I want to do it and I am going to do it regardless because I love him. I am just wondering what some other people have done and think....
2006-10-18 01:45:21 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Time is not a question for marriage. In fact in arranged marriages love starts only after getting married. The stability / responsibility of marriage depends upon the elders who have consented and performed the marriage. In the case of love marriage there is nobody else is responsible for the stability of the marriage except the two lovers. Here if the two have considered their marriage from all angles like the elders in the arranged marriage which is based on the living styles of each person. There eating habits, their social mixup etc etc and after that both of them agree to marry then there will not be any problem. That is the reason some lovers take a long time to get married and others take very short time in getting married. Therefore in a nutshell I would say that both of you first commit yourself that you will stay married inspite of all the hurdles which you anticipated or unanticipated then it ok get married immediately. Best of luck.
2006-10-18 02:05:48 · answer #1 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am engaged and have been for almost 3 years., but we have lived together since the start of our engagement.
We have been dating a total of 6 years now.
I have been divorced 1X already so I am in no hurry to get married again.
However, I do not think there is a set period of time one should wait to get married. That is a decision to be made on an individual basis.
If you love him and want to raise a family, do get married before you move in 2-gether. If I could do it over again I would have gotten married prior to our sharing a household.
Make sure you know your future partner well and that he really can make you happy.
I'd say that with my current partner, I knew after we had been dating for 2 years that I could be with him for the rest of my life.
2006-10-18 09:01:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be financially and emotionally ready. I also believe that you should know someone 18 to 24 months minimum within the confines of a committed relationship before considering marriage.
I know that will upset a lot of the "if it feels good...do it" types, but you are supposed to be making a commitment in marriage for the rest of your life. How does waiting a few months or so weigh in against the next 60 to 80 years?
2006-10-18 09:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, a couple should wait until they both have no doubt. Also, wait until the "honeymoon period" (that's usually the first three to six months) of a new relationship has worn off so you aren't too blinded to see the person for who they really are - good and bad. If you're still in love with this person and accept them for who they are, then go for it!! By the way, congrats!!
2006-10-18 09:02:23 · answer #4 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how long you had known him, or how long you had been dating...please get to KNOW this person..I'm saying a minimum of 2 years before you get married....TALK to them, not just go places with them...really know this person inside and out before you marry. Good luck. Also...you never mentioned how old either one of you are.
2006-10-18 08:49:21 · answer #5 · answered by trivia buff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would jus make sure that you know all aspects of his personality... and it sounds like you do. NEVER let someone tell you that you should wait a specific time. You know yourself best and know whether or not he is the one for you. If deep, down inside you are leary then take some more time to see if he's the one for you.
2006-10-18 08:48:56 · answer #6 · answered by Michael T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only do it when you know it's the right time.
It takes many patience, love and understanding to make a marriage work, so be sure your ready to put in the hours to make it a healthy relationship.
2006-10-18 08:49:48 · answer #7 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating are like shoes, Try the on and wear them for a while, every body has a favorite pair they cant get rid of. well if it fits feels good and they last. thats it. Sounds weird but its a great example.
2006-10-18 08:50:48 · answer #8 · answered by BigWally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as it takes for you to get to know each other. The wait depends on you.
2006-10-18 08:48:55 · answer #9 · answered by THOM K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends completley on the people!!
there aint a line that everyone reaches to when they HAVE to get married, whenever feels more comfortable for the pair of you!
Congratulations in advance *wink*
xXx
2006-10-18 08:47:34 · answer #10 · answered by Fader's Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋