anyways theres no big deal in letting ur parents or the world know about ur feelings which are supposed to be personal and within the 4 walls. being gay doesnt mean its 2 be spread as an epidemic... anything achieved and enacted judiciously within the best of nature;s law is duly decent anything not needs 2 be reprimanded and despised!
2006-10-18 12:05:14 · answer #4 · answered by Vishy s 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Parents usually have the blinkers on when it comes to that sort of thing.
But if you are going out with someone, do you really want to worry that you'll run into you parents when you are with him? Perhaps move town?
But why don't you want them to know? Sooner you tell them, the sooner they will come round. Unless they are totally homophobic, in which case best avoided I suppose.
2006-10-19 10:15:12 · answer #5 · answered by helen g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a gay man myself, it is not the best way to live your life, hiding YOU from your parents or anyone else for that matter. You have to be yourself to get on in this world, and being a gay man is not such a bad thing today.......there are worse, just watch the news or read a newspaper...... GO ON, BE YOU.X
2006-10-18 13:32:29 · answer #6 · answered by PETE F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you could try dating a girl. Althought that wouldn't be that nice because you are only cating her to trick your parent in believing you aren't gay instead of genuinly liking the girl.
but i say in the end, the truths gotta come out and they really gota know for real. so tell them the truth when you think the times right
2006-10-18 10:14:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
are you gay or not?
do you even no?
just don't tell them and deny it! you don't even no your self by the sound of things, you might just be bi? experiment i have, i thought i was gay to as i had feelings for the same sex, but then realised there's nothin like a nice jucy c**k, a real 1, lol
find out 4 your self first then tell them. you should never be ashamed of who you are, especialy with those ur closest to.
2006-10-18 10:49:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never bring up the subject of relationships to them. Everytime my parents start to, I talk about how marriage is too expensive and how I do not like kids
2006-10-18 10:14:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who in the hell still cares what their parents think? God! Grow a pair. It may not seem like it now but that's the best advice you've ever been given.
2006-10-18 13:12:45 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋