What type of friend would you allow to be a god mother to your baby?

Answer 1

I am actually in this dilemma right now. Seeing as how I am a young mom and most of my friends are my age...I feel weird letting them be the godmother of my child. Kind of hypocritical, I know, but I definitely think that I am more mature than most of my friends (I have always wanted a child, they, however have always said it would be a long time til they wanted one)

And the only family that I have that doesnt already have a ton of kids is an aunt that I am extremely close to,but again, definitely not mother material.

I have had a lot of my friends, and even my aunt say that they would like to be godmother, but I dont know. I need someone who I know would put my child first ahead of them, and I am not sure how many of my friends are selfless enough to do that.

I guess what you and I should do, is think about how the person will be in the future, not necessarily right now.

And the godfather? That's even harder, lol. If I thought my girlfriends were immature (I guess I should stop saying that word, I dont have immature friends, I have friends that like to party. I guess I should say that. I was never much into their partying scene and their all about it, so that is why I am having a hard time)

I think I might just ask one of my sisters, but the thing is, one already has four kids and the other has one...and they both live states away. And I dont want to hurt ones feelings by asking one.

I think Im just rambling now, but good luck anyways.

Answer 2

If you have a choice of choosing someone within the family or the baby's blood line that's what I would do. I think keeping it in the family is a safe way to go. Friends may come and go but family will always be there. Unless you have a best friend that you have know for years and has been there for everything - and if that was the case I don't think you would be asking this question. Go with your gut and make sure that you can guarantee that the person that you choose will be someone with the same beliefs as you and will always be there for your child.

Answer 3

I will not state the obvious which you already know....what the purpose of God parent is.....You have been informed 20 times already of that....lol.

What I will say is that a married stable couple are best. Pick people who have been married a while...not 6 months...and who have their krap together. You want them to be able to give your baby/child a really good life should the need be.

They have to be willing to do it too. Make sure to gauge their reaction when you ask them. Really look in their eyes and read their real feeeliongs. Some people accept this responsibility out of a feeling of obligation and then if they are needed they aren't there. And that is no fair.

Be sure that you have a will stating what you want done with your child in the event that you are unable to care for him/her too because just because you say "Tammy and Tommy you are my childs Godparents" doesn't mean that the courts will side with them and not your sister or a family member if they fight for rights. You have to make what you want known. Good luck with your decision!!!

Answer 4

I think the person should be someone you would trust with your life, or at least with your child's life. The roll of GodMother is supposed to be someone who will be there for your child if you can not be. Someone to help and support your child with life and religion. It is my opinion that too many people do not take this role seriously when they choose or agree to be a God Parent. I know alot of people who have chosen a sibling because they think that's the right thing to do and yet these people do nothing with the roles they have been given. It seems hypocritical to me to go through the ritual with no intention of following through. Good luck with your choosing and don't let anyone pressure you into choosing someone you are not comfortable with.

Answer 5

Someone that is in a loving stable commited marriage. Also someone that my child feels comfortable with and who feels comfortable with my child and has the same or a similiar parenting philosophy as my husband and I have. Basically someone who would raise my baby the way my husband and I would if G-d forbid something happened to us.

Answer 6

Well it also depends on your religion- I know as a Catholic the godparents have to be a Confirmed practicing Catholic and usually need a letter from their Church stating they are.

The point of a godparent is if something happens to you, the godparent will take the child to church and make sure the child is being brought up as a practicing Christian.

Answer 7

It would have to be someone that was not only close, but also knew about God. My best friend is my son's godmother and my aunt is my daughter's. My best friend and I have been close for 13 years, so I didnt even consider anyone else. I know that she will look out for my kids if anything happens to me.

Answer 8

a friend who is always willing to take on such a responsibility. one that you know would be able to take care of your child the way you would want them to be taken care of. they have to have their head on straight and know what they are going to do in life an they have to know that the cild comes first for a while especially if the situation has you out of the picture. it is lways a good idea for you to take the child around the person you are going to leave the child with. they need to feel comfortable around the person and not be afraid to be be with them. hope this helps!!! holly

Answer 9

Someone that you trust but not only that is caring and has some kind of motherly instinct. MAybe family or a best friend.

Answer 10

The person you ask to be a God parent should be somebody you would trust to care for your child if you couldn't......Someone that could take over parenting for you.