Is it better to leave or stay if a small child is involved?

Question

Couple is not married and they were planning to move to the boyfriend's home state, Florida, next year. However, they hate a serious love/hate relationship and they have a small child. It seems as if they're staying together primarily because of the child.

What do you think?

Answer 1

If they are still going to remain in the child's life, it is better for them to stay together, believe it our not, unless there is some form of abuse, especially physical going on. Try to get along and make the best of it, if for no other reason for the sake of the child. Get counseling with or without your partner, but preferably with. Good luck.

Answer 2

It will effect the child more if they stay in a unhealthy relationship opposed to staying together just for the child. The mother and father will be happier apart therefore the child will be happier because the parents are and its better to leave now while the child is young. Its either that or getting counseling to save the relationship so everyone can be happy.

Answer 3

Sounds like me and my boyfriend! We are currently in the midst of seperating! I think that the child being around all the fighting is going to cause more damage than if we seperate! So we are seperating! I don't want my son around all the termoil and it is easier for them to understand at a young age than say when the baby isn't a baby anymore!! 5 and 6 year old really know whats going on! I say leave while you still can!!

Answer 4

the worst thing you can do is stay together just for the child. yes it is hard to deal with it and to discuss it with the child but it is better to get out of that relationship than to cause more pain on the child by abuse. if can helped dont move to far away from eachother but far enougph away to be comfortable with the distance and the child still has both parents.

Answer 5

I think if they are fighting in front of the child it is doing more harm than splitting up ever would. Sometimes though that is what makes a relationship stronger. Not for me, but I have seen it before. Crazzies thats what I call iem'. But the child will still have issues.

Answer 6

The child should not be subjected to their hate days...by seperating and having visitation...the child will see more love days...also it could make the relationship stronger...but then again...it could show that they are better off with their own lives seperate and sharing the caring and loving of the small child....the child will thrive with less tension...good luck

Answer 7

if they can stick it out and compromise then it might not be a problem. however if one is passive aggressive and unwilling to communicate and compromise it will end badly. if violence or sporatic behavior is involved in any way it is better to leave. tho if that is the case then make sure to get something in writing that states the other party will help out iwth cost of childcare

Answer 8

well if the relationship is bad it's probably better to leave because it could get violent and you don't want your child to get involved with that. I know lots of single parrents that have suceeded in raising their children right. :-) So just leaves before it gets nasty

Answer 9

I think relationships and children are 2 different things...if it's a love /hate, then it's unhealthy and most likely doomed...they should end it while the kid is young, so the kid doesn't remember the trauma--and drama.

Answer 10

stay if the you have a child it will effect them horribley if u do people dont think if u leave it effects the child big time they could get depression when they get older the child could get devistated just like i did when my parents didnt stay together it hurts the child big time