Me and my Husband both are busy people, we dont spend much time together.
When we do he is moody. I dont know what is wronge with him.we have only been married 1 year.
I just want him to be in love with me again.
Any sugestions?
2006-10-18 03:00:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been divorced for a while but was married for 10 years. The first year of any marriage is tough for a bunch of reasons. The biggest reason though is a feeling on the guys end that his single life is over. You're his "ball and chain." Most likely he needs to feel not married to you for a bit which sounds really strange.
YOu can't make anyone fall in love with you again but you can do some things to bring the feelings out again. I would find a night that the two of you are free together. You may have to make the time. Don't ask, just bring him out to a light dinner and dancing - whatever you guys did when you were dating.
WHile you're out whisper something in his ear like "I want to make you king tonight" you know... something that will get his engine running. Purr, whisper, romance him. Every guy likes that stuff. Then make him king and hold your promise.
Guys see intimacy through physical stuff and women see intimacy as emotional. If you give him physical he will give you emotional. Believe me it works.
2006-10-18 03:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by Jeromy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him love you, but you can be a good wife, great friend and wonderful lover. The only things you can do is be a better you. You can't make a better him, in fact, that would be counter productive. Men don't change, but their environment can. Don't force it by asking him all the time what he's thinking, or pointing out what's wrong with him (like that fact that he's so moody).
To men, women represent what is good about home. The smells, the feeling, the look. Unfortunately for women, most (not all) men marry because they want the big three: Good Food, Sex, and being accepted for who they are. It's really quite simple. They don't get as complicated as women, we tend to think too deeply about things. Start looking at all the good things that he brings to the relationship and thank him once in a while for it. Be happy to see him when you both get off work.
That said, if he's abusive, lazy, alcoholic, or so unhappy with himself that he's making the marriage miserable, the real question you should be asking is what you're doing with him. Think about this long and hard before considering children.
Check on the web for symptoms of depression. Are his symptoms classic? I thought my husband had depression, but instead set up an appointment for a sleep apnea test. It turned out he was suffering from severe sleep apnea. He's now on a machine at night to help him sleep better. I also slightly increased his vitamin intake with extra B complex and folate. The combination of these three really helped. We noticed the change together after a week. He's now doing great.
2006-10-18 03:16:43 · answer #2 · answered by Janet H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being moody doesn't mean he's not in love with you anymore. If you're both really busy and don't get alot of time together, maybe THAT is what his problem is??? Talk to him... find out whats going on. Don't be confrontational or argumentative,... just be concerned and tell him what you're worried about too. Communication is the key. If your fears are correct, and he's not in love with you anymore... unfortunately I don't know of any tricks to make him fall back in love with you. If there were any, nobody would be unhappy.
2006-10-18 03:12:16 · answer #3 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This does happen when you don't spend time together just for the 2 of you. It did happen to me years ago & continued for yrs due to hubby being out of town 48 weeks of the year w/business. I did get angry w/life but knew my home & sons were not going to feel the effects of our "distance". I did everything a dad shoulda done-burried puppies, replaced w/new puppies,ruled with an iron hand & help from other male family members-when I called on them.
But...for my own way of keep us together--when he was home, I had him so special,everything and anything he needed,I had it there & usually handed it to him, I'd wash,iron & starch all his white dress shirts,deliver his cleaning to drycleaners & pick up,prepare his most favorite food, handled his calls. It took a few yrs for him to see I was the backbone of his success. I stayed home, I had my business at home & worked, he in turn supplied us with a very comfortable lifestyle of living. It does take 2 when married to make everything work inside the marriage...Was I lonely? You bet,did I feel cheated & left out, more times than there were days in the year. Then he begin to realize I was there with him,altho he was on the west coast & me on the east coast.His male friends would praise me in front of him & others & he became proud that other guys envied him, having a woman in the shadow of his life that held the fort down while he was bringing in the gold. Just make your spouse's life so easy,so comfortable and show them how special they are--without saying it,but doing what you can to "show them the love". They will see & feel your importance when you least know it...put those little notes of "miss U, Love you more than chocolate, have a great day/week/trip" in their shaving kit...and don't forget the notes where U kiss the miss U notes with lipstick kisses from your lips.
Don't give up.U can show your presence when you are apart. The most attention reminder I left in his shaving kit was..a very sexy pair of my panties...business picked up w/him after that.
2006-10-18 03:29:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you 2 need a couple of days off together.Are you sure he isn't seeing someone? Moody attitudes when you haven't done anything wrong suggests guilt...in many cases. Is your house messy? Some guys get moody when the house is trashed, even if you work a lot also. Maybe he needs you to be waiting for him naked and get some good old fashioned head.
2006-10-18 03:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by jakkibluu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 23 years. Just the past 6 months my sex life came to a zero. I believe because I gained 10 pounds and hes not interested. Try sprucing yourself up.
2006-10-18 03:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by wizzygirl10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself you dont spend much time together. You need to change that, maybe go away for a weekend, but that will only be a short term fix, you need to rearrange your life styles to have a time set aside in the week for just you two. Maybe make sunday afternoon your time, or whenever.
2006-10-18 03:03:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am going through a divorce, and I would really wonder why he is moody if you don't spend much time together. Not to scare you but, is there someone else. This sounds to familiar.
2006-10-18 03:12:43 · answer #8 · answered by sapphire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every day, for the next 30 days, commit to treating him like he is the most wonderful person in the entire world, and your world just revolves around him. Tell him you love him, please him often, remind him that you love him for who he is and you are so happy to be with him, etc. Within 30 days, he will be doing the same for you and love will re-appear in your life like you want it to. Good luck, honey. Make time for each other. Schedule it.
2006-10-18 03:09:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is found when both take each other lovingly. Problem with most people - taking one another for granted.
Work on your marriage and don't point a finger at hubby for not working on it. Patience, patience and loads of love and your marriage works. Think positive.
2006-10-18 03:10:37 · answer #10 · answered by j t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋