He owns property. I don't. I have a car payment. He doesn't. I bring home over $800 per week, including my child support from my girls' dad. He brings home about $500 per week, after paying his child support. My two girls live with us full time, his three boys live with us 50% of the time. We agreed that what he had before our marriage is his (and his children's), and I signed away my rights of ownership on our house (after an argument), since that was the only way he would agree to stay together.
2006-10-18 02:49:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Other than finances, everything is perfect. REALLY!!
2006-10-18 02:49:25 · update #1
Whatever the two of you work out together will work best.
Personally I think it was smart of him to keep his assets from before the marriage. The assets the two of you build together can and should be split.
But I can understand your need to have a safety cushion too. Maybe you can have a savings account in your name only. And have a joint checking account where you pool amounts needed to pay household expenses.
2006-10-18 02:54:16 · answer #1 · answered by Don't Know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY did you marry at all? If you're having troubles over the finances NOTHING in your marriage is perfect or even right. You needed to rethink this entire relationship BEFORE you got married, now you are basically screwed if anything happens, and what is worse, so are your children. If your current husband wants you out of the home you and your children will be basically homeless...I can not fathom what would bring a mother to do such a thing to her children...
2006-10-18 10:28:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like either this guy is carrying literally a ton of baggage, or he's just selfish. If you bought that house together, you deserve rights to it. If he insists on having exclusive rights to the house, then he should pay for it, all on his own. BUT I know what it's like to try to keep the peace. If you pool money with him, I would only include as much as he puts in. The rest of your money should be put aside in an account for you to have something to fall back on in case something happens. You have children, and its important that you have some way to take care of them if this relationship goes south. My husband and I pooled everything and we never argued about money, but my husband would have never tried to take my rights to the house away either.
2006-10-18 10:14:41 · answer #3 · answered by GAgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We pool our money.....we talk about finances regularly...we also have a standing agreement that niether of us will make any purchase over a sey amount without telling the other first. In your situation, if you two purchased the house after you got together it is wrong of him to have you sign it away. If he owned the house beforhand he is legally entitled to any equity that existed befor you two got togther. If he insists that the house is all his, I would insist that he remortgage it in his name only so you wouldnt be on the hook. It seems wrong that he is protecting himself but putting you in a situation that you will be obligated for a loan on something that you have no rights to.
2006-10-18 09:58:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of information. Best suggestion is to keep all lines of communication open between the two of you. Have been married 37 years and still find it hard to discuss money with wife.
2006-10-18 12:16:48 · answer #5 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he made you sign over your rights to the house, then he is going to the extreme to protect himself. There is no reason why you shouldn't do the same. Do not pool your finances.
2006-10-18 10:05:54 · answer #6 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We do your money-my money and split the bills. Not evenly or in half or anything. The house is mine, I pay for it. He pays for incidentals, food, insurance, etc. In the end it all balances out but, I'm telling you what...WE NEVER ARGUE ABOUT MONEY. If he wants to go out and by something I think is stupid, so what, not my money. On the flip side, the same thing applies to me. I never have to worry about him b*tching me out for blowing "his" money on something stupid. I'll never co-mingle funds again!
2006-10-18 10:06:31 · answer #7 · answered by Zelda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not worry your interests are primary and whatever income is from you will be devoted only to your clients and only after that his concern would come.
2006-10-18 09:55:05 · answer #8 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 accounts, yours, mine, ours.
2006-10-18 10:13:23 · answer #9 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋