A sequel to i need help.... please enlighten me...?

Question

I know i really sound confused but i feel thats it....im a confused soul....i know that having sexual relationship with guys other than your husband is a SIN with a capital S....but i dont know why i just cant say no when somebody asks me out....not that i need it...but i just feel that nothing will change if i say yes...im still a sinner...and one thing i noticed also is a get a certain fascination with doing it with someone with a brusque personality....i know im not giving my children a very good example with what im doing....but honestly im trying my best to be a really good mother to them and they accept that...they cant find flaws with my role as a mother coz i really love them so much...and my husband also doesnt have even a hint that im cheating him., i still perform my duties as a wife..but im really confused...i dont feel any affection with all these guys....and i dont also feel hurt if they dont call me after we did "it"...am i demon possesed or what...please help....

Answer 1

I'm sorry to say this, but you need to go to counseling immediately, before you bring your husband something he can't get rid of. Honestly something is lacking in your love life,and you are going out to find it, its not abnormal because you aren't the only person out there committing adultery, but some of the reasons is that they are not satisfied at home. You probably thinking that you are but if you think really hard about it, it is definitely something lacking, maybe in you guys sex life, you might want to start there. You really need to start thinking about what you want, and not everybody else. I don't really know you, but sometimes people are overwhelmed with pleasing everyone else and forget about themselves, this can also be a reason for you to get that temporary fix of attention. There are a lot of reasons why you are committing such acts, but there is nothing wrong with you, you just need to analyze your situation, and make sure you are where you want to be.

Answer 2

So you feel is dont do it your still a sinner?? Its not a sin to be tempted, if you read your bible you would know that Jesus was also tempted, but when you give in is when your actually sinner. I was in your place once. I had this guy that I seen on the side for 10 months and I felt nothing for him, it was just sex. I did all my duties as a house wife and mother to while still living this other life. You might think its not affecting your home life, but im sure it is. I dont think your demon possesed I just think that your letting satan have victory over you. We're all sinners and the only way we can change is by asking Jesus Christ into our hearts. You just come as you are and God will put the need to change in your heart and then one day you'll be asked out and you'll say no and feel so good about yourself. You can't possibly be happy with yourself being this way. You need to think about what if your husband did find out. Is it worth the hurt you'll cause and possibly a divorce. Then everyone will look at you and you'll be a cheater in everyones eyes and a bad mother and wife for breaking up your family. Can you imagine how your kids would look at you then if they knew daddy left because mommy couldnt say no. Pray about this and let God lead you

Answer 3

Rather than empathsize or condemn I have only this to say. You don't seem to be an idiot. Its quite apparent you have a good head on your shoulders and have done well in life and have a family. But you're cognizant of your problem and you can admit this.
Its best you either work hard at self control and tackle this on your own or seek some assistance with this. Preferably without tipping off your spouse, which I'm sure is what you don't wish to do.
It sounds as though you're a nymphomanic. Well....now this is funny. If a woman wants to constantly have sex than she's a strumpet or worse. A guy who is the same way is either "horny" or its accepted because "that's just men". Gotta love those double standards.
Work on it honey. If you can accept the fact you know it's a problem then that's more than half the battle. Good luck.

Answer 4

One of two things. You REALLY crave attention or your a sex addict.
Being a good mother takes more than just loving your kids. That's the easy part. Being a good mother is thinking of them first. Putting their need for a stable loving home with your husband should be your first priority. Instead it's having sex with strange men. That doesn't make for a good mom, so stop rationalizing what you're doing and use your brain. You obviously know what you are doing is wrong, you're so self absorbed though, that you think as long as nobody knows about it it's not that bad. What happens if you get pregnant? Or you get herpes, or worse AIDS. Who's it hurting then? I'll tell you . It's hurting your entire family. Grow up and stop acting like some dog in heat and start acting like the wife and mother you vowed to be.

Answer 5

If your really serious that you want to stop, that's great you've made the first step to realize you have a problem and you want a solution.
Begin everyday with the prayer to God to take away this addiction. And pray that God would give you the desire for only your husband. Everytime you have a attraction to a man, rebuke it right then. Do not give yourself opportunities to be in situations that would make you vunerable. Billy Graham never would counsel a women with his office door closed and if it was after hours he always asked his secretary to stay. He never took car rides with a women other than his wife alone (or daughter I'm sure) If your serious call it for what it is and take control, no you can not take control, but God can. Pray for you to allow God to take control and pray for God to give you the craving and desire to worship and praise Him as you crave to be with other men. Pour yourself into bible study. Beth Moore of Living Proof Ministries has multiple bible studies, Kay Arthur of Precept Ministries and dozens more. Your heart is looking to be filled, fill it with God. He is the only thing that will fill your craving. Feel free to contact me on my 360blog

Answer 6

You need help.
You have no right being like that, you know you have a problem but yet do nothing to fix it.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
Stop pretending you are not hurting anyone but yourself.
If you have time to f*ck around then you have time to seek help.
You have already admitted that you have a problem now get it fixed & stop with the excusses.

Answer 7

Honey you sound late a later version of me, I am married and fight the same things, but won't have sex. I flirt , and I am attracted to a somewhat mean guy, but I hope to God I never go as far as you have. You need help, because if you don't stop you will lose your husband and everything you hold dear.

Answer 8

you are truly confused but know God is not a confusing God. that is what the woed says. now you said you are a sinner so that is out of the way. understand that you can't be in sin and have fellowship with god. you r only "God, i am so sorry and Lord jesus forgive me away from conquering your sexual addiction. i will pray for you and you pray for yourself o k

Answer 9

well as a child of a mother who fooled around on her husband in marriage let me explain how i thought as that child. My mother always taught us to be honest, truthful and straight forward. At the age of 12 i caught her in bed with the man who became the biological father of my younger sister. when she saw me she said to her lover be quiet he will go back to sleep and i will pretend it never happened. if he asks about it i will call him a liar. i did and she did call me a liar. from that time point on my relationship was changed with my family for ever. to protect and hide what she had done, she had to continue her facade, and it effected my relationship with the rest of my brother and sisters. as the child i saw her putting her own need for self satisfaction ahead of her relationship with my father, and with me. its something that has affected me all my life. and to this day it effects my relationship with all my family. i think you really need to consider what message your conduct is leaving in the eyes of your children, because children learn more from our conduct then from our teachings by mouth

Answer 10

i dont want to wast anyones time...your a slut quit trying to get people to feel sorry for you. do your husband a favore and leave him he deserves a real women with self asteem and strength after being with a whore like you. and you better make sure to tell him he needs tested because you couldn't keep your nasty legs shut