my wife and i been married for 3 years and have a 2 y.o girl weve been apart more than together..her mother has no husband and makes my wife feel guilty when shes with me....we finally decided to start a new life and moved to florida 2 months ago 3 days ago she decides to go back to be with her mother in new york and left with my baby girl without even saying goodbye we were getting our lives together.. but she does this all the time.. should i take her back, if she decides to come back? im wearing so thin but i miss my little girl any help?
2006-10-18 02:10:15 · 10 answers · asked by Felix R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO, I would move on. You deserves to be treated better than that. And I'm afraid she will continue to treat you like that forever. I know you miss your daugther, but you need to build a good life for yourself before you can give a good life to someone else.
2006-10-18 02:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a lawyer! Because if your wife doesn't want to be a wife and at the same time she's taking away your privileges of being a father to your daughter, you need to start having some type of custody arrangements made. I don't care if your wife goes to the moon. Also you should ask your wife what is it that she seriously wants to do. Be with you or be around her mother. I'm a mother and I never get into my children's business unless it is absolutely necessary or if it is requested. Of course they are all grown up now. But you have a 2 year old that needs to know who her dad is. And I can appreciate this question because you don't find a lot of men in this world who care about their children. You're a good person. Now make it work for you. Even if you have to get a lawyer.
2006-10-18 02:19:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to make a choice and stick with it. You need to talk with her, but calmly if at all possible. Try to point out that your little girl is going to end up in the same position as she is if she can't make her marriage a priority. It's not acceptable behaviour to up and leave without any explanation as she has done to you. I would not take her back too willingly, because she will get the idea that she can come and go as she pleases and walk all over you. I'm sorry that I can't be more positive about your situation, but I don't see this having a happy conclusion without a lot of work from both of you, and it doesn't sound like she has the commitment to see this through.
2006-10-18 02:16:03 · answer #3 · answered by stienbabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she leave you for good or just for a visit? If you take her back she will just keep doing the same thing. How about encouraging her to get a job so she will have something to keep her in one place with you. That way she can send her mother money to come visit you guys every once in a while. She just needs to learn to tell her mother no and not feel guilty about being with you. That is really sick on her mothers part.
2006-10-18 02:15:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know how much you love her.
It really cannot be good for the child knowing her mom doesn't give a rats as$ about her enough to be with her.
She was obviously not ready for marriage.
Divorce her and start over with your life with your child. You don't need her in and out forever. Then again I do not know much about your situation.
Could it be more than her Mom that she went back home for?
She isn't ready for a family yet.
2006-10-18 02:15:39 · answer #5 · answered by notskerd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go back to her for the sake of your daughter but you two NEED COUNSELING!!!! It'll help you guys learn how to work together and think alike... no marriage should be based on distance especially when you two have your daughter as a mutual interest. I wish you the best of luck, honestly.
2006-10-18 02:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so fight in court for the rights of seeing your baby. i meant a child. u re a father, u have rights. i don't think that taking back your wife is a good idea - she will do stuff like this all the time. good luck
2006-10-18 02:13:44 · answer #7 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no, dont take her back because of your daughter. You fight her in court and get custody, even if you cant get it, she is legally not allowed to leave state without your permission with your child. I've gone through this myself. Do whatever it takes to get your little girl, but dont give in to her
2006-10-18 02:28:27 · answer #8 · answered by Kaleigh P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me tell you something. I have a 11 year old and her father don't do nothing. He pays childsupport but calls once yearly. I married my husband being daddy to her YOU NEED TO FORGET ABOUT YOUR ISSUES!! PUT YOUR CHILD FIRST R U WILL REGRET IT WHEN SHE GET BIG! tRUST ME SHE IS PICKING UP NOW!!
PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-18 02:23:33 · answer #9 · answered by God's chosen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Children involved, always try to make it work.
2006-10-18 02:16:48 · answer #10 · answered by advicemama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋