i dont want my fiance to have a batchler party !does anyone else feel that way?

Question

we have been together for 5 years 3 babies and we love each other to death. he treats me like a queen!!! he has never cheated on me and has no desire to- however in my mind somewhere i feel that men cant turn it down if it's being thrown in their face. i guess i am a little insecure but i know im the one. ij truly believe that he wouldnt ruin our family for a $2.00 hoe. any one out there agree that a batchler party is not needed for a man about to get married?

Answer 1

Your trust issues should be a concern especially since your getting married. I doubt he has time with 3 kids in 5 years to screw around so let him go and have fun. Quit worrying

Answer 2

You admit that you are "a little insecure". You are sure the bachelor party is being given for your hubby to have sex. You are sure the dancer is willing to pounce on your man for 2.oo. What is going to happen to your life, your marriage, when sometime in the future your hubby meets the boys for a few games of pool at the bar, or works late and forgets to call you, or, takes a weekend for himself, to ride the rapids, or takes you to Las Vegas and disappears all night long, telling you he just was "experiencing Las Vegas"? There are SO many places, situations, temptations out there in this world that a man (or woman) could easily have sex ouside his marriage or relationship. Why get crazy over his bachelors' party? He may feel resentful or restricted if you tell him not to have this event. where-ever your man finds himself, in any situation, he has to want to VIOLATE your trust. No one can force a man to do something he knows will hurt the woman he loves. Give your man some space.

Answer 3

If you really feel that men can't turn it down when its thrown in their face, you're in for a long miserable marriage, cause married men get it offered to them on a platter all the time. A woman paid to perform at a party is the least of your worries... wait til your jealous of a coworker or the woman at the grocery store counter. You need a little perspective. A bachelor party is a tradition, and so are the strippers that come with it. It doesn't mean he's going to jeopardize your relationship. You'd better get used to it.... he's bound to be invited to other bachelor parties too..... for his brothers, cousins, friends, ect. Are you going to prevent him from participating in those too? You need to lighten up and trust him,..... if you can't, then you shouldnt be marrying him.

Answer 4

Your drained, your hormonal, you're becoming yet somebody else who's desiring you to do each little thing for it, no ask your self you're over "the club scene", lol. the comparable phenomenon got here approximately to me, I now have 2 young toddlers, one is 3 and one is 10m, and that i'm ttc #3. Sleep is greater considerable to me that one night of partying, additionally because of the fact i know i can pay interior the morning, loss of sleep or maybe if in case you do not drink you nevertheless get that hung over feeling, lol. Yawn, mattress is looking to me and it quite is in simple terms 10pm here, i'm going to not sleep a mutually as longer, yet pre toddlers and being pregnant i could have been up previous ineffective night each night, lol. it quite is humorous how over some issues you get once you're wearing yet another existence, lol Congratulations on your being pregnant and shield your self, although curiously like toddler is already doing that for you, ha ha.

Answer 5

The guy had never done anything to make you think he would go there, why would you make him give up a fun, goof of a night with friends? What makes you think he would even want to touch a 2.00 whore with a 10' pole? Give him some credit. I have to tell you, I wouldn't be marrying someone I even had a glimmer of a thought like that about. Besides, my ex husband told me those strippers are nasty anyway, the one at his party had a zit on her ***:)

Answer 6

I believe you have seen the movie Bachelor party one too many times. A bachelor party is a man's "right of passage" to the loving husband he will become. It is not required, but it sounds like he deserves it. I have been to many bachelor parties, and not one of them had a hooker. If you trust him, then trust him to do no more than get drunk, throw some dollars at strippers, and act like an idiot. Men need to act like idiots, and married men seem to lose the opportunity. Let him have one more chance.

Answer 7

You are extremely insecure and untrusting. Frankly I dont' think you ARE ready for marriage if you don't trust the man you are going to marry. Oh and one more thing, a hoe is a garden implement, I don't think Lowe's or Home Depot price them at $2.00 though.

Answer 8

It isnt needed....but....guys look at this as their last hurrah....the day life changes from single to family...... If he wants to have a party with his friends why would that bother you?.....You said he wouldnt do anything he shouldnt.....One of the keys to a good marriage is to always be happy for your partner when they get an opportunity to enjoy themselves, and believe it or not most of the enjoyment will be from having his good friends there to wish him luck. Imposing your will on him may get him to forgo the party, but its something you are making do, he will resent it and it will also make him sensitive to this kind of thing in the future

Answer 9

A party is not required if you've been acting married already. The traditional get it before the wedding thing does not fit your situation. On the other hand, Should he wish to get together with his friends at a site where no sex will occur then it might be doable.

Answer 10

I didn't really mind when my husband had his bachelor party. It was just a time where he could relax with his closest friends and throw a few beers back, without worrying about me for a change. I'm a firm backer of the bachelor party. You should get out there and have a bachelorette party! Girls night!