i'm 25 and need to sort my life out, any advice?

Question

ok i left high school in 1997 all i wanted woz to earn some money, so got a job as an office junior that has progressed into admin assist and then customer service, as anyone else as an admin worker will tell u the pay is poor, i get bout £200 per wk for a 40 hour week i'm always asked by girls why havent u got a girlfriend, i'm told im good looking but i dont even bother asking girls out cos i couldnt afford to treat em or take them anywhere, and cos i cant afford my own place i'm still with mum n dad.....that aint gonna go down well.
so i've woke up know i need to do somethin but what, bear in mind i'm not the brightest but hardworkin n willing to learn, maybe i should just marry a rich girl any offers...lol no seriosley any advice i've been looking in the paper at jobs and i'm gettin no where.

Answer 1

Don't be so hung up on the money thing. Being honest and hardwork is a huge plus these days. What do you fancy doing? Have you thought about doing something in IT with the right training you can earn a good wage. I think the key for you is not to beat yourself up. Living at home is no big deal and most girls wouldn't give it a second thought. Try looking at the computeach website for the IT thing and good luck.

Answer 2

i started exactly the same way and im now 25 and earning 25k and a manager from sheer perseverance and hard work.
i used to work in customer service and was being paid alot more than that, about £1200.00 per month.
Why dont you train as something such as a plumber or something else or get on some courses get It'd up and apply for lots of jobs. Amend your CV and get it out there. There are tonnes of jobs out there, and then you can get a GF and more money. And £200.00 a week is still £800.00 per month possibly more and i dont have that much to spend a month after rent etc and bills i guess you dont pay much at home so where is all your money going, im sure you have some money to go out so why not take a lady out. times have changed women dont always expect the man to pay for everything! dinner maybe but drinks usually round by round! good luck!

Answer 3

Hey dude, Don't sweat it too much, the fact that you're 25, and seriously committed to living a good, productive life, with a work ethic is a good start. That being said, you need to figure out, for yourself, what it is that you really want. Do you really want a higher paying job? Than off to Uni or a technical school for you, don't let family problems get in your way. Do you really want your own apartment? Get a roomate, you make enough money to afford something cheap with a roomate. Do you really want to be a police officer? Then start volunteering on your off hours with the local police force, and start making connections. Keep working, figure out what you really want, and set concrete goals. Good Luck! Oh, and give your parents a big hug for being so supportive of you.

Answer 4

It sounds like you are in an excellent position to re-train in something or get an apprenticeship, even if the money is initially poor it will get better, and i'm sure your parents will understand you having to pay less rent for a while if it is for your future.
Try an engineering apprenticeship or breaking into the construction field. The other option is trying to get a sales position - of course this vastly depends on your personality and if you are confident enough to cold call or approach strangers. Becoming a sales negotiator for an estate agency is often entry level, and some recruitment agencies will look at personality and not qualifications for their staff. Both paying a basic which should exceed what you are currently on + commision and with good prospects. Good luck.

Answer 5

First things first, not all women are concerned by how rich men are. Sure gifts and meals are nice but they're not the most important thing. And plenty of people live with their parents these days because of the ridiculous house prices!!! So most girls are probably gonna still be living at home too.
Next if you want to get a better job earn more money etc... then you first need to think about what you might actually enjoy doing. What's the point in spending so much of your life in a job you don't like!! Next try to think about your talents/skills and what experience you have. (sometimes it's easier for someone else to see these things than you).
If you can identify one area you'd like to work in then investigate how to get into it. For example, if you wanted to work in tv or something, radio is actually a good place to start for experience.
Don't rush into anything. It might take a leap of faith to actually get out there and try something new. Good luck!!!

Answer 6

I was exactly the same as you, left school, dead end job and got to the point in thinking where is my life going cos if i carry on doing this job day in day out i will be as interesting as a train spotter!!! And it made me feel horrible.

So now i have gone to college and trained in an industry in what i like, meeting new people and going to new places and most of all i feel that i have an existance and the money is soooooooooo much better. Now im looking into starting my own business in Event Management.

All i want to do is get the point accross is that if i can do it.....im sure you can....if you want it that badly. Im only 24.

Good luck and hope things improve for you!!!

Answer 7

hey! first of all u have to know, that new start is never easy... no matter how old u r... But u can do it. U know why? Just because u r ready to change something in ur life..

my advice would be to get a job and take a loan for college. U have to get education first. u cant get a good payed job without any knowledge... Maybe ur parents can help in the begining... Just u have to be sure what u do... Have a plan n live it.
My cousin started a college when she was 30.. Cause when she was a teenager, she tried to be independent, she left home, and stared working...later on she realized, taht u cant have a carrer without education.. therefore, she had a baby. It wasnt easy for her. But she did it!
so i wish u courage and luck! make urself and others be proud of you!
U know u can do it!!!!!

Answer 8

If I were in your situation, sounds like you have pretty low overhead and wouldn't be giving up a really good paying job, I would try sales of some sort. Even if it is commission only, you could afford to work your way up and be really good at what you do.

As a very wise man once told me, you have to make someone else money to make big money yourself. Fortunately, you don't have to have a flashy education to do that. I have a four year degree and part of a Master's and I'm sitting here making crappy money for someone who has been working for ten years.

It might not seem that way, but you can afford to take risks! Go for it and you'll be so glad you did.

Best of luck!

Suz

Answer 9

Oil industry is crying out for people at the moment. The preference is for a mechanical background but this isn't strictly necessary. Money is okay (well, much better than you're on at the moment).
Failing that, go on an access course at your local college, and then go to university. I didn't go until I was 26. It was great, and got a reasonably good job immediately after. You'll be poor, but you are now really, and your potential girlfriends won't expect a student to be loaded anyway. It will also get you out of your parents house!

Answer 10

I woman who thinks you are too poor, is no person to be with.

Find yourself a girl and forget your current situation. They should love you for you, NOT what you have.

Asking the job centre for career advise. But try this, ask your boss what you can do! In some places just showing interest in your work and asking "what training can I get?" will be a great start.

By the way, I used to live at home with my parents on a low paid job. Today I am married with kids in my own house, you can do it!!!! I met my girl before I got a good job.