I met this guy at a conference. He said things like 'i really connected with you' etc etc. He was kind of cool. We started talking and all. And suddenly he is not picking my calls or calling anymore. He works in the same organisation so i can see him online. Its not like he has disappeared. After some calls and messages, he once picked my call and said 'sorry, its my mistake, i am so busy etc etc'. I dont believe any of it and know that i should move on. But i CANT. I call him back atleast once in 10 days and a no reply breaks my heart. Makes me think what foolish thing did i do, and all. How can i get him out of my head.
2006-10-18 02:40:40 · 18 answers · asked by vittrash 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Not knowing what foolish thing you did it's hard to say why he is ignoring you. It could be a number of things, he could be extremely busy. Could be he has a girlfriend. Could be that he just isn't that into you as you are into him.
Take a step back. Most guys don't like a girl who clings to them so to speak, not saying you are at all. It just seems that you're trying to hard. Play the waiting game, he may contact you if you just give him a little space, show that your not interested.
Maybe he decided it wasn't the best thing because you work for the same organization.
How do you get him out of your head? Keep yourself busy. Yeah easier said than done, right? You just have to occupy yourself with other things, going to the gym, hanging out with friends, just anything.
Don't get yourself worked up over this. If anything was meant to be it will be, if it isn't there's someone else out there that either you'll connect with or you'll break his heart. :)
2006-10-18 02:48:51 · answer #1 · answered by Lori D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm......i am not the best to answer this as I'm in the same situation - well read my Q ' Help......Love!!!'. i wanted to reply to you as i wonder what my reply will be.... i dont understand men... but people tell me that my guy may have sum1else i say no coz he was dedicated when were together, however it can be.... Or its just that he is over worked..... i know your in the same company and you have idea of the work load... but me and my guy are both in the same profession but he works in another area in another firm thus the work load depends..... Now be strong!!!! dont do anything....... do not txt or call...... Ur hurting and u will..... Its the way it is.... Wait for his call it will come.... I'm waiting! when you stop calling he will think n feel your absence!!! you did create memories didnt you...
oh i wish you the very best with this - i really do... Just be strong i know its hard but concentrate on work n other things....
2006-10-18 09:53:41 · answer #2 · answered by apple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more you think to forget about him, the more he gets in your head. So be calm. Take a break, go for some outing. Change your routine and get some vacations. Meet other peoples & try to solve their problems. You need to change your environment. For next time, don't get so many expectations from someone that you like in your first meetings.
2006-10-18 10:34:35 · answer #3 · answered by emmshazi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a jerk- he used you for his own amusement and ego satisfaction. He probablly enjoys the way you are suffering. If you really want to pursue a sadist, have at it, but I would reccommend you find someone who will truly appreciate you. This guy does not deserve you and should wear a warning label so other women don't become victims of his narcissism.
2006-10-18 09:44:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he may have led you on. If he really believes that he "connected" with you, then he'll call you when he's ready. I've been in your shoes and frankly, quit calling him, and it almost killed me! I cried for over a week straight... until he finally called and said "where have you been?!?" Let him go hon! He's not worth the trouble! And if he is, he'll be back!
2006-10-18 09:44:22 · answer #5 · answered by Julie R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
realize he is avoiding you. he does not want to talk or see you. doesn't have to be anything u did or said its just what he wants. refusing to move on is kind of creepy and the klingy thing may be what turned him off in the first place . he knows how to get u if he wants to and he obviously doesn't so forget it .
2006-10-18 09:45:50 · answer #6 · answered by skylinbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe this guys married, engaged, or really too busy with life for a relationship. its human nature to want to be desired. his flirtatious nature was to insure that he still has it, and that others still want him. thats all, nothing more, just feeding his EGO.
now if ya want to get this guy out of your head, this is what I would do. Ask yourself what kind of person would go around asking others to feed their EGO? 2nd would you really want someone with characteristics of that nature in your life?
2006-10-18 10:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by Angelo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend stopping the 10 calls per day. It makes you look like a psycho.
2006-10-18 09:45:08 · answer #8 · answered by David B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he was just making idle conversation. His actions speak louder than words. Always remember that. It is what it is.. Hard but true.
2006-10-18 09:46:52 · answer #9 · answered by garcia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get on with your life!
He is not interested, married, or in a relationship and doesn't want to cheat.
Find someone new.
Dave
2006-10-18 09:46:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋