should i tell him?

Question

its me again im too young to have this baby that not the only reason im not ready i was a virgin when i met him so i know nothing about any one else only him i dont want to loose him.i love him very much im nineteen i know im making a big decision but i so stressed out i cant deal with it im so scared pls give advice you all helped alot thankyou

Answer 1

It is your body, but it isn't only your baby. You need to tell him. If you decide to give the baby up for adoption then he will have to sign papers too. If you keep the baby then he will be legally responsible to take care of it. You didn't get pregnant by yourself, and you shouldn't have to deal with the consequences by yourself either.

If you love him you don't need to know anything about anyone else. I think the fact that you were a virgin when you got together is a good thing. If you don't want to loose him just tell him.. If he dumps you now, you are way better off without him. Good luck. I know it seems scary now, but everything will work out.

Answer 2

Hi there I am 20 yrs old an have just found out that I am around 6 weeks pregnant I had a miscarriage 8 weeks ago so my whole life is up in the air with this at the moment. I dont know how to feel or what to do. All i can say is even though you think you are too young for this it might be the making of you. I know of 2 other girls that are both 19 and both have 2 children each. Your very lucky that your boyfriend is standing by you as the 2 girls I know are both raising them single handed. I am lucky like you that my boyfriend is standing by me and he wants this child. You shouldnt rush into any decisions as you may regret them in only a couple of weeks time, it could also end the relationship with your boyfriend if you disagree with what you should do.(Not that you should do what he wants and not think about what you want) I think you should both go and see a Family Planning Clinic where a consultant there will talk both of you through your options and then you can make a planned well informed decision that both of you agree on. Best of Luck with what ever you decide. XX

Answer 3

Yes you should tell the guy you're pregnant. It helps to have someone's(the guy in particular) support, it relieves some of the pressure b/c if he's any kind of man he won't let you go through this alone. Only a jerk would 1. not be there for you, 2. try to convince you to get an abortion. If this is his response then his only concern is for himself.
A man with some substance and character would take responsibility for his actions.
You are nineteen, you are not too young to have a baby, I've seen people younger have babies and take care of their business.
Someone mentioned your mom as a help, if you haven't told her you should after you tell the guy. She might be dissappointed at first so they guy can help you thru that phase as well.
But if anything a baby brings two people closer together, if he doesn't have any other children then it will be an experience that only the two of you will share together and that's special but don't have the baby for him or to keep him, have the baby b/c the baby deserve to live and have you as a mother.

Answer 4

Hun,you first must calm down.You have to speak to him as well as your family and his family.Ultimately,you have to make the decision as whether to keep this child or not,but you also do need to consider their input.You have nine months to make this choice.You have two options in front of you.I say two,because i do not believe that abortion is an option that could be considered in any circumstance.First,adoption:You can place this child up for adoption.There are many couples out there who long for a child.They have the finances,are ready for a child yet they cant concieve or carry a child.They would love this baby regardless of the circumstance in which it was brought into this world.Now,they have what is called an open adoption.This allows you to be in the childs life so that as this child grows older you arent a mystery.You keep in contact with this child throughout its life.You keep in touch by pictures,letters,email,phone calls and in some situations weekly visits.Another option you must consider is keeping this child.It isnt impossible and as you may be scared there are many who have children and still continue with their jobs and even college in some situations.You must speak to your family.It wont be easy,but with a stable support system you can do it.There are many who do it everyday.Do not rush into a decision now,there are 9 months to consider it and decide.You will make the right decision for you.Dont allow anyone to force you into a decision you are not prepared for,but consider their opinion and consider it.Good luck,and take your time in deciding as this is a huge decision you will have to live with for the rest of your life.

Answer 5

I think you should tell him that you are pregnant and see how he reacts. You have to sit down and decide how important this child is to you... There are many options you have to choose from and what it comes down to is who is more important, the child or your boyfriend. You have to make the choice and go from there.

For me, the child is more important, but I am already a mom. I also had an unplanned pregnancy and at the time I had absolutely no idea how much I would love this baby. I remember thinking of what I was going to do, and looking back on it, I can't believe that I even thought of adoption or anything other than keeping her. I know its hard to see in your future, but this baby will mean the world to you someday

Answer 6

I agree with Moon Goddess. Nine months to ultimately decide, yes, but a lifetime to deal with regrets. If you're too young to have a baby as you say, and you're reaching out to strangers for advice, you've got a lot of homework to do. YOU HAVE TO TELL YOUR MOM, or clergy or doctor or something. Also, let me mention, if you're young, and you think you're sooooo in love with him, yet you were a virgin, you probably don't even know what love is yet - not trying to be condescending but in the scope of things, you still have a lot of living and learning to do.

And how old is this guy? Is he your age, virginal and all that, too? Tell your mom before you do anything. It's gonna be hard, but believe you me, if anybody knows where you're coming from, it'll be your mom.

Answer 7

Tell the father. Do not pressure him. Both of you should decide whether to keep the baby or put it up for adoption,although the final say is yours. Whatever you do , do not threaten him with the child. Some men react very negatively to pregnancy and hurt the mother.

Answer 8

Calm down baby girl. I don't know how you feel at this moment, but just take a moment by urself and try not to think of anything at all, just enjoy the fresh breeze.

Answer 9

There are some alternatives to having the baby. You sould find someone close to you to talk to. Or try your local Planned Parenthood.

Answer 10

Although it may be embarrassing and humiliating there's only one real person who can help you through this:

Your Mom.

No matter what you've done wrong your mom will always be there for you any time any day any year.