They tell me that I should do it because I'm 17 years old.
My boyfriend says its time to have sex.
And when I hear my friends talking about it,I just don't know...
What if they are right?
I'm under a lot of pressure and I'm not sure wether I do it or not.
Please help me!
2006-10-18 02:06:06 · 33 answers · asked by Mimmy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Please don't fold under that pressure if it's not right for you. If you're not ready to have sex, then you don't have to have sex. If your friends and boyfriend can't accept and honor your decision, they may not be the best friends for you. It seems somewhat harsh, but a true friend doesn't force you to have sex nor do they act like you're any worse because you choose not to.
2006-10-18 02:10:56 · answer #1 · answered by Joy M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK this is what you tell them... when im ready I'll know..your friends and boyfriend are playing a game of peer pressure on you.. and the way you deal with this is being honest and real to your self this has nothing to do with them because only you can make desisions about your body and well being... think about this if you dont take the nessesary precausions to do this and you end up pregnant how many of your friends are going to be there to help you I can almost guaranteed that after a baby shower and some gifts..you are going to be really alone on this one because the way things are hon you be lucky if your boyfriend sticks around for you.. So in this type of thing you tell everybody to ***** offf and when you are ready when you research on safety and consequences, then when your mind body and soul are ready... you and your boyfriend will do the deed until then CHILL and if your boyfriend cant understand that well maybe he aint the one.. usually a good guy will tell you, when you ready I'LL BE HERE... THINK ABOUT IT HUN ITS YOUR CHOICE...STAY STRONG BE A LEADER NOT A FOLLOWER... GOOD LUCK.
2006-10-18 02:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those things that you can not do until you are completely sure that you want to do it. I understand that sometimes it is hard to resist the peer pressure but believe me when you are ready you will know. If you go about this without being ready you will ruin the wonderful experience that it is. I have seen no rule saying that you need to have sex at 17, you are still very young and inexperienced. If you do not feel ready then please wait because if you don't you will regret it the rest of your life. Take all the time you need there is no rush, you have a whole life ahead of you.
2006-10-18 02:15:48 · answer #3 · answered by andia2amat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course your boyfriend wants sex with you, but it is your decision, nobody else's. You are still young, and should wait for a while until you are certain the guy you share this great gift with is the right one for you. If you really like the guy you are with and he respects you, he will understand and support your decision; and certainly NOT try to make you feel bad. Remember that once you have sex with your boyfriend he might move on anyway. Do what you think is right, and when the time comes be safe and take precautions. I'm sure you dont want to become pregnant.
2006-10-18 02:14:34 · answer #4 · answered by marcus p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh No! Don't have sex at your age. It would only get you in trouble. Honey wait. Don't let anyone pressure you into sex. If they were your true friend they would respect even more for not having sex. Cause they done it. Doesn't mean you have to do it. There are alot of std out there. Your boyfriend should respect you for that. Men always have that on their mind all the time. Who to say once you give in He might dump you. alot guys would take a girl virginity and ditch once they get. Yes they can tell you i will never leave you. Or tell you i love you. Just to get into your pants. So don't do it..
2006-10-18 02:14:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should only do it when you are ready to take that step!
Its a big step to take and you should make sure both you and your partner are able to handle any consequences that come along with having sex.
Not to mention STDs and pregnancy, you will have an emotional tie to that person for the rest of your life.
Only you will know when you are mature enough to handle a big step in your life.
Don't fall under the pressure because other people don't know what's right for you like you know what's right for you!
Good luck and BE SAFE!
2006-10-18 02:11:13 · answer #6 · answered by Older Sister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though we are leaving in the technology era means a lot of books films and sex education in every corner, in may opinion 17 years old is very young, of course it is very hot but is dangerous. At this time many young esters specially girls have a lot of problems concerning at early age starting sex with out full knowledge. First of all sex is only permitted to those who are married, otherwise, it is a sort of being prostitute. You should have be as a b/f and G/f at first. So, my dear it is better to wait. It helps you from danger.
2006-10-18 02:23:45 · answer #7 · answered by Azieb A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not sure then dont. Like most things in life you should listen to that little voice inside you and yours is screaming no. If in doubt dont is my motto. When you know something is right for you then you will have no doubts about it, whether it is a job or a man or sex. It's your body and you have to live with the consequences so tell everyone including your boyfriend to get off your back.
2006-10-18 02:10:00 · answer #8 · answered by dragonrider707 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you are not ready.If you were ready you would have done it by now.Dont let anybody pressure you.Its not 'cool' to have sex especially if you 17. One day you will laugh at them. If you not ready you not ready dont let them get to you. And if your boyfriend really loves you he will wait until you ready.Sex is not a big thing, yes you need it in your relationship when you older, but not when you still so young.Dont do it. If you do you are going to regret it one day. I really hope you make the right decision, its not nice if you live with regret.
2006-10-18 02:12:24 · answer #9 · answered by Lady_Y 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to listen to anyone...only when you feel ready, and when the time is right for you...you are still so young...you do not have to be pressurized by pier pressure, you don't have to follow everyone else because they are doing it...to have sex with someone should be the ultimate expression of how you both feel, it wont be no where special if you go into it half heartily, and only because your friends are doing it.
2006-10-18 02:13:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋