Or are you completely satisfied with your current spouse? Do you ever wonder what if I had stayed with ***** how different my life would be?
2006-10-18 02:50:27 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that is completely normal. Even if you are completely satisfied with the one your with. Doesn't mean you want to leave and go find this other person (in some cases). It is just human to wonder "What if?" I wonder all the time what happened to my highschool sweetheart. I even miss him alot. But I love my man more than ever and wouldn't trade him in for highschool sweetheart or any other.
2006-10-18 02:57:05 · answer #1 · answered by determined26a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ironic! My current situation resurfaced this ? For years I thought about the one that got away. As time passed, I learned to accept it. At present, the one who got away...has returned. I thought I was completely satisfied with my current spouse...in alot of ways, I am happy with the love and support that he has given and provided for me throughout the years. In retrospect...I never "got" what I had with the one that got away. Naturally, life would be different...but, you've got to ? for better or worse? There are soooo many factors involved. What does your heart say? What does your head say? Are you willing to take the chance? You only live once. Be happy. Find love. Enjoy life. Perhaps discuss your concerns with your current spouse. Its not easy, to be alone with your thoughts.
2006-10-18 03:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by Summerbead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll admit it. I constanly think of my one real love, the one that "got away", if you will...but we still keep in touch..and i always have the hope that someday we might get another chance...still loving him hasn't stopped me from living my life...and much has changed since he and i were together...but we'll always love each other, and be there for each other...hey, you never know...but as much as i love him, he's not what controls or rules my life...now more than ever i am determined to achieve my career and educational goals, whether he's around or not...so you can only blame your disatisfaction with your spouse/life so far...only you can make the changes you desire, so do it...you might be surprised where and with whom you end up someday...
2006-10-18 03:04:07 · answer #3 · answered by HRM Queen Victoria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is human nature to wonder "what if?"... especially in terms of past relationships. Even happily married people have their quarrels and difficulties, and I think it is in those times of dissatisfaction that I sometimes think "***** would never do those kinds of things". But I doubt that is reality. I truly believe that if I were to change partners, I would only be trading my current problems for new ones. And my life is pretty good right now. So I keep it as a daydream, but not as something I would pursue.
2006-10-18 03:03:46 · answer #4 · answered by wwlees 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever felt that you have lived a whole lifetime in one moment - well that was for me with my ex - well am hoping he'll come back. his my first and last...... believe me if you didnt get over your last you wouldn't have moved on...... i moved on in my career but not love life.... i guess memories are OK but see it as this.... memories always seem nicer after time lapse... when they are the present there not as great.... so your just trying or r reliving the past thinking it was so great in ur current problems..... do great things with your spouse and make fresh memories for you both to rethink together in a couple of years......... x
2006-10-18 03:04:18 · answer #5 · answered by apple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they got away there was a reason they did. i think about past relationships at times and try to focus on the good in them. And there are some that maybe if the timing was right etc... could have worked out but they did not and you can only cherish the memories now.
2006-10-18 06:22:06 · answer #6 · answered by itsamylynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I try not too, I think you should live your life with no regrets if possible. What is done is done, and sadly you cannot change it. Try to be happy with where you are in your life. If you still cannot it may not be that you were satisfied by your former companion but that you are unhappy with something else in your life right now, and you are trying to rationalize that feeling.
2006-10-18 02:57:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, everyone thinks about that one, but I wouldn't change the one I have. I'm very happy with the man that I married, and I wouldn't ever trade him for the one that got away. Things happen for a reason.
2006-10-18 03:17:51 · answer #8 · answered by BeezKneez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...don't have one, don't mean to sound full of myself because I'm not, but I've always had a hard time getting them to leave when I want them to. And now I'm getting a divorce and when I think about what it would have been like if I had stayed, I cringe.
2006-10-18 03:55:43 · answer #9 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think about the last woman I dated before I got married all the time.
2006-10-18 03:39:58 · answer #10 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋