someone i know well has had strange experiences with being called ugly from their childhood(of course theyve been considered pretty to) but theyve held on to this and theyre female and just cant get over it sometimes.its gotten so bad that even when people arent saying they hear voices of people referring to them as ugly and have gotten so insecure that they are afraid to step outside the house and interact with people even though they are an adult now.oh yeah seeing a therapist and using medication is out at this point.Could you still get in a relationship with her and build her(for guys)?and could you still be her friend(for anyone)?
2006-10-18 03:02:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
Kids, especially siblings, never realize that what they say can affect someone's outlook for the rest of their life. Your friend needs self-assurance that she is indeed attractive, despite what others say. Wake up look in the mirror daily and say "I am a beautiful person both inside and out". Once she starts taking steps to build her self-confidence back, she'll get over the cruelty of childhood.
I'm not a guy, but a relationship isn't something I'd recommend right now because it would take too much work to reassure her that she's attractive. I doubt the relationship would last because of her self-doubt...She really needs to believe it of herself, and it will transpose to others.
Be her friend, yes, but even adult friends can be tire of having to reassure her of her looks over and over again. The constant propping her up would get in the way of the friendship.
Tell her to believe it of herself and others will (and they probably do already since this is all in her mind) will believe it too! Your friend could certainly learn a thing or two from 'Ugly Betty'.
2006-10-18 03:44:45 · answer #1 · answered by Survivors Ready? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Verbal and emotional abuse is more than sad. If this young woman is hearing it as voices now, more is going on. I'm glad to hear she is seeking help from a therapist. As far as a relationship with her goes, you already know it won't be easy, so take it slow. Be her friend, and always be honest. Go on-line and learn about what's going on, talk with medical professionals. Then you can determine what kind of relationship you really want with her.
2006-10-18 03:35:56 · answer #2 · answered by Joy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be her friend if she was a nice person it really doesn't matter what you look like, if you're friendly and have a good heart people will see that. There's always someone who's shallow and stupid and hey they're the ones missing out on a good friend and have to deal with their shallow friends who won't be there when things get really rough. But there's always someone who can see beyond that and see the real person. But she has to work on herself and show that and realize that ultimately we have to be our own best friends and make it in life on our own. Hiding and being afraid its just precious time wasted because life is short. It takes time and work to become the person we want to become but its so worth it in the end.
2006-10-18 03:18:30 · answer #3 · answered by honey27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can still be her friend but it will take a lot of patience. It sounds to me that she has been so verbally abused that she has developed Agoraphobia-fear of going outside and is being tormented by herself. This is a total shame. No one should be abused like this. Hearing voices is when no one is around is not good either. I think you are a really good person to try to help her. Is there going to be a time when she can go to a therapist because it sounds like she needs one.
2006-10-18 03:17:00 · answer #4 · answered by greylady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i never called anyone ugly. specially for the sake of making fun. besides since i work in a magazine i TRULLY believe that everybody CAN BE beautiful as long as they know how to apply their make up, knows how to dress, and not take things too seriously. This is no exception no matter how fat or weird you think you look, make up work wonders baby!
2006-10-18 03:23:45 · answer #5 · answered by sassy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you should start out as being a friend to make her know that she isn't ugly and has someone to comfort her. Then when she feels more confidant about herself, then she should(maybe?)be ready for a relationship.but it is best to start out as a friend. I hope she's alright!
2006-10-18 03:13:00 · answer #6 · answered by Raven H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dunno but maybe the person wants to feel like she is the prettiest in the WORLD or maybe she juz didn't mean it. juz 4 u 2 know, i'm not a person who calls somebody else ugly. everbody is beautiful in their own ways. GOOD LUCK WIF UR FREN.
2006-10-18 03:19:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. I know what you are talking about.
2006-10-18 03:11:13 · answer #8 · answered by chazzer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋