i have been to h*** and back with him and i am suffering because of it now. the last time i thought he was cheating was in may around the time of my hysterectomy because he closed the bank accounts kept all the money and wouldnt let me pay bills. now he is at it again. i think. he closed the accounts again but opened one that he thought i would find out about. he has reversed all bill pays that were in my name so none of my bills get paid. he has been screaming for me to hurry up and die and does nothing but tell me how much i screwed up and he hates me. i know i need to leave so i got an apartment but cant move in because hubby took back all payments and i have to come into a room begging him to pay it and he refuses. now i have overdrafts and NSF fees and he dont care. he hade me thrown in jail and says that if i wont leave then he will have me taken away so he can go in peace. what do i do????
2006-10-18 02:01:35 · 12 answers · asked by anginfla 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The best medicine for you is time away from HIM! Your too good for him! Find somebody else who appreciates you..and get a good lawyer!!!!
2006-10-18 02:04:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY are you still with him?
You need to answer that question for yourself!
Sugar...life is too short for this kind of misery!
YOUR general peace-of-mind should be more valuable to you than anyone or anything else!
If I were you, I would take whatever I could and leave him TODAY!
Once you are living your life separate and apart from him, DO NOT let him back into your life!
''Cause if you do, you will find yourself in the same misery as before and it won't get any better!
My final 10-pieces of advice to you:
1...DO NOT look back at him!
Leave him in your rear-view mirror!
2...DO NOT give in to the urge to give him a piece of your mind!
3...DO NOT argue with him!
4...KEEP you mouth closed.
BE a woman of very few words!
Never let him know what you are thinking!
5...LEAVE HIM!
6...DO NOT GET INTO THE HABIT OF TAKING A SH*T AND STEPPING BACK IN IT!
7...Think about it: ONCE YOU THROW SOMETHING IN THE GARBAGE, DO YOU USUALLY GO BACK AND TRY TO RETRIEVE IT?
8...PUT ON your big-girl panties and deal with him on YOUR terms!
9...LEAVE HIM!
10...LEAVE HIM and DO NOT LOOK BACK!
2006-10-18 09:25:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you need to go as quick as you can to a shelter for abused women. They can help you get back on your feet, or at least get a roof over your head while you get things worked out. IF you are ill and he is pulling this crap they will help you with other things that you might need as well such as medical care, medications and counseling. YOU dont have to go through life with someone who if they told you they wished you would hurry up and die cares nothing about you what so ever.
2006-10-18 09:06:32 · answer #3 · answered by kimmi_35 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may not be cheating, but he is definitely crazy!! Honey, you need to get out of there before he kills you(grief and stress). Are you able to work? If not, do you receive some kind of help? Nobody deserves to live like that. You can do bad all by yourself. I hope it works out for you!!! Good Luck
2006-10-18 10:09:38 · answer #4 · answered by NIKKI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a good lawyer and private detective and take him for all he has, because he shoukd have remember its cheaper to keep her plus u are entitled to half u r is wife and sue the mistriss if there is one because she help break you all up. And he will have to take care of u if he has been doing so since u all were married.
2006-10-18 09:52:54 · answer #5 · answered by Coco Bunny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't cheating but he hates your guts, or rather is repulsed by you.
Tell me, why are you still with him? Do you enjoy being abused? Leave and leave now. Call the police and hire a lawyer to back your case in court.
2006-10-18 09:25:17 · answer #6 · answered by Banana Pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave the guy....obviously he doesnt wanna be with you, so why continue it. The financial issues will pass, so let that be the least of your worries. Just get yourself straight, to hell with him! Live your life and be happy.....I guarantee you will find someone who will appreciate and love you for you.
Remember, the one who truly loves you will not see your faults as flaws, but as the things that make you, you !!!!
2006-10-18 09:09:51 · answer #7 · answered by Falling to pieces 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get OUT of the relationship quickly!!!!!! Get a job and take care of yourself and don't be dependent on a man ever again.
2006-10-18 09:32:32 · answer #8 · answered by THOM K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer and get half...this is SO ridculous, take that jerk to court and tape what he says to you so you can sue him for that too...seriously, its half your money and in a divorce youll get that and then wash your hands of him, he sounds li ke a psyco path and he may get violent.
2006-10-18 12:59:57 · answer #9 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety-
that is not even love! your worried about him cheating, that sounds like the least of your worries..... you should be afraid for your life with this guy. get out fast take what whatever you can pack in 1 shot and run fast ....!!!!!!
2006-10-18 09:30:52 · answer #10 · answered by A Proud Marine's Daughter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋