I'm meant to be going to a concert tonight with my friend, although i think we're meeting other people at the train station into the town. I had just finalised plans with him, when he phones me up and says that he needs to go in with his other friend because she will be alone in town for a while.should i be mad at him?I also fell out with my friend this week because she keeps ditching me, and cancelling our plans to see her boyfriend. I find myself getting upset really easily at stuff too...maybe i'm depressed?it seems pathetic.
2006-10-18 02:30:47 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think anyone would be mad at someone for ditching them or changing plans, but whats done is done. tell him how you feel about it and carry on.
2006-10-18 02:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by ljk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think being angry with him will make a difference. You will just feel worse, you are obviously feeling a bit rejected as you think he has ditched you in favour of his other friend, but maybe you are over analysing. Maybe he is going in with the other friend as she will geuninely be on her own. Maybe the other friend has anxiety problems and can't be on her own. He may think you are able to cope on your own and she can't. As for your other friend, cancelling once or twice is o.k but if she is cancelling on a regular basis she would probably prefer to be with her boyfriend and is too lazy to make the effort to see you.
It sounds like you are depressed as you are investing a lot of thought into analysing this. Perhaps if you were feeling tip top it wouldn't really bother you that much. See your doctor he, or she can help you if you are suffering from depression. I've been there so don't worry things will get better. Good luck
2006-10-18 09:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by Muffin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should distance yourself from them for a while. All this means is that you are becoming to attached to them and not realizing that they have other friends too. You shouldn't get mad but let the person know that you feel that what they are doing isn't right. And just like he's taking someone esle, do the same! go find you someone esle to be with for a little while and take a step back from them.
2006-10-18 09:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by K G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be mad at him but you seem like a sympathetic person and probably everyone thinks you will just always understand show them or tell them that its dissaponting when they change plans and show them you will not take it I mean how would they feel if the situation was reversed!
2006-10-18 09:34:16 · answer #4 · answered by Fuck off 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, it is pathetic, I suggest you seek someone to talk to, get some help to overcome the depression, and find new friends as those you mention are probably bored or tired of you.
2006-10-18 09:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by Wandering Critic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, just be patient.
If it continues more than a week then tell them that you need to talk.
Anger only breeds anger, don't do that mistake, anger will make your life miserable, I've been there for a very long time, so that's what I'm advising you to do.
2006-10-18 09:37:21 · answer #6 · answered by chaos200622 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I would have to say that you need to start looking for other friends. You don't have to be angry with them, because anger just affects your feelings and you don' need to feel bad. I would let them do there thing and you do yours and let them call you when there ready to go out with you. You can't force friendship and it begins with you reaching out to others. John
2006-10-18 09:40:45 · answer #7 · answered by John W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be angry, but before you get ahead of yourself, try talking to your friend. Confrontation solves a lot more than you would think!
2006-10-18 09:32:25 · answer #8 · answered by Harsh Noise Wall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend sucks, but he isn't worth your being angry with him.
probably this guy and your other friend made you feel bad, so I don't think you're depressed, you just had a rotten time because of these people.
2006-10-18 09:34:11 · answer #9 · answered by Vage Centurian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hve you tried to consider that perhaps your boyfriend and your girlfriend have something to be doing with each other. Or perhaps FCUK him and FCUK her and chill with other friends. and when they want to chill and make plans you say no , I have already made new plans sorry .. Good LUck
2006-10-18 09:35:02 · answer #10 · answered by spriege 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋