2006-10-18 01:03:49 · 19 answers · asked by donna h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Most men would love their women to initiate more. It is as important as it is for you to know he thinks you're beautiful.
2006-10-18 01:07:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every man is different. But also, every man is ready, at all times. If he's a manly-man, that is. I really had the hots for my second, and last, wife, and I sometimes had trouble getting through the afternoon at work. But hey, we made music together. A suggestion: maybe you should call him right after lunch and ask him how his day is going. If he's relatively stress-free to that point, drop a hint. Nice and nasty hint. If he's having a bad day, offer him a massage when he gets home. Either way, same result. But if the man wants to be seduced, I dunno. At least to me, it sounds a bit off-key. I always liked to be assertive, take what belongs to me and nobody else, mine and mine alone. Therein lies that special form of eroticism found only in a real, formal, vows-taken marriage. Not a committed relationship, or boyfriend-girlfriend, or living together. Not nearly as intense as a real gold band marriage. As far as who initiates what and when, I suppose it doesn't really matter, but if you really stop and think about it, a woman spends one heck of a lot more time with her appearance than does a man. Us guys have it pretty simple in that area. So if a woman spends all that time and energy and expense getting ready, the guy better notice. It works only one way. Attention goes from the guy to the woman. So that is the direction of pursuit. Even after a marriage of several decades. Woman wants to be admired after all that effort. So if she's all dolled up in something filmy and smells good, I'm not waiting around for her to make still another move. I'm gonna start grabbing. Nah, if you're there and ready, that's plenty of "initiation" for me. Don't need no more. We're gettin' jiggy, right now. ('Course, if the Steelers are on the tube...hmmm...tough choice...) Just kidding!!!
2006-10-18 01:28:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had this problem in the past. You might be surprised, if he wants you to initiate it more, he is just telling you that he is getting tired of being the one to initiate it all the time. Believe it or not, we men do think, "well, maybe she won't respond", or "Maybe she isn't into it tonight", but if the woman initiates at times, instead of leaving it up to the man all the time, that stress( if you want to call it that) isn't there, and sometimes the love making can take on a whole new theme....with the woman as the aggressor.
2006-10-18 01:12:13 · answer #3 · answered by meycir 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's important to most men and for some it's critical. And it's not just the sex. It's about being wanted/needed. Even the illusion of being wanted/needed in that way helps a man cope with life. Initiating sex with your husband tells him, in an unmistakeable way, that you love him. Words, hugs, notes...all of that stuff is nice, but doesn't substitute for sex.
I think it's true that in general men need sex (and need to be desired) to feel loved, while women need to feel loved and appreciated to want sex. It requires a little compromise on both sides.
2006-10-18 01:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by rb42redsuns 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man feel that they are more in demand and its not a one way road only, him asking you all the time, he wants to feel wanted and also to feel that you think he is sexy.
Normally a man wants more sex than a woman, women dont show it, men do. Give the man what he wants girl and both be happy, use protection.
2006-10-18 01:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by ashok kumar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a man but I can say that men truly love for a woman to initiate sex and I love to myself with my fiance. It's a turn on for men because you can be very creative with how you seduce your husband. I am sure you have fantasies of things you'd like to do right? Girrrrrrrrl let me tell you, let me tell you to try it and see how things go.
2006-10-18 05:24:35 · answer #6 · answered by Tanya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband told me that when I initiate sex it makes him feel wanted and that men what to feel wanted the same way women want to feel wanted. He also said that most men like an aggressive women. Why should he always have to initiate sex, maybe he doesn't want to appear like a horny toad. He wants to know that sometimes you want it just as much as he.
2006-10-18 01:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by juicie813 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very important as it is to breathe or eat to them,no man wants a cold woman next to him,they want someone to make them feel like they are desirable and wanted,just like us girls we like that too.
try playing games with him and dressing up for bed with sexy little things and just get in to the sex thang cause right now is what your marriage needs,a little whip cream for good tastin' some candles something exicting for your man...remember this is important to him and if he is a caring husband a good provider then he deserves it.. dont make him curious about what is out there.... get a little freeky he will show you by being all up on you that he appreciated...good luck..or in your case good lick LOL...
2006-10-18 01:20:35 · answer #8 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just as a woman wants to feel wanted, so does a man. When you start things out, it sends that message. Have fun
2006-10-18 01:10:10 · answer #9 · answered by gary t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently it is important to your husband, and if it is important to him then that is all you should really be concerned with, For me this would be a signal that a woman really desired me
2006-10-18 03:47:02 · answer #10 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋