I started dating this guy 3 weeks ago. When it is just the two of us everything is great. He is so interesting and we have good talks. As soon as we go out with other people he acts like a child. He is so embarassing. He talks with his mouth full, talks loud in restaurants and talks bad about other people...like calling someone ugly or fat. I am so turned off by him acting that way. I confronted him the other night while we were out and he said that I have to accept him for who he is. I like the guy that acts his age. What do I do?
2006-10-18 01:54:29 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
People tend to act more like themself when they are around their friends. Especially 3 weeks in to dating while you are in the "impression" phase. Looks like you have an immature dude...toss him and find someone who is mature.
2006-10-18 02:00:08 · answer #1 · answered by jaylynn_tx 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I married my husband two years ago and he still does REALLY annoying and childish things that make me crazy... and they are seriously enough to make me wonder what the heck I was thinking! Mine does things like farting REALLY loud and not just at home, hiding snacks from the kids (mine from a previous marriage) and lots of other stupid things. I know I am not perfect either but I guess I've resigned myself to the fact that all men are gross and poorly mannered at least occasionally, and since my husband is loving and selfless and never treats anyone badly, its the lesser evil in some way. God knows I did much much worse in my first marriage as far as mate selection...
Good luck... but if it bothers you that much and he is beligerent about being a pig, dump him before your lives get too entangled and its a lot more painful to let it go. There ARE gentlemen out there.
2006-10-18 09:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't settle. You may really like him, a lot, but you're never going to want to take him out in public. Is that really what you want: a shut in boyfriend/husband?
He's prob so well behaved with you because he knows he has to be. Thats what dating is: showing off our best side to the one we're interested him. Just be happy that you know about the other side of him now before its too late. Now you have time to decide if thats what you're really ready to cope with.
2006-10-18 08:59:26 · answer #3 · answered by Michael T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
so i don't understand - he doesn't eat when u re just 2 of u? or doesn't talk with u? or he seems to act and talk different then? i agree with him - u have to accept him as he is. i can't believe that he ia acting different when u re together or with other people. u re judging him when u re not alone. i guess if u want a guy who acts his age u should go and find one. it would mean forget that one
2006-10-18 08:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find someone that is gonna act their age all the time
2006-10-18 08:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by mag 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a man that you are comfortable with in and out of public if thats how he is and is not willing to adjust then hasta la vista baby
2006-10-18 09:01:11 · answer #6 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try talk talk to him but make sure it si a serious talk between you and him.tell him what you dont like about him.even though he said to accept him with the way he is,tell him you totally dont like it.make something that will change his mind...
2006-10-18 09:07:55 · answer #7 · answered by farrera 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone else. plain and simple.
you need someone who acts his age, not his shoe size.
girl, you deserve much better
2006-10-18 09:02:47 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES lies.ITS a little thing but i get turned off with lies
2006-10-18 08:57:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i aM TURNED OFF EVERY TIME MY HUSBAND EATS. HE USES HIS FINGERS TO PUSH HIS FOOD ONTO HIS FORK. IT DRIVES ME BATTY. I GIVE HIM A KNIFE OR A SPOON, AND HE IS DOES IT, BETTER YET, HIS MOTHER DOES IT TOO.
2006-10-18 09:04:32 · answer #10 · answered by suddenlymommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋