My new boyfriend is 48 yrs old, and I am 36. Sex with him is very satisfying for me, but almost 50% of the time, he does not climax. To clarify, there is no issue with him getting or maintaining an erection, I am just left wondering why he doesn't climax every time. I don't want to ask him in case I am concerned about nothing and I don't want to risk making him feel insecure in bed either.
2006-10-18 02:52:06 · 9 answers · asked by CallMeStupid 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
I have a younger boyfriend of 35 with a similar problem. When we first started dating he didn't climax a lot of the time and he made excuses. I was concerned and thought maybe something was wrong with me, so I pursued it further. Ultimately he needed something different than what I was doing, not that it was my fault, he just had a harder time than most men. Talking with him and working with what he likes made it better. He probably already feels insecure, mine did. Just try different things and ask him if he likes it, take notice of his movements and his noises. It will pay off for the both of you.
2006-10-18 03:09:19 · answer #1 · answered by melodyzsong214 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, avoiding bad impression or let him be insecure, it had been good for you asking around now! Since we are men, the answers will be true helping your decision anyway.
Well, the causes because he often gets no orgasm are two:
- because he needs more time and when he feel you already are fully satisfied, try to stop independently from his own climax.
- because his excitement (lust) goes down at once and he is obliged to stop as soon as possible.
At last, it could be useful know if he is using the blue pill.
2006-10-18 10:25:38 · answer #2 · answered by whole_feelings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it hard to believe, you are willing to discuss this with us, but not him! Just ask him girl! He is obviously a mature man! I think he will be glad you asked, rather than upset or insecure! Maybe his true pleasure is pleasing you! In which case, you are extremely lucky!
2006-10-18 09:57:31 · answer #3 · answered by rebecca_sld 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it may be his age, beings hes getting older, most men have problems with sex starting at his age. He needs to discuss it with his doctor and he can help him understand more about whats going on.
2006-10-18 10:02:23 · answer #4 · answered by bbwg_hbic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean he doesn't orgasm, or doesn't ejaculate? There is a difference. Some men don't ejaculate everytime, it may be retrograde for him (goes backwards). If he doesn't orgasm everytime, that may just be his norm, just as it is for some women. If you're both satisfied, don't worry about it. Otherwise, have him see a urologist and/or sexual dysfunction specialist.
2006-10-18 11:36:59 · answer #5 · answered by But Inside I'm Screaming 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best sex partners are the ones you can be the most open and honest with, that being said I don't think asking him about it would be impolite or rude.
2006-10-18 10:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Noodle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that you are doing it too frequently. As men get older, their refractory period gets longer. They need longer down time before they can orgasm again. If it does not bother him, don't worry about it.
2006-10-18 10:20:48 · answer #7 · answered by Alfonsio Ledbetter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs more.....it may take a couple of your frineds to help....
2006-10-18 09:56:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
prostate exam!!!
2006-10-18 09:55:33 · answer #9 · answered by c_autumn_b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋